Aries Female and the break up

Is it stricly personal do other fellow aries woman (I am a 2nd decan) find that when you feel a relationship heading downhill you tend to emotionally distance yourself first, slowly becoming detached and colder? I don't know if it's just a defence mechanism for myself that I have seen or an aries thing?

Yes thats how i roll also second decan. For some reason I still hold on to the pain and its in my memory rolladex which isnt good. Like when I get hurt again I flash back to all my hurt and pain I have had in my life, not good! I can let go but i will never forget how badly I was hurt.

My ex's don't understand how I was so loving, caring, forgiving and giving and then I turn to an icequeen barely emoting or talking.

I think it's because we forgive so much that one day we just reach a point whether the incident was big or small in which we just stop caring as much. Thus the starting point to slowly distancing ourself from the person emotionally so the ultimate breakup will be easier on us.

Sometimes i flash back to incidents that have happen in the past as well, the pain isn't deep anymore though I tend to let go on move on, but I still have the vivid memories. I think it helps because we can realize a) we shouldnt be in that situation yet again or b) further analyze why it's occuring and find a way to fix it. (e.g. personal issues)

Posted by ariesbabie
Is it stricly personal do other fellow aries woman (I am a 2nd decan) find that when you feel a relationship heading downhill you tend to emotionally distance yourself first, slowly becoming detached and colder? I don't know if it's just a defence mechanism for myself that I have seen or an aries thing?

I am third decan but I do the same thing. I give every single ounce of myself and clearly state I need you to do x,y or z for this to work. If my partner chooses not to do what I need, seems like every hour I move on, get colder and nail shut the door to that relationship.