LeoAqua
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What I've come to learn....
I've noticed, and I wonder if this is with all Aquas...— Is the need to "feel" free.
My Aqua will every so often remind me that he has girl friends, who are just friends, and that he may want to spend time with them. Funny thing is though, that he never seems to do it.
This morning we were chatting about relationships etc. and I said that men need to be with men every so often just like woman sometimes need girl company. He then replied by saying that woman also need time with other men and men with other woman. I didn't get what he was saying and looked at him strangely. He explained that whilst I'm the one who shares his bed there are things that other woman can offer that perhpas I can't and likewise with my male friends who perhaps I can talk to about things that I can't talk about with him. The example he used was that he might have a girl friend who can sit and throw back 30 Tequilas with him whilst I definately can't, but that this doesn't mean there'll be anything physical happening and that the minute it starts happening more regularly than a normal friendship with someone of the same sex say, there is a problem. He said so three times a week visiting on your own with a guy friend is a bit much because you don't even see your girlfriends that often. But having friends of the opposite sex and spending time with them without your partner is needed. I guess he's right...I have guy friends I sometimes prefer to hang out with on my own.
But he never seems to do this, even though he's always talking about it. Reminding me that it's ok for him and for me likewise. BUT like I said he's yet to do it....I'm the one who'll casually mention to him that I had a guy friend over the night before and weeks down the line he'll bring it up again in an argument (so it does bother him when I do it). So I think that perhaps for him he needs to "FEEL" that it's ok for him to do it and then perhaps it doesnt' bug him and he doesn't feel the "NEED" to do it anymore...I get the feeling the minute I object he will do it. I guess he just needs that "get outa jail free card" all the time and in having it will remain good and faithful to the relationship. Take it away and he's all over town.
Does this make sense to you Aquas??
My Aqua will every so often remind me that he has girl friends, who are just friends, and that he may want to spend time with them. Funny thing is though, that he never seems to do it.
This morning we were chatting about relationships etc. and I said that men need to be with men every so often just like woman sometimes need girl company. He then replied by saying that woman also need time with other men and men with other woman. I didn't get what he was saying and looked at him strangely. He explained that whilst I'm the one who shares his bed there are things that other woman can offer that perhpas I can't and likewise with my male friends who perhaps I can talk to about things that I can't talk about with him. The example he used was that he might have a girl friend who can sit and throw back 30 Tequilas with him whilst I definately can't, but that this doesn't mean there'll be anything physical happening and that the minute it starts happening more regularly than a normal friendship with someone of the same sex say, there is a problem. He said so three times a week visiting on your own with a guy friend is a bit much because you don't even see your girlfriends that often. But having friends of the opposite sex and spending time with them without your partner is needed. I guess he's right...I have guy friends I sometimes prefer to hang out with on my own.
But he never seems to do this, even though he's always talking about it. Reminding me that it's ok for him and for me likewise. BUT like I said he's yet to do it....I'm the one who'll casually mention to him that I had a guy friend over the night before and weeks down the line he'll bring it up again in an argument (so it does bother him when I do it). So I think that perhaps for him he needs to "FEEL" that it's ok for him to do it and then perhaps it doesnt' bug him and he doesn't feel the "NEED" to do it anymore...I get the feeling the minute I object he will do it. I guess he just needs that "get outa jail free card" all the time and in having it will remain good and faithful to the relationship. Take it away and he's all over town.
Does this make sense to you Aquas??
Who cares about what aqua?s "need" to feel!! He doesnt care about how you feel or else he wouldnt waste his breath on such shit conversation. Encourage his friendships, go too far with prompts, ha, its really funny!!!
wtf is that guy talking about?
I have to co-sign with the above statements... Does he believe this bullshit he's talking? Confusing. This guy is clearly over-thinking the game.
I have to co-sign with the above statements... Does he believe this bullshit he's talking? Confusing. This guy is clearly over-thinking the game.
Hippo you hit the nail on the head!! Sorry though, I'm not giving up my friendships for anyone - they've taken years to build. He always has the option to join, usually he declines or I arrange my night out when he has something on with the boys. He is jealous but rarely admits and I think this is part of the reason he insists on us seeing each other every day - that way there's not too much room left for anyone else, or on the nights he's said he's doing his own thing I've gone and arranged something else, which usually is with my male friends (I don't have many girl friends - I've been more hurt by the woman in my life than the men). For example, I went away on Friday and Saturday on a girls weekend. Got back Sunday and naturally we saw each other, I expected a quiet night on Monday but he initiated a get together, so come Tuesday I was desperate for a quiet night at home, but he phoned and said I've got dinner where are you?? - couldn't exactly say no. So Wednesday eve I figured this is my night, but bumped into him at the pub around the corner and he insisted I come in for one drink. Fortunately my dogs were in the car and got away with leaving after that one drink, but 9pm he rocked up on my doorstep and we ended up spending the night together. For an Aqua he is very attached and it's usually me who puts the brakes on. So where he thinks he's going to spend quality time with his female friends I don't know....
Ah but the sweetest thing...he walked in the door and I asked how his grandmother was (she recently had a heart attack and needed a bypass). He burst into tears (my Aqua is very detached but in the right circumstances will cry - I've never seen him cry in front of others but he allows the walls down for a short while in front of me from time to time). He'd called her just before going in to theatre and she was crying because she was scared and she told him she loved him, he put the phone down on her. Too much to deal with but managed a good cry alone with me...once the tears had dried up he proceeded to refer to himself as Daddy when talking to my dogs!!
Ah but the sweetest thing...he walked in the door and I asked how his grandmother was (she recently had a heart attack and needed a bypass). He burst into tears (my Aqua is very detached but in the right circumstances will cry - I've never seen him cry in front of others but he allows the walls down for a short while in front of me from time to time). He'd called her just before going in to theatre and she was crying because she was scared and she told him she loved him, he put the phone down on her. Too much to deal with but managed a good cry alone with me...once the tears had dried up he proceeded to refer to himself as Daddy when talking to my dogs!!
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My Aqua will every so often remind me that he has girl friends, who are just friends, and that he may want to spend time with them. Funny thing is though, that he never seems to do it.
This morning we were chatting about relationships etc. and I said that men need to be with men every so often just like woman sometimes need girl company. He then replied by saying that woman also need time with other men and men with other woman. I didn't get what he was saying and looked at him strangely. He explained that whilst I'm the one who shares his bed there are things that other woman can offer that perhpas I can't and likewise with my male friends who perhaps I can talk to about things that I can't talk about with him. The example he used was that he might have a girl friend who can sit and throw back 30 Tequilas with him whilst I definately can't, but that this doesn't mean there'll be anything physical happening and that the minute it starts happening more regularly than a normal friendship with someone of the same sex say, there is a problem. He said so three times a week visiting on your own with a guy friend is a bit much because you don't even see your girlfriends that often. But having friends of the opposite sex and spending time with them without your partner is needed. I guess he's right...I have guy friends I sometimes prefer to hang out with on my own.
But he never seems to do this, even though he's always talking about it. Reminding me that it's ok for him and for me likewise. BUT like I said he's yet to do it....I'm the one who'll casually mention to him that I had a guy friend over the night before and weeks down the line he'll bring it up again in an argument (so it does bother him when I do it). So I think that perhaps for him he needs to "FEEL" that it's ok for him to do it and then perhaps it doesnt' bug him and he doesn't feel the "NEED" to do it anymore...I get the feeling the minute I object he will do it. I guess he just needs that "get outa jail free card" all the time and in having it will remain good and faithful to the relationship. Take it away and he's all over town.
Does this make sense to you Aquas??