there is hope with you aquas afterall...

I just wanted to give some hope to those of you out there who have experienced the frustration of dating an aqua!! I have been seeing an aqua male for 11 mths...we started off as FWBs...basically, because He wasn't ready for a relationship...we hung out and had fun, but my ideas of the relationship were apparently very different than his....I figured if he was hanging out with me and having fun, he would naturally take it to the next level...well that didnt happen. He was extremely closed, not very affectionate (aside from when we were intimately involved, which was amazing btw) and just emotionally stingy overall...
He ended things with me when I asked him why he didn't call me for a whole week...and told me he just didn't see it progressing any further...was brutally honest. So, we decided to be friends, I attended a wedding out of town with him I(even though all of my friends told me not to, and said he didn't deserve my time...) we didn't hook up and had the greatest time, somehow during that night he looked at me differently...he told me later that he realized he should have never ended things with me (it had been about 3 weeks between the time we ended things and than went to the wedding...but he was honest and told me that he realized he had committment issues. We stayed friends, hung out a few times..he left for vacation for 3 weeks, but texted and kept in contact with me..the moment he got back, we went out for breakfast...and that week we saw eachother 4 times...finally, last week, it happened- he kissed me and told me he couldnt' go another night without kissing me goodnight. WE talked about things, and he said he wanted to try it out, all of a sudden, all of his "relationship fears" were gone...we went out camping with his friends this weekend, and for the first time EVER he actually kissed me and held my hand in front of his friends...we're boyfriend and girlfriend...I'm scared of getting too close and dont' knwo what to make of it at times...this man who had a protective wall built up around him for almost a year has become someone I don't recognize, he's sweet and loving! So, I finally figured out what people on this site have been talking about forever, there is a gentle sweet side to aquas, and I think they do take relationships seriously when they actually decide to committ..my aqua is a bit of a traditionalist, and now that he's in it for real, he's taking his role as bf very seriously🙂 I've always felt there was something special

about him...but never knew how amazing it could truly be....so sorry for this long posting...I'm excited to see where things lead...but I know that taking things one day at a time is the best way to go, and my patience with him has paid off! I have also learned that unusual cancer was right, in the way beginning she told me that sleeping with someone doesn't get you any closer to being in a relationshipn with them...especially with an aqua...and she was right. Sex is still amazing, but it's no longer the focus between us. So, there's hope...an FWB friendship, turned to true friendship, is now a relationship with an aqua and a libra🙂

haha..thanks meth, I think those little idiosyncries are what makes aquarians so special🙂 I like that my aqua can spend hours staring at his fish tank and finds it amusing somehow...and that socially he can be a little awkward at times...I find it funny that he reads books about physics just for fun, and that he doesn't change himself for anybody...He dances like he has two left feet but still enjoys himself...he's competitive and basically good at everything he does...sports, academia- love how smart he is...and the only other aqua male I know is extremely smart as well...must be an aqua trait or something. I hate that he's a diehard republican (sorry if I've offended any of you republicans out there)...and he hates that I'm a democrat...we try not to talk about politics too much because it tends to make us both angry !! It's the only subject we can't comfortably talk about so far! But I can't talk about it with most people, so it doesn't bother me too much😉 anyways...I am drawn to those things that most people find strange about him...in fact, he told me once that he loves that I overlook some of his strange behaviors...but he's mistaken, I don't overlook them, I find them to be somewhat endearing🙂 Hopefully, we can continue to learn about eachother without insecurities or fears🙂

Hey sounds like fairytale.

sleeping with someone doesn't get you any closer to being in a relationshipn with them

I obviously don't know the history to this Sakes but I think this statement holds true regardless of the sign - it's worst if you know you wanted a relationship to begin with - not faking being cool with the situation, then thinking you can get someone to want what you want too when you want it. People do it when they're ready I think. However, if sex has happened, it's not the end of the world as it can still work out. If you wait (how long?), get in a relationship (how long is the relationship going to last?), get married (how long?)...there are no rules but to be true to yourself from the beginning.

Methyl's right though, I've been surrounded by Aquas my whole life so when I come on the Aqua boards, I just think WTF? Recently, I found myself watching an Aqua I know looking and waiting for something to amaze or wow me...just couldn't find it... 😢

See, it takes patience and time to get into an Aqua's heart....and then some to keep them there. SS, well done girl.
You guys remind me a lot of us in our early days. Just keep in there.

Thanks ladies, I know I don't write on the boards much, but I read a lot of what is posted on here...and I have to say that if I didn't have this site, I would have never understood the needs of an aquarian- and we would not have made it this far without you're shared experiences...There is an amazing glow of warmth from these aquas when they are truly open, it's quite amazing. I feel truly special when I'm with him, and I never thought it possible- how can one imagine the transformation that takes place? It has been worth waiting for, and when I think back to the last year now- I realize that my aqua was trying to tell me by his actions that he didn't want to move too fast...although he did not verbalize it, he was trying to get to know me on a different more friendship level but I wasn't listening. I never forced him to hook up, but I made myself more available to him than he even wanted! I'm happy and hope things last, but I've also been a little more reserved with the emotional stuff than he is right now, only because I don't know how to react to his kindness, it's kind of new to me😉 I have some fears and just hope to get past them so they don't interfere with our relationship. It's just that he is totally a different person! And always SO damn nice!!! haha...I'm not complaining though!