Aries guy who is still hungup on an ex.

I'm an Aquarius and his ex is a Leo. They were in a long distance relationship for three years and they even talked about marriage. She lives in Canada and he lives near me. Basically she broke up with him to be with another girl and for the pass six months he has been begging for her to come back to him. He tells me stuff like she is immature, dishonest, and manipulative. Yet he keeps making excuses for behavior and saying stuff like she inexperienced, so he ends up making himself even more depressed by allowing this. She keeps running hot and cold. I notice whenever things aren't working out in her life or with the girl she left him for. She comes onto him, yet when things are going fine she basically says she is not attracted to him anymore. They recently had a conversation for two hours and it was just him rambling/venting to her. He was telling her that she can't keep doing this to him with the whole fickleness. He put an idea out that maybe they should talk about it again within a week and she just laughed then said "sure."


I've been talking to him for awhile now like and I can tell he likes me but he is is hesitant because of his issues with her. It puts him in an awkward spot because he doesn't know exactly where he stands with her. Plus if he were to move on, there is that possibility that she finally makes up her mind and come back. So then he has to break one of our hearts.
After all this he told me that he doesn't really trust anyone anymore and that he has dealt with really fickle women. He told me that my feelings for him are misguided and he is not ready for a relationship because he is an emotional wreck. He asked me to be honest with him since we are close now and to not flake on him like the women of his past.
I am trying so hard to keep my feelings in check and not make this about me or take offense to it. It's just hard and I guess all I can do is be a friend.

Posted by impressmee
Do you want this guy?

I very much do. It's just unfortunate that I have to have feelings for him now when he is going through this.

Posted by impressmee
So, how you caught these feelings?
Are you trying to take advantage of him while he's in a vulnerable state?

We just had a lot in common and we started to talk a bit more. He's an interesting guy and I just want to get to know him more. I caught these feelings by just talking to him, he would be really to, and seeing how comfortable he was speaking to me about his current issues showed that he trusted me. Whenever we had hungout or talk we would just always have fun together. The other day we were playing Mario Kart at his house and he commented on how he like the fact that I actually knew what I was doing. I also laugh a lot whenever I play games so he liked that because apparently he would play with really ragey girls or just shit talkers.

No way I wouldn't do that to him if anything I just want to be there for him. I told him I do have feelings for him, but I'm going to be honest about his situation whenever he opens up about it, put my feelings away, and I'm not going to be an enabler either.

Posted by feby
I was also (I found out later) on the outside between an Aries and Leo relationship and I'll tell you that a lot of Aries men really are drawn to Leo women. That's if you want to look at the astrology part of it but regardless of any of that the writing is on the wall.

Be his friend but check yourself.

I'm sorry but what do you mean by the, "that's if you want to look at the astrology part of it but regardless of any of that the writing is on the wall" part?

Posted by feby
She might like the attention 🙂

I really do think she does. :/

Posted by impressmee
Fuck the damn LEO girl.
She had her chance. WTF

HAHA I agree with you!
He claims that she still loves him but is too stubborn, immature, and inexperienced to admit it.
Let's just say that all that is true....who wants a lover like that?

Posted by impressmee
How old is this Aries guy?

He is 24 and his birthday is March 22 1990. I'm 22 and my birthday is January 26 1992.

Posted by feby

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Posted by impressmee
Fuck the damn LEO girl.
She had her chance. WTF

HAHA I agree with you!
He claims that she still loves him but is too stubborn, immature, and inexperienced to admit it.
Let's just say that all that is true....who wants a lover like that?

She gives him hope and something to chase after. He's having trouble letting go and probably enjoys the challenge as well. Winning her back over. Plus he might think it's hot she's bisexual. My thoughts.

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Actually I think he does like you pretty much said it! He goes to a therapist and he says this girl isn't great for him. Plus all his friends tell him that too. I am just confused like everyone can see this but him. I will say this though...he is getting to the point where it's getting really old for him. It's really mentally and emotionally draining for him, but like you said she gives him hope and is toying with him. Yet he eats it up like candy because it's a challenge to him.

I think that's the natural interaction between leo woman and aries men... I happened to me recently. Leos like to play push-pull, and arians bite the bait easily because there's element affinity.

She's not really interested in him; in fact, HE is the one that is stubborn, immature and inexperienced. The problem is, aries men only learn to MEN UP after being hit by the bus and taking time to figure it out. It may take months. I had to lose a lot of loved ones in order to mature; I still do.

Aries is about making mistakes, learning with them, and keep walking no matter what. He'll eventually get it and move on, with or without you by his side.

But do you think you really should invest your feelings in someone who still craves another persons love?
I'd say he's not prepared for a relationship yet. And that you should move on for now, except if you really don't mind only being his friend.

"He asked me to be honest with him since we are close now and to not flake on him like the women of his past.
I am trying so hard to keep my feelings in check and not make this about me or take offense to it. It's just hard and I guess all I can do is be a friend."


^^ that's the writing on the wall.

He's would like to keep you physically unavailable to anybody else while he is emotionally unavailable to you.

It won't work out for now. If your choice is to be his friend after telling him You have feelings for him, just be aware he's going to naturally want to keep that comfort around. Security but at arms length...meanwhile youre in turmoil. And he may not do it maliciously, its human nature.

Give him space to get over her. And even if he begins to have feelings for you, that doesn't automatically negate or lessen his feelings for her. He won't be able to give you the best of him while she's pulling strings.

oh gawd lol

hahahaha

Posted by Rambunctious76
What the hell is going on here?

I'm still trying to figure that out...