trashedbliss
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To screw or not to screw...that is the conundrum
Welcome!
Well, it has been 5 months... so, I don't think he'll consider you easy. As for his lack of dominance, he was taking ques from you - as you said, he is leaving it up to you (Mars in Libra?). In any case, if you want to, do it, if you don't want to, don't - simple as that. The outcome may be the same either way...
In any case, what are his other placements. What about yourself?
Well, it has been 5 months... so, I don't think he'll consider you easy. As for his lack of dominance, he was taking ques from you - as you said, he is leaving it up to you (Mars in Libra?). In any case, if you want to, do it, if you don't want to, don't - simple as that. The outcome may be the same either way...
In any case, what are his other placements. What about yourself?
Posted by lildol
Welcome!
Well, it has been 5 months... so, I don't think he'll consider you easy. As for his lack of dominance, he was taking ques from you - as you said, he is leaving it up to you (Mars in Libra?). In any case, if you want to, do it, if you don't want to, don't - simple as that. The outcome may be the same either way...
In any case, what are his other placements. What about yourself?
Hey Girl (?) thanks for the welcome!
His Mars is in Sag? Mine is in Cap. What does that planet control or whatever? Or "may" have control over etc? I have an Aqua rising. I dont know his. If you ever watch "Awkward Black Girl" thats just what it was like..haha...Im laughing but still dying a little on the inside. You know how you think you're so smooth and it'll all play out like some movie starring some FOX Searchlight actor...yeah that didnt happen... LOL!
Posted by trashedbliss
he HINTS that he wants to and even has said he's leaving that up to me...I dont want it to change the dynamic for the bad (as in he thinks Im easy etc etc..) but Id ultimately like to make this a more serious relationship. Advice?
Give him the assurance verbally that you're comfortable taking it to the next step by actually saying so and he'll prob respond with more assertiveness (hes being respectful / maybe even extra cautious just as you are). If a guy says he's leaving it up to you... basically, that's what he literally means. He's ready to party. Make the next move.
Next time yall are hanging out, watching movies, whatever, just step across him and "fall". stradle him and look him in the eye and lay a passionate kiss on him. See what happens.
Not being sarcastic. Take charge! He's left it up to you, by the way.
Not being sarcastic. Take charge! He's left it up to you, by the way.
Posted by lildol
Welcome!
Well, it has been 5 months... so, I don't think he'll consider you easy. As for his lack of dominance, he was taking ques from you - as you said, he is leaving it up to you (Mars in Libra?). In any case, if you want to, do it, if you don't want to, don't - simple as that. The outcome may be the same either way...
In any case, what are his other placements. What about yourself?
Uh oh Lildol. You were logical. Did I just spill a cap secret? lmao!!!! Just kiddin around.
Posted by jahthxPosted by trashedbliss
he HINTS that he wants to and even has said he's leaving that up to me...I dont want it to change the dynamic for the bad (as in he thinks Im easy etc etc..) but Id ultimately like to make this a more serious relationship. Advice?
Give him the assurance verbally that you're comfortable taking it to the next step by actually saying so and he'll prob respond with more assertiveness (hes being respectful / maybe even extra cautious just as you are). If a guy says he's leaving it up to you... basically, that's what he literally means. He's ready to party. Make the next move.click to expand
Hmmm but I'd like to be more serious with him just apprehensive thinking it'll turn more sexual ie fwb?
Posted by truecap
Next time yall are hanging out, watching movies, whatever, just step across him and "fall". stradle him and look him in the eye and lay a passionate kiss on him. See what happens.
Not being sarcastic. Take charge! He's left it up to you, by the way.
Hi true -
How would I avoid making that a fwb situation though....? Hmm
Posted by truecap
If you don't want a FWB situation, then don't sleep with him. Make him take you out several times and/or spend time with you without sex in a date type situation would be my normal advice. But it seems like you're already doing that. So, I don't think it will. Just make sure he's exclusive first.
I had told my Aqua that I didn't want to see or meet anyone else and that I thought he should know. He said he appreciated that then told me a woman had invited him for dinner and had told her he was seeing someone. I said then I guess we're on the same page. He said looks like it. That was it. Then we began a more intimate relationship after that.
Awwww!!! *girl squeal* so cute! Lol yeah.... My best friend told me to do that as well. Ask if he's sleeping with anyone or has gf or dating whatever but to ask that question makes me weary because then it'll be OUT there lol so I'm like um... It's childish but it's like when you're little "don't tell him I think he's cute unless he says he thinks I'm cute first" lol
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