aries girl who cant move on

2 years ago I met a group of friends.We were all studying. Last year one of the men started to have attention on me. His friends told me that I made a huge impression on him because i was natural, intelligent, fresh and I was doing my thing being busy. He wanted my attention,he wanted everything.But I didnt know that he is like that everytime.
He was working in a music/movie industry and I asked him to help me to find an art internship among his friends. He was nice but sometimes he was telling me 'babe' - 'silly goose' so i was like - wtf he was playing with me probably cause he considered me as a naive baby.But I graduated I was cool with myself, I got internship that I found. I was at my place.And when he realised that he was usually at parties when I was, he was around me all the time. And I was getting into him as well. And after one party we slept with each other and after that he was nice to me, inviting me to meet his friends, being normal. Without a MASK. And he offered me an internship - so i panicked and i wrote to him that I slept with him not because I wanted to get an internship and after that our contact and our relation broke off. I mean he pulled away. He told our common friend he didnt want anything from me, he was kinda weird to me- our even friendship was awkward.And I didnt know If i should take him as a private friend or 'professional' friend because he had a lot of contacts in the industry everyone knew him. And i didnt know that. I thought he was JUST A FRIEND OF MY FRIEND. NOT A guy with a lot of contacts. And i got scared and I pulled away. Started doing my thing at his industry.He was surprised.Then I cut the contact I felt awkward.He went away for 5 months to South America to work- when he came back he was different like he'd changed for more mature.
At parties still looks at me,observes me, sometimes goes to me say HI BUT CANT HAVE AN EYE CONTACT- WHY? WHY CANT HE LOOK INTO MY EYES? When he comes up first and start the conversation? Sometimes even bumps at me at parties like he'd be 15. He even turns his head when talks to me. WHY? Why comes up but cant look at me?

He is more mature now in the business, more professional and I feel awkward. Still . After 10 months. And dont know how he feels about me because sometimes I see he doesnt care like he is surrounded with others BUT SOMETIMES I SEE HE OBSERVES ME still. He looks at me, glances at me. He is nice. He started to like my post on fb- why? He wished me HB when I turned 26.I didnt move on because I started to work very hard last year. Dont know about him- dont know how I can see him- as a private friend or as a professional friend?I still see he looks at me its so weird- when he didnt care he would just go and ignore me in a crowd.Everyone knows him. He is popular but I wonder if he had a real crush on me last year. Because his friends told me I rejected him. Its not a true- I felt used. And I needed to secure myself with a job I found. Did I react normall

i will add last year before our 'short relationship' he was giving me a lot advices. he was honest with me.
people said he was a difficult character -boy. i didnt know but he was working all the time. he had to pay for the taxes and so one. I mean I was still a student and i had a different life. his life is/was very quick- mine is not like that. even thou i am 26 my studies are very long and they dont allos 'us' to have a proper full time job even now because we have to be present at classes .
he graduated 3 years ago and set up his own company. after 2 years of having it he must pay more for taxes and now he must work more. and i didnt know that.
because i thought he just forgot about me he was just ignoring me. but i think he wa just BUSY. he never writes first. NEVER EVER. his job is among people. my job is a desk-job in front of a computer- totally different. and i still hesitate to ask him if his intentions were pure or he just wanted to get laid and use me as a 'silly goose' to have a 16 - hour- pleasure and then give me 'an internship'.
or was it just a super totall fail

Just don't bother about him.. His glances, lack of eye contact etc, just ignore and don't read too much into it.. 🙂

Many people...why they act the way they act...is really difficult to interpret. Too many reasons, factors, etc..or maybe even no reason...we can never really find answers... Just enjoy yourself 🙂

im enjoying myself , really i even cut the contact with our common friends.
but why did he bump on me a few times on parties?
it doesnt mean anything i know. but why?

i ignored him last year since octoberuntill january and i secretly feel he wanted my attention . but why?

he is virgo i am aries.
i read a lot about virgo people and the way they feel and they hide emotions and etc.
his friends told me he is normally shy never comes up to a girl.

Posted by kow_ink
im enjoying myself , really i even cut the contact with our common friends.
but why did he bump on me a few times on parties?
it doesnt mean anything i know. but why?

i ignored him last year since octoberuntill january and i secretly feel he wanted my attention . but why?

he is virgo i am aries.
i read a lot about virgo people and the way they feel and they hide emotions and etc.
his friends told me he is normally shy never comes up to a girl.

Sorry I didn't your second post..

He's in an industry where he must attend parties right?(socializing purpose) ..but whatever it may be.. He's not behaving in a straightforward way...its better you ignore such people.
Better not get caught up thinking about him...

Did he stop all contact with you after you became intimate??

If he did so...why would you care about someone like that?

no he didnt stop the contact it was weird because i thought that he was into me and i started being into him as well. he started inviting me over, started inviting to his friends, being nice, we started to text. but then i just felt like he friendzone me.
and when i tried to be NICE to him he was more pulling back or even ignored me.

when i ignored him for a 6-7 months - no contact- now when he is back, he started to be 'attenive' . we saw each other 5-6 times in 3 months. everytime it was him to comes up first , even when i was ignoring him he was ; picking me from the different corner of the room or etc 'and coming up to say hi or asked how I was. everytime when i answer in a nice way, being nice, he turnes his sight, started to being nervour, turns his head around. why? then he pulls away like he would be in a rush but OBSERVES all the time.

it happened 10 times this year? especially when I am surrounded with boys he doesnt know- he checks who they are- even my friends told me this- why does he looked at you when you hug your high school male friends?

i am just afraid of being friendoned after we got intimate. like an option. because if he didnt want me 1st last year-- ok i ignored him. i was crying but i ignored him and now he comes back. even when I dont want.

this is the main problem of my post - why he comes back? why he wants to be 'in' my life?
does he think Im his 'special friend'? I dont care!!!!

i hate that . why does he come back?

I'm a little bit uncertain as to what you like in him, and what can't be found in another guy? and you don't need him to achieve your goals.

you definitely need to forget him, I think you can do much better, and things shouldn't be this hard. If he can't make eye contact with you then that sounds like his problem, not yours.
I don't think you've done anything wrong, and why waste your energy trying to work out what's going on in his head, it's impossible. Sometimes people come along and they are complete time wasters, flakes, energy wasters and de-motivators, he sounds like all these things and you need to move on, start looking forward to the future.

What's in front of you is better than your past, and you need to start directing your energy to building the future, don't waste it on him. And don't compare your success to his, we all having different lives, you have your own successes and will be successful in the future.