Needing to fucking vent.

I am so fucking sick and tired of this damn Aqua that I work with...Payroll called me in the office to question my timesheet so I just looked at the bottom of my timesheet where I sign MY DAMN NAME!! and I see where this fucker signed my timesheet where it says supervisor. so I say to the lady in payroll "Who gave him permission to sign my timesheet"? and she said I don't know I said how did he even get it? So then I said HE IS NOT MY SUPV. HE HAS NEVER BEEN MY SUPV!!!. My own supv don't want to sign my damn time shit because techinally I don't work under her anymore so what the fuck gives him the right to sign it. I am so fucking pissed/mad/angry/and furious right know I can't fucking see straight.

When I got hired here 5 years ago to assist with Clinical Trials and within the last year I got a promotion to IRB Regulatory which is a job that is independent I don't work under no one and technically if anyone is going to sign my timesheet it will be the DAMN DIRECTOR, I mean when I call out I call the main number where the director works I don't call him and say I am going to be out.

And to make so bad the bastard is not fucking at work today.

Why blow a gasket over something so trivial?

Did you get fired?
Did you get written up?
Is there a marr on your employee record?

So, some jerk signed his name .. and you adequately explained to HR, so why make it a mountain?

The Stinger is volatile, it appears. I mean, I could see this being a travesty IF you didn't get paid, or you got reprimanded to the point of it jeopardizing your job.


What if you find out the Director told him to do it?

Won't you feel like an ass then?

Wouldn't it be prudent to your emotional well-being to find out the facts before over-heating, and making yourself look out of control over something very, very tiny .. in the whole scheme of things?

"I am so fucking sick and tired of this damn Aqua that I work with"



It may very well be that this Aqua man is a pain in the ass, and acting like he's king .. so the fuck what?

That really has no bearing on you, or your job ... however, blowing a fucking emotional gasket over him stepping on toes WILL effect you and your job.

HR isn't going to look down their nose at him for this ... they will however, at you, if you loose your shit over something so small, for it will make you appear unbalanced, and have no composure when the chips fall.

Hopefully, you only vented here and didn't let HR see this in you.

Hope you feel better now. 🙂

PA thanks for you soothing comment 🙂

But I have been bitching about this Aqua for a while know.

Let me just lay a little history about him if I may.

I was hired to assist Clinical Trials Team I assisted them for 4 years got a promotion don't help them as much just little stuff have to much regulatory shit to do.

My supv went out sick when she was diagnosed with breast cancer, the director to him act as coordinator for our cooperative groups until she comes back. So when my supv comes back, his name was removed and hers was put back on. Well from that moment on when I would leave early or go some place this man would say to me "Did I say you can go?" and I would just look at him. I shall skip some years to just last year, when I was informed that this man was watching me walk down the hall, come in my office every morning and like 5-6 time a day and did not want shit, it freaked me out and I told my supv that I did not feel comfortable around him and I would be looking for another job. Well thanks to my supv she stressed to him that since I got this promotion I don't have time for fun and games and I am very busy..so he backed off for a day then comes in my office and begs me to give him some dap. (high five only it with your fist) and when I said no please stop he walked out my office with his head down like a fucking puppy then turns around says to me just this one time and I said and he walked away like his fucking feelings were hurt. I have also been told that he is going around telling people he is my supv and I had to get my other coworker straight about that. And to this day when I am talking to my supv and he comes in the corridor and he jumps in the conversation and says shit like..."Did you ask me? Didi I say you can go? Oh know it's not 5 yet I have other stuff for you to do? I would look up at him and put my hand in his face and say "NOT TODAY" and walk away.

This man does not work when is here and finally people are starting to notice it, my supv and I had to stop what we are doing because the study and he is the coordinator of is so back up with queries that he refuse to do and know we have to help him...he takes everybodys kudos when they are not around, always want to put his hand in to help but don't want to do his own damn work and the list goes on

So no this is not someting that just happen this has been going on for at least the last 2 years, and I have been trying to be very perfessional when dealing with him. I

It sounds to me from what you've written here that he's just messing with you, trying to be funny .. an asshole is just that, they aren't going to hang their heads and have hurt feelings.

