Aries boyfriend -VERY angry person, will this end?

I've dated an aries for almost two years, it's been great so far. However, he gets bursts of anger at random events especially in the morning. For example, he yelled so loud at a hotel room - the other girl in the next room was yelling at him to go back home (we are in a long distance relationship). This anger derives from sometimes jealousy or disappointments in life. He takes it out on me by having tantrums over silly incidents, he's very dramatic for a man even if I seem very relaxed. It's gotten worse over time, I'm not sure if it's because he's in a place throughout life where he's attempting to discover himself (finding a career, new apartment, etc..) or if he has serious anger problems? What can I do to make him relax? He takes anxiety medication; usually he calms down after he takes them. I think a part of it is he's gotten so dependent on medication in order to chill out, that it gets extremely awful when it's out of his system. What do you suggest? Anger management, relationship counseling? Many times, I want to quit because his attitude is aggravating, but then I remember why I was so initially attracted to him - we click on many levels in which many of my previous relationships had lacked. What do you recommend I do to help him? Thanks.

More detailed info:

Him: has an aries sun, gemini moon, and libra rising.

Me: has a taurus sun, aquarius moon, and aries rising.

Thanks.

He also gets extremely emotional in which case, I end up becoming emotional as well which is strange for air signs via moon (emotions). I never fully understood that part :/

hi sorry i'm not an aries but i've seen a couple of your previous topics regarding this same guy and each time it seemed to me like you were being verbally and emotionally abused by him.
this whole thing between you and him doesn't seem all that healthy to me.
he always seems to be taking all of his frusterations out on you (over the phone) and sort of using you as his punching bag. you don't have to tolerate all this abuse and you don't have to make any more excuses for him. because judging from all your previous topics, he just does NOT seem like a good guy to me. he seems sort of mentally disturbed to be really honest. you can't cure him. he needs to find professional help or something. you don't need to keep tolerating this.

Posted by impresswho
Brights, unfortunately this guy has mental issues which is something he can't really control why he is taking medication. Deal with him and his illness or you just move on.

+1

If you don't like him, leave the relationship.

Why are you actively pursuing to change something in him, just because it doesn't suit your wants.

Why does he get angry? Why does he seem to have so many angry outbursts? That is between him and his doctors, not for you to go meddling into.

Sure everyone can say to someone else, "hey you seem to have anger issues, please work on that, otherwise I have to say goodbye to this relationship because I don't want to be around it".

All you gals have talked about this person as if he is a dog on a leash.

Also, he is on medication. And you are reporting to us that it seems to be affecting his behavior.

Just leave the relationship.

You could try communicating with him that this is really bothering you .... or you could just leave.

Aries people can be very self destructive. I do think he needs to sort out his own demons, you beening there could be making things worse. Peace!

This sounds just like Aries my boyfriend. When we started dating we were long distance for about 10 months (he cheated the whole time and I didn't expect that at ALLLLL until I came up here and has access to all of his accounts and did some lurking) anyway yeah we dated long distance for 10 months he was in NJ and I was in FL. I moved to NJ in May of this year it has been okay other than the fact that when we get into a fight he breaks everything... which kinda sucks because we live in an apartment (i guess we're not getting our security deposit back). He has punched holes in the wall/bedroom door, broke my dress drawer, broke our lamps, bent pots and pans... that's just the half of it. He also yells VERY loud. Now, I let him know that if he wants me to react to that or respond to him that its not going to happen. I don't deal with little baby bitch fits. I let him know if that stuff continues I WILL leave him. Which has really made him realize he needs to calm down. Also, his dad was abusive and he realizes he does NOT want to be like his father. So recently he has been working on his anger and he has not had one of those outbursts in a while. We'll see how long that lasts.

When we were together long distance he was also jealous but he was the one cheating so I'm assuming that's why (I never cheated once and never gave him a reason to think I did)

The emotional part... he cries all the time, he is very emotional. Mainly, when I am fed up with his shit and he knows I want to leave. Then, he'll put on the waterworks.

