Babyowl
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What do I do about this aquarius male!
Well while him introducing you to his family & friends is ALWAYS a GOOD sign, I don't necessarily understand why he'd be detached, distant & inconsistent right afterwards. That's def. a "mixed signal" kind of thing.
Sure we Aquas can become a little detached/distant when we are really starting to fall for someone BUT this eventually goes away. It's always & only TEMPORARY! If this guy is STILL acting this way then that's an indication that he might be playing games or is still emotionally attached to someone.
In other words, he might WANT to move on from the last relationship/girl he was with, BUT him actually moving on (action) might be a different story. So maybe that's why he's so wishy-washy.
If I were you, I'd take a step back. Perhaps you 2 can start talking again when he is able to dedicate enough time to you. It's NOT about you being demanding or clingy. It's about you having the RIGHT to expect a certain level/pace for communication. And if he's not down with that, then perhaps he's not right for you RIGHT NOT. Doesn't mean that things won't ever end up working out. But it's obvious that this man is PRE-OCCUPIED. Maybe you should take a step back for now instead of continuing to always be available for him when he CONVEINANTLY wants to come back, thus to make you end up hating this guy altogether! lol.
It's not fair to you that you're only confident in things with him when he's physically around. He may like you BUT does he like you ENOUGH to be fair in giving you consistency? THAT is the question. He has to like you ENOUGH!
Next time he disappears like that, call him out on it. Tell him that you don't appreciate it. Trust me, he saw all your text messages. Even though we Aquas love our space, we know there's a difference b/w needing space for a few days vs. being outright MIA/inconsistent! He wouldn't like it if you or anyone else did these things so he really can't knock you if you voice your concerns. In fact, he'll respect you MORE if you speak up, even if that means that you'd be taking the risk of pissing him off. BUT who cares! You deserve consistency.
Sure we Aquas can become a little detached/distant when we are really starting to fall for someone BUT this eventually goes away. It's always & only TEMPORARY! If this guy is STILL acting this way then that's an indication that he might be playing games or is still emotionally attached to someone.
In other words, he might WANT to move on from the last relationship/girl he was with, BUT him actually moving on (action) might be a different story. So maybe that's why he's so wishy-washy.
If I were you, I'd take a step back. Perhaps you 2 can start talking again when he is able to dedicate enough time to you. It's NOT about you being demanding or clingy. It's about you having the RIGHT to expect a certain level/pace for communication. And if he's not down with that, then perhaps he's not right for you RIGHT NOT. Doesn't mean that things won't ever end up working out. But it's obvious that this man is PRE-OCCUPIED. Maybe you should take a step back for now instead of continuing to always be available for him when he CONVEINANTLY wants to come back, thus to make you end up hating this guy altogether! lol.
It's not fair to you that you're only confident in things with him when he's physically around. He may like you BUT does he like you ENOUGH to be fair in giving you consistency? THAT is the question. He has to like you ENOUGH!
Next time he disappears like that, call him out on it. Tell him that you don't appreciate it. Trust me, he saw all your text messages. Even though we Aquas love our space, we know there's a difference b/w needing space for a few days vs. being outright MIA/inconsistent! He wouldn't like it if you or anyone else did these things so he really can't knock you if you voice your concerns. In fact, he'll respect you MORE if you speak up, even if that means that you'd be taking the risk of pissing him off. BUT who cares! You deserve consistency.
Him introducing you to the people who cares for most is a GOOD thing BUT the in betweens count too! It doesn't make sense to ignore someone for 5 days, only to call them up on the 6th day to invite them to a family gathering. That's the definition of what it means to give someone "mixed signals." And that's not cool.
Who cares that he's an Aqua. Yeah we can be a little distant/detached in the beginning BUT him being outright unreliable & him confusing you all the time is NOT cool.
