Aries flies off the handle

Hi Im new to posting here although have been a dedicated reader for many years. I have a problem with an Aries friend/Fwb of mine.
We have been friends for several years in which Aries and I both had partners. We always got along very well and flirted constantly. He often said one day he was going to have sex with me, in a jokey way of course.
Then our respective relationships ended and we ended up sleeping together sparadically for nearly a year. He was on and off with his ex during all this time. I always held a candle for him but thought of him as un available as I new he was still in love with his ex. Then one night I kissed a taurus in front of him. I thought nothing of this as there was no commitment between us. He flew off the handle but not specifically about the kiss. He started arguing with me about every little thing I said looking for an arguemnt. This was completely out of character for our relationship as he was always very sweet to me. The next day he text me saying really horrible things an when I said Im sorry you feel like that he said I love you. Keep in mind he was drunk at the time. I ignored this and the next day I got a sober message apoligzing for his behaviour i replied saying I just didnt understand where the anger came from since I thought we were friends to which I got no reply. I havent seen or spoken to him since. Im wondering have I ruined this friendship by accidently hurting him? Im wondering from an Aries point of view what do you think was behind this weird behaviour—

somebody help im gonna be in the same group as him tonight and dont no how to act

the aries ego is HUGE...like way effing huge lol. with an aries guy, they're territorial after they've slept with someone (whether they have feelings for them or not). some other guy swooped in right in front of his face and aries doesn't like it because he needs to be top dog (i suffer from the needing to be #1 thing too and it's annoying haha). the dude is confused. i really don't know if he likes you more than friends because there's too many things clouding his judgement. 1. he saw you with another guy and aries wants to have his cake and eat it too. 2. you seem more attractive now that another guy is after you. 3. you've rejected his advances (whether genuine or not) so his big fat aries ego is bruised. he's pouting right now. he doesn't know what he wants or if he really ever wanted it. i kinda want to say act like it never happened. that generally isn't how you're supposed to handle things but i think it's better that way in this case. give us an update when you finally see/talk to him next!

thanks for all the comments. I did see him Saturday night and I acted as if nothing happened but I know full well he was off with me. Probably ruined our freindship which is really sad cos I really like him. I agree though he is acting like a brat and needs to grow up! I dont know if he has feelings for me either. But if he did I would say there long gone now... I ALWAYS seem to ruin things unintentionally!

Dunners,

You make it seem like he is all hurt and you??re fine. Question: WTF are you in here venting for?

You would be off banging that guy you were kissing. I tell you some people love attention. You want people to think you??re the good girl, and Mr. Aries is the bad boy.

Keep playing with fire and ya ass will get burned!!!!!

I understand that it seems as though I was playing games when I kissed that other guy but I didn't really mean to he kind of lunged at me and I just let nit happen which I shouldn't have. Yes I definatly have feelings for Aries but I don't think it could go anywhere real anyway. Espeically since he will bearly speak to me now. I don't understand what we were doing for the last year anyway. It's probably a lesson I've learned not to get ihnvolved with a friend in that way. Somebody or everybody ends up being hurt.

I don't really think I'm trying to make myself out to be a victim. I don't really feel like there's any victims in this situation...I think it's just a complicated situation for us both. Thanks for everyones thoughts though!

I didnt really feel used at the time cos it felt as if I was in control of it. Because I would say when and where ect and he wud just come running. But I suppose since I had felings for him I was lying to myself.

I totally agree I dont think eithr of us were getting played. We in my eyes were just two people who liked each other and it was good chemistry the only reason Im hurt now is cos I lost what I thought was a close friend by hurting him somehow. Not that he has the right to be hurt when he is worse a hundred times worse. I text him today to make sure I wasn't over reacting or gettin the wrong end of the stick just saying are you not speaking to me or what? and heard nothing so I think I can safely assume were not friends anymore esp not fwb.....hah men eh? confusing creatures

haha don't worry i couldn't do that anyway because were all friends with the same big group everyone would know and I would die of shame ha

God never!!!!! Couldn't have cared less when he did because in my brain he was in that box of FWB's now I'm not really naturally much of a jealous person anyway. Well not about physical side of a relationship so I didn't care what he did. He as you said is a total hypocrite.

I still can't help being concerned we share all the same friends and will always have to be around one another so I'm just wondering how I can wsmooth this out without making a big deal....

All my friends I've told think his erratic behaviour is due to feelings for me but I don't personally think somebody who likes you will just ignore you for doing something that essentially waqsn't actually wrong—?

Im wondering have I ruined this friendship by accidently hurting him?

This is not a friendship. The two-of-you are playing games with each other. The moment sex gets involved, there is territorial grounds. You were pissed that he was still seeing his ex girl, so you played your next move and it burned him.

And to answer your question..... yes, you have ruined the friendship, but it ain't over until an aries says it's over. Don't be surprised if you hear from him again.

And it's not weird behavior on his part. Sex= territory for men. You kissed another man infront of him. You made your point to him. Just stand your ground.

FWB do not work....... too much territorries to cover.

Yea I agree with alot of what u said FWB do not work unless you dont care about the person as a friend..which really is more just the benefits part...

I was never pissed about him being with his ex..... Genuinely...

And ur wrong this USED to be a great friendship until we started FWB benefits and now were nothing...gud lesson for me there i think

I really hope so we were in the same group last night and he point blank ignored me .. I couldn't believe ...now I didn'y make the effort to approach him either. I thought he would come and try to sort things out but nothing. Even when we found ourselves at the same table or something he would actually get up and leave. I'm getting more and more confused about what's going on with him. It's completly out of character for him to behave dat way with anyone....I don't know it's really upsetting me

If he didn't like the Tauren he could have projected his abrupt anger at you because you were the actionable item nearby.

I tend to hurt those I love as an Aries rather than those I don't even know at all. I hurt them by trying to express myself and my concerns and anger to them because I want the one I love or care for to know that I care for them or I am jealous at the moment, or that I am so confused and so frustrated, but it usually comes out wrong and heated.

I can go too far, and not that I don't mean what I say, but its just all temper and no sensibility, I can't say the meanest thing and next day, not have anything but concern and love and doting on the same person as if I never said a mean thing in my life. Its my naive, child-like self that does that, and its so embarrassing at times and I can't account for it usually. I have said so many apologies that I truly meant, but couldn't even recall why I was so flustered to have said such horrible things.

I try to be more cautious against my own nature, so I don't hurt those I love.

I try to perfect my people skills all the time, because I know I can be such a fool when things get heated ....