Are you sure he's an asshole .... or are you just resenting him because he was assigned a make-shift boss over you at one time, and now everything he does is just rubbing you the wrong way?


It sounds like he's trying to make nice with you sometimes ... why are you opposing this?


Honey ... not spice ... will fix it.


He tries do (wierd high fives), and tries to get your attention on a level that is humorous .. this is indicative of a person who is being put under the gun, and scrutinized .. so, they try to make peace.


What's the real problem, Scorpionlady?

well kennyg the thing is that, he laughs and jokes with the HR person, and plays golf with the director, and my supv and I constanly question "Nobody sees this but us" And I told my supv that he signed it and she looked shock and said why and I told her what happen and she said don't ever let him do that again...His head just go blown the fuck up and know I have to make sure that it never happens again.

Regardless, I don't like him I don't want to see him and I hate working with him. And I just wish he would just stay the hell away from me...

There is only one person that I truly dislike to the point of hate, and I don't like to hate people but I am so leaning towards a lot of hate for him. And when I dislike that much trust me I have not respect for you at all at that point.

So, it's because he's a brown-noser that you have a problem with him? And because he is one, then whatever he does, you know will be overlooked by management?

They are on every job, Scorpiolady .. there is no escape. Even if you found another job, or he left the company ... there will be another one.

PA you have to experience it to know what I mean. it is not as simple as you think it might be.

Have you ever been harrassed at work before?

This is my second time being harrassed. When I was working on AAFB I was harrassed by a Capt who told me he was going to take me to a hotel that was in our sight...and when I got back to my office it bothered me so much but then he got shipped to Little Rock, I still was not comfortable with his comment so I told the Lt and the LT call the Capt. and Capt called me and asked me why did I tell and I said becaused you did say that and he said I was just joking I meant nothing byy it and I was only 19 years old...so no I don't take this shit lightly because you never know.

Of course, I have ..... at 12 when my breasts grew to DD's, I was constantly harrassed by men .. sexually.

One job, I quit because I wouldn't fuck the boss.

But, that's not the point here .. he isn't sexually harrassing you, he is simply playing a power trip over you because he can because he's a brown-noser and knows he can get away with it.

And you know what? He's only doing it to you because you react.

A bully only targets those who react. If you didn't let it bother you, then he would move on to a person who it does bother.

Gain control = don't give him the power to effect you.

He only does it because he gets the rise out of you he seeks. You play right into his hands if you react emotionally.

"She wouldn't have come to my defense even if I filed a complaint."




Curious ......... do a lot of women feel this way about you when someone wants to slap the shit out of you?

PA I don't react did'nt I just say I put my hand in his face and walk away..did'nt I just say that I am the bigger person here, that I do not tolerate him when he is acting like that. Issue here is that he did this behind my back and I was at work that day and never once said that he was not my supv. never once said to me oh I signed you timesheet come on that is some shady underhanded shit it what it tells me.

I don't give a good rats ass about him brown nosing or being a fucking uncle tom, because the bottom line here to me is he wants to be important and he has been trying to get me to listen to him for years know and I won't so he continue to do shit behind my back to make himself seem important. No he is not sexually harrassing me but he is HARRASSING ME which is still wrong.

Greatbull-
No he does not do his work he walk around acting like he is important on all his cancer boards for men and prostate cancer. goes to these meeing out of town and spend a whole day telling me what happen and boosting himself up to sound important.

And know my supv and I have to help him as we speak 76 participants charts are in dissaray and he refuse to do what is necassary to do when running a clinical trial. And no he has not gotten fired yet because people are blind to his bull shit.

So I have to not only do my job that requires a whole day, but I have incorporate part of his job with mines, and find a way to do both.

kennyg
"Oh my ScorpionLady your story with the Cp and Lt bring back a butt load of memories to me.

