When do Aquas FINALLY want to commit??

Haha yes I know that Aquas are deathly afraid of commitment but I would still like to know from all of you, what does it finally take for you guys to go to the next level??

The Aqua that I've been dating for the past six months (and who has been my distant friend for a few years) is seriously scared of committing to me. And I do take the blame for asking him if we were going to be officially together any time soon about 2 months in. Haha that was before I knew he was an Aquarius (I didnt look it up) and he said that he doesnt want to be in a relationship for a long time until he knows that its going to be long term. Not to mention his ex girlfriends completely terrified him of ever being in a relationship (cheating, possesivness, lieing, etc.)

Well over the past couple months he still definately hasnt changed his mind. But Im definately not pushing it since I know that Aquas HATE that. I dont even mention it.

In the beginning he did pull a disappearing act on me about 3 months in and Im pretty sure it was because I accused him of talking about sex too much. But I never mentioned it and he came back to me slowly. (Definately hurt me but Im better) And especially after I helped him out when he was really depressed for a month he slowly became more open with me.

And I know that he realllly likes me cause he's just SO much more affectionate than before and tells me how much I mean to him, how much he cares about me, and that he's emotionally attached to me. And he's always asking me questions about spicific things in my life and wants to know EVERYTHING about me. He even cried one time when he hurt me by saying something that came out wrong. Haha of course I didnt reallt SEE it technically cause he was hiding his face and said I couldn't see him like that.

So all in all I was just wondering WHAT in the world does it take for an Aqua to finally commit? Im definately not gonna push... but I still wanna know. Because I already know that I love him and it's hurts to know that he was willing to give his ex girlfriends (who were horrible to him) a chance and not me. I just dont want to have to wait years and years. It's not that I NEED a solid title of girlfriends because all I want is to be with him, I just want to know that I mean enough to him to give me a chance like he did to the others.

Ask him.

You need the title.

He'll do it when he's ready. DO NOT PUSH HIM.

Mine pulled the same stint in the beginning. " I don't want to love a woman it hurts too much", but in the second breath wanted to be with me all the time. It took a good 8 months of stepping around it. So much so that when he eventually introduced me to his folks (and apparently only SERIOUS girlfriends get to meet the folks) he introduced me as his friend!!! God was I mad! But I let it be....a few weeks after that he on his own accord started referring to me as his girlfriend. Would introduce me as his girlfriend and even started referring to me as Mommy when talking to his dogs. They will do it when they're comfortable with it and that's his God given right. If he's acting like a boyfriend, doing all the things a decent boyfriend should do why ask for something trivial like a title— One thing my Aqua always says is that I'm his best friend - that means much more to me than being his girlfriend. We're living together now and there's no secret to the fact that we're very involved in a relationship but at in your 30's girlfriend/boyfriend just seems so silly. We're best friends, partners and lovers. Far better.

As for him committing - it's a different timeline for everyone. Same men committ after a week, others after a year. It's not the same for everyone. He has been hurt in the past and it's a natural instinct for him to protect himself from it now. Just be supportive. Help him heal from his past in order to be with you. Just show him that you truly have his best interests at heart and are not the woman he used to date. Help him to trust you. He may love you but trust is something that comes with time - particularly with an Aqua.

He'll do it when he's ready. DO NOT PUSH HIM
DO NOT WAIT ON HIS TIME EITHER... Detach a little and see what your options are...

btw, sounds like a committed relationship to me by I am easy to please 🙂
what type of commitment are you looking for?

lol - think too much attention's paid to guys to be honest... I got a name, he's got a name... we use it... get laid exclusively, get fed constantly, I'm good.

Aqua male I have experience with was like this too, no "title" and always kept his options open, even when he was not exercising them. Confusing but he was worth it all, until he flipped on me...........i miss him sometimes, but not the craziness he put me through.

I agree with if it aint broke, dont fix it or even make adjustments, be light and fun and enjoy it while it last, when the time is right for "another" step, it will happen naturally, like the rest has.

"lol - think too much attention's paid to guys to be honest... I got a name, he's got a name... we use it... get laid exclusively, get fed constantly, I'm good."

I concur! period end of story. 🙂

^^this is why women have given up their inherent upper hand...along with other things. They are the ones who are supposed to fighting for our attention and trying to keep us.

...well thats how it is in nature anyway, from the gator who rumbles his voice so he water dances on its back to the male lions who roar and fight for the females attention.

^^^ lol - wtf? that's randomness personified 😛

hmmm, I thought it fit...

yea in a roundabout way but now everytime I watch a guy approach a chick in a club, I'll have that gator picture pop up in me head

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