If you won't call him out on it then don't expect for him to change this in your friendship. A man can tell you all the sweet things in your ear all day long. It's what he does/says when he's NOT around that really count. Sometimes, it's not what a person is willing to DO that counts. Sometimes we have to pay attention to what someone is NOT doing that gives us the true measure of the friendship. In other words, he may be seem perfect when you're actually in his presence, BUT if he's NOT calling/texting you back & even worse, NOT giving you any answers/explanation, then that's not cool. You have every right to feel the way you do.
The 1st time he ignores your texts/calls, you should stop chasing him. Trust me, he saw your text the FIRST time. He made the DECISION & CHOICE not to call you back. So if that's how he wants to roll then make sure that you start doing the same things in return so that you don't end up feeling like a fool.
I'm not implying that you should play mind games or stoop to HIS level of communication. BUT if you can't handle his pace/communication with things then either 1. Cut him off for right NOW so you won't have to worry about this or 2. Start going at the same pace as him. If not you'll continue to let him confuse you & you'll end up being turned off altogether, when in reality had you just confronted him about this OR spared yourself the trouble & just told him to call you when he's ready to dedicated MORE time to you, things could've been worked out.
Whatever you do, don't think you're crazy or in the wrong for expecting responses when you reach out to everybody. Hell, even us distant/detached Aquas expect for our texts/calls to be answered. He's not a fool. He knows exactly what he's doing. Him being all in your face when you all are together is great & all BUT it's time to step it up a notch!
It's not cool to be all in your face in person but yet disappear until it's time to see that person again. He has to like you ENOUGH
Who cares that he's an Aqua. Yeah we can be a little distant/detached in the beginning BUT him being outright unreliable & him confusing you all the time is NOT cool.
If you won't call him out on it then don't expect for him to change this in your friendship. A man can tell you all the sweet things in your ear all day long. It's what he does/says when he's NOT around that really count. Sometimes, it's not what a person is willing to DO that counts. Sometimes we have to pay attention to what someone is NOT doing that gives us the true measure of the friendship. In other words, he may be seem perfect when you're actually in his presence, BUT if he's NOT calling/texting you back & even worse, NOT giving you any answers/explanation, then that's not cool. You have every right to feel the way you do.
The 1st time he ignores your texts/calls, you should stop chasing him. Trust me, he saw your text the FIRST time. He made the DECISION & CHOICE not to call you back. So if that's how he wants to roll then make sure that you start doing the same things in return so that you don't end up feeling like a fool.
I'm not implying that you should play mind games or stoop to HIS level of communication. BUT if you can't handle his pace/communication with things then either 1. Cut him off for right NOW so you won't have to worry about this or 2. Start going at the same pace as him. If not you'll continue to let him confuse you & you'll end up being turned off altogether, when in reality had you just confronted him about this OR spared yourself the trouble & just told him to call you when he's ready to dedicated MORE time to you, things could've been worked out.
Whatever you do, don't think you're crazy or in the wrong for expecting responses when you reach out to everybody. Hell, even us distant/detached Aquas expect for our texts/calls to be answered. He's not a fool. He knows exactly what he's doing. Him being all in your face when you all are together is great & all BUT it's time to step it up a notch!
It's not cool to be all in your face in person but yet disappear until it's time to see that person again. He has to like you ENOUGH
Posted by TasteOfChaosPosted by Babyowl
I told him "I'm not into rushing things. You just got out of a relationship and what if it turns out I don't really like you anyways."
OUCH! I wouldnt text back to that either!!click to expand
Neither would I...that's kind of harsh, especially after you just meet his family!
sounds like the usual game of cat and mouse they play when feelings become involved,lol.
f I were you, I'd take a step back. Perhaps you 2 can start talking again when he is able to dedicate enough time to you. It's NOT about you being demanding or clingy. It's about you having the RIGHT to expect a certain level/pace for communication. And if he's not down with that, then perhaps he's not right for you RIGHT NOT. Doesn't mean that things won't ever end up working out. But it's obvious that this man is PRE-OCCUPIED. Maybe you should take a step back for now instead of continuing to always be available for him when he CONVEINANTLY wants to come back, thus to make you end up hating this guy altogether! lol.
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