I was sitting in my CO's office when he said "If your weren't a woman I would slap the shit outta you'. My boss, a woman, was also sitting in that office. She wouldn't have come to my defense even if I filed a complaint. I just knew it, so I was quiet.

He finally got his,,, but why do people have to 'look the other way'."


Maybe PA can tell us the real meaning of harrassment and brown nosing?

Anyway, I feel your pain. Hang tough.

SL: and breeeeeeeeeeeeathe 🙂 however important this guy feels in his job, it's nothing more than self-importance. the ones that throw their weight around usually don't have the substance to be so arrogant. i know for a fact that you are worth a million of him. only yesterday, i was going through some of the books you sent me and i realised i got more information from you than i got from the medical professionals in spain!!

p-angel: i suspect that scorpionlady is a similar scorp to me - however dramatic the venting on dxp, the subject of the venting may not have the slightest idea how much he is getting to her. that's the way you want to keep it too SL. people like that give up with the stupid games once they realise you are hardly aware they exist.

"Maybe PA can tell us the real meaning of harrassment and brown nosing?"


Wow, you're just full of attitude, aren't you?

And no, you didn't say you were the bigger person. You come in here emotionally REACTING .. that = smaller.


If he wasn't doing his job .. he would be fired. If you are doing his job for him, then you are enabling him to continue.


Honey .. not spice = fixing the problem.

"the subject of the venting may not have the slightest idea how much he is getting to her."



Of course he does, Roxi .. people who aim to ruffle feathers only do so because they are successful .. if they aren't successful, then they move onto someone who will get upset.

Bully 101


Just by putting a hand on his face .... is a reaction to him, that tells him that he has irritated her.


HELLO ............

Thank you roxi You UNDERSTAND ME!!!! YEA 🙂

Yea I am much calmer know..I threw myself into my work...going home to have a drink and tommorrow will be a better day.

I am happy to have given you the information you needed and still find it helpful.

Yes he is very arrogant but when I talk to him in a direct manner sometimes he tells me that he is sensitve and that I hurt his feeling and I tell him to get over it and he tells me why I want to treat a brotha like that I just look at him and say it's not that important and continue working.

Yea I keep my distant from him all the time my office door is always shut or cracked so that he can't see inside, and yet I still get harrassed by him.

I have a lot of patience with people and it takes me a long time to get mad, and I have gotten out of the habit of using my stinger to sting people I either cut them off or stop talking to them and that seems to hurt them the most.

I remember when I gave the gemini the silent treatment not long ago for 4 days he bout had a fit he called every and every day I answer the phone and all I said was hello hahahahah He was so happy when I started speaking to him again. LOL

And this is why I am here on DXP venting, because I need people like PA to let me know what I am missing. Thanks a lot.

reatbull-
I am trying to not hate him.

What I need to do is pray, I just don't know what I would be praying from...other than strength that I won't cuss him out and then lose my job or just pray that he will just back away from me and just leave me alone for good. I don't know but I will know tonight and in the morning when I am on my knees asking for forgiveness of the mean things I ventend on this site. And ask that I not lean toward hate but understanding of his childish ways.

bs
I don't sting today unless it is a matter of life or death for me not the other person 🙂

Sounds to me like you quite enjoy this ..



4 years is a long time to play ... who's going to have more power.



Isn't it time yet to try and have an adult and civil relationship with your co-worker and stop playing power tag?


I know, I know ... that's ^^^^^ a stupid question to ask a Scorpio.

PA-
You know your comments here today really meant nothing to me because I know you will never understand, you don't understand me nor do you understand my reasons for venting other than what you believe them to be. And with that said I do still thank you for your wisdom and knowledge of the unknown and maybe you might have help someone else that is reading this thread but you have not helped me in any way shape or form.

bs
"I don't sting today unless it is a matter of life or death for me not the other person
well you sound like a very fair person ^-^"

Very fair don't you think 🙂 LOL


kennyg-

You know when people constantly attack you or try to put you down they are lacking something inside of them, self esteem, confidence you know and they find that picking or making other people feel bad makes them feel good... Thanks alot. Yes I will have that drink when I get off in 30 min.