BTW

Him: has an Aries sun, Aquarius moon, and Leo rising.

Me: has a Sagittarius sun, Aquarius moon, and Sagittarius rising.

Taurus & Aries? Not a Great Match!! some attraction
but mostly just pain and alot of boredom from both
sides of the fence.It could work but alot of strain
and hard effort and both must be willing.Why do so
many people force something when it's easier and
better to find a healtheir match?
My aries man had an addiction with drugs but at
least we like the same things and make each other
happier than we are apart,and we match on many
levels,so while no relationship is without issues
or drama from time to time why be with someone
whose not a match then when things really hit the fan
watch things get far worse into destruction?

I honestly believe astrology has alot of great truths in it
if you use it wisely,for instance my best match is Aries &
Leo,I like all the fire signs best,but astrology says Libra,
fellow Gem's & Aqua's are my best matches but they are much
more like very good or close friends rather than love matches
and me and Gemini guys are like best friends painting the
whole town red when we go out,we are soooo much alike and
in this case romance really doesn't get too far it tends to
stay pretty innocent but alot of great fun to be had!
Aqua guys are fantastic but they don't match me on other
levels like they need to but they do touch base and hit some
good notes,they just aren't for long term in my case but I
really enjoy them however.

astrology is correct to say that I match aries & the
other fire signs and it's correct that I get along
well with my fellow air signs but wrong in thinking
libra,other gem's,and aqua's are my best match so
they are close just a bit off but no science is a
perfection plus we have our rising signs to add to
the other reasons why some are more of a match than
others.Say if a Gemini dates a fellow air sign then
if he or she match because their rising signs match
up well then it could be a better love match than
the average Gemini with Libra,Aqua or Another Gem.

yayforpuppets,ok you two have alot of fire going on
and I know you being a saggie have your blow up's
as well with that saggie rising though his may be
much worse given he is aries with Leo rising it's
a miracle your still together because to much fire
will cause BURN OUT & HEAT STROKE! you will drain
each others energy and it could get highly stressed
for you both in a quick second!!! Kuddos to you both
for hanging in there but is it really for the best?

Aries Man and Taurus Woman


By Isabella Snow



The Aries man and Taurus woman are a typical case of opposites attract. Initially, anyway. If the stars were in the right places at the time of their respective births, this relationship could work out well and everyone will live happily ever after. However, this is less than likely to be the case for the simple reason that the base instincts of these two individuals are so very different that they are bound to become an issue eventually, and probably sooner than later in most cases. I am not trying to discourage the pair from having a relationship; I'm simply suggesting the go into the relationship with open eyes, because things can go from good to annoying very quickly.


Aries Man

Aries man is a hero. Well, in his own mind, anyway. And perhaps in the mind of others as well -- he can certainly sweep you off your feet if he wants to. He'll even slay your dragons for free. All you need to do in return is worship him 24/7 and things will be swell. It's not that he's arrogant (ok, he can be, but he's equally charming so you'll forgive him this flaw), it's more that he's a closet needist. That's right -- he needs you. He needs you to fluff his self-confidence and ego on a regular basis and if you don't do it he may well pitch a fit. Most women will do it, and do it eagerly because Aries man is just too damned sexy and virile to ignore. But the Taurus woman is one of the few who will get tired of this quickly. She's too practical and earthy to get swept up in his Prince Charming routine day after day. She'll want a bit more security and he'll never be able to get his head around that because, in his mind, living with a dragon slayer is the epitome of such things and she should feel like she's scored big time.

Taurus Woman

Taurus woman is dependable, independent, responsible, down to earth, practical -- are you getting the idea? She's the polar opposite of Aries man, who lives with his head in the clouds most of the time. He's always chasing the next big project or slaying the next big dragon, while Taurus woman is busy trying to plan out a secure future. Oh, that's not to say she won't love Aries man in the bedroom -- he's pretty hard to beat in that department. But unlike Aries (male or female) the Taurus woman can easily separate love and boudoir and will not forgive what she views as irresponsibility just because he can play Romeo like a champ.