Shift in a relationship

There has been a significant shift in the relationship with me(Taurus) and the Aqua. We've been dating around 8 or 9 months. After about 7 months, he suddenly became more open, more emotional, wanting to see me more. A big shock :p I put this down to the fact that his last 3 relationships ended after 6 months and I've passed some longevity 'test' without letting him down or some such thing.

One lesson I have been learning from him is to not take certain things he says at face value. An example. Him: 'I can't see you during the week, am too busy with work'. Me: 'Ok, that's a shame, I like spending time with you'. Result? He suddenly has time to see me in the week. Another example, Him: 'I want Friday nights to myself, to work on my own things...'. Me:'Yeah me too, I can see my mates or catch up with my own stuff'. Result? He's spent every Friday with me, except two where I had other plans.

He rings me now, out of the blue for a chat, texts me during the working day, spends all weekend with me, texts me to tell me he's out with friends or whatever else he's doing. Talks about the future in the sense of holidays and possibly moving in together. And let me look after him when he was ill.

I'm really falling for this guy, it's weird, because I know a couple of years ago I wouldn't have been mature enough to deal with him and would have freaked out in a jealous fit and pushed him away. But now it feels right, we complement each other so well. After years of being with men who were too much like me I'm now with a man who is fundamentally like me in humour, values and life style but who goes about things in a totally different way to me. That adds a spark to the relationship and opens our eyes to different ways of doing things, although we probably won't change (too stubborn, Fixed signs and all!).

He gave me a great compliment the other day, he said that I was the most intelligent person he knows 🙂 very sweet. And I think he likes my passion when I talk about a subject I care about. He's my best friend and I really hope that even if things don't work out romantically, we can still be friends because I would feel bereft without him being in my life.

Yes, I'm feeling a little loved up and sentimental :p but I've never felt so content. He feeds my need for adventure but he's also happy to spend a weekend at home doing nothing and enjoying relaxing.

So I'm hoping you'll share you're happy Aqua stories 🙂

Hi Copper-
I am a Sag female and from reading your post you put tears in my eyes! 🙂 From reading the boards and from my own Aqua expeirence I would count yourself as one of the lucky ones. It seems your Aqua has fallen head over heels for you! Good for you! An Aqua in love wants to spend his time and most of importance his mind with the one he loves, and you have both of those things!
I give you credit for your level headed responses to him (I wish I could of done that with my Aqua ex). 🙂 🙂
Keep up the good work and listen to your heart!
It should now match-HIS! 🙂

Thanks Nikki! 🙂 That's really lovely of you to say! It's just such a shock that love has kind of crept up on me with him...I can pinpoint the moment that I suddenly realised that it was heading that way for me, I felt so vulnerable. But about a week later he suddenly blurted out how he was falling in love with me and how I was the only girl for him 🙂 it nearly floored me!!!

I have Sag rising and a Gem moon so I think that helps a lot with him when he wants to go off and do something mad with me or someone else. Luckily it trumps the Taurus 'spend all your time wiht me' thing! He has his 'I want stability' side too, so it kind of balances out nicely.

My previous Aqua exes I couldn't deal with. Usually because I wanted more stability than they were willing to give when I basically demanded it. This Aqua has taught me that you can't demand, you have to earn. That sounds a really simple lesson, but for a Taurus is can be very hard ha ha!!

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Thanks Nikki! 🙂 That's really lovely of you to say! It's just such a shock that love has kind of crept up on me with him...I can pinpoint the moment that I suddenly realised that it was heading that way for me, I felt so vulnerable. But about a week later he suddenly blurted out how he was falling in love with me and how I was the only girl for him 🙂 it nearly floored me!!!

I have Sag rising and a Gem moon so I think that helps a lot with him when he wants to go off and do something mad with me or someone else. Luckily it trumps the Taurus 'spend all your time wiht me' thing! He has his 'I want stability' side too, so it kind of balances out nicely.

My previous Aqua exes I couldn't deal with. Usually because I wanted more stability than they were willing to give when I basically demanded it. This Aqua has taught me that you can't demand, you have to earn. That sounds a really simple lesson, but for a Taurus is can be very hard ha ha!!

You are so welcome Copper! I am happy that you had luck with an Aqua! Most of them (and I have experience with only one in an intimate setting, beleive me, alot of them persue me) but I do have to say your approach was refreshing. It will give me inspiration! I wish I could use your wording when handling him. It is beautiful! 🙂 🙂

That's so nice of you to say Nikki! The wording is after many years of practice. I'll give you an example. If I'm out with my friends, he wouldn't think twice of texting me all the f'ing time. I answer every time. When it came to him having an 'on the fly' lads night out I didn't hear from him for a day. I was pretty pissed off to be fair, as I;d text him and not heard anything, he only had to say he was out with the boys and I would have been like, 'great, enjoy your night!', but he didn't. Me, I would have said, 'I'm out with the girls etc etc', but I got nothing. I called him out on it and he admitted it was selfish of him to not even acknowledge me and he hasn't done it since. And I don't mean that in a 'where are you—?' kind of way, it's just, as the trust has grown, he's respecting me and letting me know he's out having a good time, and most of the time, he's asking me to come and join him which is an even better thing

It's patience and understanding that helps with an Aqua male. Not all the time obviously, but it helps!!! If I didn't allow patience to come into play we'd have split up after a month!

You are most welcome Copper! 🙂 I am happy that you and your Aqua are taking a turn in the direction that you are "meant" to be in. Keep it up! 🙂