Have a good day

people sound like all sorts of things on dxp bs 🙂

greatbull: i remember when a friend of mine designed this latex head that you could punch and the harder you punched it, the louder it screamed. it was like a de-stress toy. he made a prototype of it which was really cool and it was even featured on english telly on a show about inventions and yet, it all came to nothing 😢

****Curious ......... do a lot of women feel this way about you when someone wants to slap the butter out of you?

No P-Angel it was a man that said it to me. As far as I know you have been the only one on dxp to my knowledge. LOL

The Leebra

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What the hell are you talking about?

You said .....

"My boss, a woman, was also sitting in that office. She wouldn't have come to my defense even if I filed a complaint."


So, I asked you .. does many women feel this way about you when someone wants to slap the shit out of you.

Meaning ... other times in your life, when someone wanted to slap the shit out of you .. did your female associates/relations just sit there and not have a desire to go to your defense?

Can you comprehend the question now that I made it simple for you?

That's too bad, Scorpionlady .. because I'm the only one who gave you an idea on how to fix this problem that you've been enduring and "suffering" through for 4 years.

Everybody else just gave you a sympathetic hug and handed you a drink to help you forget about your problems .. so they can resurface again next time.


On second thought, maybe that's all you wanted, really .. pity, instead of resolution.

Is that understanding enough, for you?

I guess there's truth to ..


.. misery loves company.


You just want to wallow for another 4 years? I'm sure people in here will support this for you.


Honey .. not spice ... will fix this.

If you choose to label that useless .. then sobeit .. have fun being miserable.

So, is that a yes, or no?

Do you always loose your head when somebody asks you a question?

So, why did he want to slap the shit out of you?

Don't you think that's odd?

Numerous times, I've heard men say they want to fuck me .. but, slap the shit out of me?

Very odd ... and more odd that female associate, who happens to be the boss, just sat there, twiddling thumbs ... do do do, looks like rain.


Why would a male co-worker want to slap the shit out of you?

Did he ask you a question and you got all snarky with him?

PA
"That's too bad, Scorpionlady .. because I'm the only one who gave you an idea on how to fix this problem that you've been enduring and "suffering" through for 4 years.
Everybody else just gave you a sympathetic hug and handed you a drink to help you forget about your problems .. so they can resurface again next time.
On second thought, maybe that's all you wanted, really .. pity, instead of resolution.
Is that understanding enough, for you?"

Get over yourself, I never said I was suffering through anything, If it was that bad I would have found a job by know, yes he does gets on my nerves yes he does harrass me. And I will get through this without the help of you and your whacked suggestions, you just focus on helping and giving advise to the people that need it cuz I don't need your advice.

The bottom line is I needed to vent and I vented, did I have that drink NO, and I was not looking for pity from anyone, I am women that can stand on my own and handle anything that comes my way I may not do it the way some people do things, and I may not do at the time it happens sometimes but it gets done, and thats what makes me different from you and so many other people.

I did not make this thread for advice sympathy or pity nor did I ask for it. So stop trying to make this into something it is not. All I wanted to do was VENT, can you at least understand the meaning of venting it not asking for anything its just expressing how you feel and at that moment that is what I was feeling.

And know that I have done that got it out of my system, I can handle my situation, cordially and professionally, and still maintain who I am as a person.

kennyg
"ScorpionLady has people looking the other way on her situation. That was my meaning in all this."

Yes some people are looking the other way and not thinking anything of it, nor do they see a problem with it because they don't know all that has been going on and 1)they probably dont want to get involved 2) would they support me? which makes it a little harder to do what is needed to do so I have to find a way that will allow them all to see how he really is, and build my case from that. This is just a thought still trying to figure it all out. I think I will just do some research about him and then take it from there.

PA please don't put your 1 cents in this.

Is it any killing? Can we put a face with a name and shoot the face off?

"I have been bitching about this Aqua for a while know."


Alright .. how about 8 cents.


Have fun spending energy bitching, instead of dealing.