Still puzzling...

Me and aqua are doing just fine and I'm starting to understand him. In fact, he's teaching me a few lessons about living in the moment and I'm finding it to be kinda nice. But I've still got questions, more for curiousity sake than anything. I've read that Aqua's pull away the more they like someone and I'm wondering why? As an earth sign, that makes no sense. How can the person you like know that you like them if you withdraw? Are your feelings that intense? And if someone knew in a relationship reveals part of her past, does that scare you and make you withdraw more? My curiousity is running rampant and any insight would settle it down.

Thanks!

that's why i find my man so intriguing. he is a taurus sun with an aqua moon. so he's very contradictory to himself. he's sensual and physical but he can become emotionally aloof at times. it's like his sun and moon fight to set up shop in his emotional space. he surprises me often. he will seem aloof for a couple of weeks and then all of a sudden will go direct and wax romantic like,"i hope i get to see u soon. i know who u are inside. ur beautiful and a sweetheart. i miss u." catches me off guard every time. i love that about him. he instinctively knows how to work me without playing any games. he's very genuine. it keeps me coming back for more.

i've only known one aqua that fell madly in love. it took him a couple of years to get over his ex. he tried to remain friends with her but whenever we'd all get together she would keep her distance while he acted almost desperate for her attention. i'm not even sure if he ever really did get over her come to think of it. last time i saw him was spring of last year when he turned back to using because he was so heartbroken and weak.

I'm still trying to figure this out myself and I'm a long way from accomplishing this. When a girl I like wants to get close with me, i usually distance myself from her because if i didn't then she would expect me to show more emotion than i am willing to show. I think showing my emotions makes me vulnerable, and it might screw things up with her, so i keep a distance to try to form a foundation based on friendship first, then i can show my true colors when I am comfortable with her. (it's funny how i dont know what's really going on in my head until i actually start typing it down 🙂 )

I think of it more as a screening process also. The girls that get turned off by it through the beginning parts of a relationship will generally be the same girls that will leave me later because i will always need my own space.

That being said, it's extremely hard to find a girl that will put up with the way i am. I guess i cant have my cake and eat it too..