aries man broken down by saggitarius woman—

She was a Sagittarius and I'm an aries
when I met my girlfriend now ex she was 19 and I was 24
first 3 years were great, we clicked like no other, I would make her laugh just by looking at her or touching her.... I could make her laugh so hard that she couldn't stop
I always loved her with all my heart, give her all the respect, kindness, kisses, and all the good stuff...I'm a hopeless romantic and a gentleman to the girls I like, respect and love
after 3 years I went into business of my own which is doing well but it keeps me away from home 7-10 sometimes 14 days at a time
but when I get back I can take as much time off as I desire 1-2 weeks no problem ..its not uncommon for me to be off 3months or more out of a year if you put it together
she works full time and goes to college 4 times a week so its not like she is lonely when I'm gone
I was so happy with her I didn't even look at other girls
but during the 4th year she started to be distant,not call or return call, always had different plans when i got back home and I didn't think nothing of it because I trusted her and she promised me she would never cheat on me because by doing that she would disrespect her self
besides she had her group of friends and I had mine....that was never an issue...actually we liked it like that
than one night she breaks up with me while we were in a bar with all of our friends hers and mine...it was a shock to me because it came from nowhere and it hit me like a sledge hammer and it drove me to tears and i sobbed like a little child in a BAR where all these people were looking at me! I didn't care, i could not control it. She comes back the same night with big tears, at first i didn't want to talk to her but she cried so much my heart couldn't take it and I gave in and took her back just so she would stop crying besides I did not want to split up....after that she promised if there ever is an issue she would come and talk to me
I'm very understanding and easy to compromise with, she promised she would never lie or push me away like that again
one year later same thing started to happen but worse, she would push me physically away when I was trying to snuggle up with her in bed, not call for a week, not call back at all, change plans 3-4 times a day so I finally confronted her and asked if everything is ok because I feel that something is wrong
she says that everything is fine and that she is sorry for pushing me away in bed but she was sleeping.
I asked her

few more times during next few weeks and same story all over
than I finally couldn't take it anymore and made her tell me ( over the phone) what is going on
at teat time she asked for two weeks to figure out what she wants......fine I gave here that
two weeks past and I was ready to end this if she couldn't be honest again
so she calls me and her only excuse was that she was 19 when we met and now she is 24
just like that its over....she ruined the whole image I had of her and the trust is gone...

all of that happen 6 months ago and ever since than i not my self. I did not talk to her once, just txt for her bday, thks giving and xmass...she responded to these but not to the new years txt

it was quiet for 4 months and than she txt me for my bday......i did not respond to it....ive shed many tears, got mad, sad, betrayed, used unappreciated and everything else....
I did everything i could to forget about her...buried my self with work, got back into shape, but still can get her out of my head....i collected all of the vday and bday cards she ever gave me and dropped it off in front of her door....I even started to write a long letter to her but when it was finished i burned it....
how come i cant let go of this....every time i think of her my eyes get wet and I hardly ever cry

i;ve been with different women since than, but i cant get into it and I feel like I'm detached, no matter how good the woman is....my sex drive is nowhere near what it used to bee and when i do get woman in bed and get her naked i loose interest like THAT, poof and its gone

I guess what I'm asking is there another aries man here who was heart broken by female Sagittarius?

ccAries .. I'm not an Aries, nor male .. but, I've experienced heart-ache. At one time, when a relationship would end, I felt much like you've described and at times, I just thought I would rather die than have to endure another day waking up without my man by my side .. then, I came to a realization when my pet died.

Nothing is forever except the love in our heart. I loved my cat, everyday of his life and I know that he was happy and felt glad to be with me. This awakening led me to look at my past relationships, and made me recall how much joy I experienced with each person, instead of the pain .. if I never had those moments with those people and my cat, then those are beautiful times I could never reflect back on and make my heart happy.

Instead of thinking about your pain .. think about the good times and be thankful that you had her to share your life with you, while it lasted. Without her, you would not have known what it meant to love all the way down to your soul and be thankful that she was there to share it with you.

Life isn't about the quantity of time we have, rather, how much joy was spent during those times, and in remembering that there was the warmth of another's soul sharing it with you.

I truly hope you can find peace and happiness .. if your heart is open to embrace the beauty in life, happiness will find you.

*ponders the thought*

Hmmmmm...what does make men chase women they have no intention of marrying? Is it possibly the same urge that makes dogs chase cars they have no intention of driving?

thanks for all your comments

while we were together we have never fought, and i only had one angry outburst in the 5 years we were together, well twas more of annoyance outburst than angry.....it was when we were up in Montreal just walking around the city, and i was tired of all the boutiques and stores, lol
but i felt so bad for getting snappy that i endured the shops for 4 more hours an bought her pair of expensive shoes right of way, lol.....so that was the only time i got hot headed with her.
the thought of me getting mad at her or even yell or call her name and mistreat her in any way was out of this world, not possible i couldn't do it even if i wanted to
I use to get snappy with people i love like my mom (aqua) my sister (aries)and my dad(pisces) but i realized how much it hurts them so I've learned how to control my self and became much more mellow....
so me and her never fought.....but everything start going down hill when i went onto business of my own that kept me away. The only reason i went into this business was because i was sure of our love and that she would stick by me through the hardest time of my life...but all it took was a year and she was ready to bail....i know she is younger than me but i thought when you love someone you just don't bail like that

yes she was my princes and i worshiped her, she had all the freedom she wanted,she would go out with her friends all the time , i was never jealous or gave her hard time about it
I wanted to communicate with her, but she is the one who stopped calling and returning calls and when asked if everything is ok would lie about it and act like there was no problem
i do fell very sad when i think about her but i do not want to get back with her even if she wanted i wouldn't let her in my life...she hurt me twice, i can not allow her to do it the third time
i kind of wish she had gave me a better explanation what had happened because the age difference is bunch of crap
sorry if i don't make any sense but is very difficult for me to focus when writing about this

You make perfect sense .. the pain will ease with each passing day.

"when you love someone you just don't bail like that"

People just grow apart sometimes .. it's not anybody's fault. Life is about experiences and making each one better than the one before, so in the end, when you look back .. you know you were as true, happy and honest as you could be for yourself.

You had a blessed life experience .. that's something to cherish. Two people moved each other, if for only a brief moment in time .. something we strive to find to help complete us.

Tomorrow the sun will shine a new day .. life awaits you.
I hope you find peace.

Not to throw a spanner in the works..but I reckon she thought she was missing out on all the fun by being tied to a relationship. I ended my very long term relationship because selfishly I thought I need to experience some life before settling down..it just happened over night that decision and I don't regret it one bit..She was young but yes she needs to get all that out of her system..I think people should avoid serious relationships until over the age of 25. But each to their own.

I hope you get over your grief soon. Your a fire sign, you should be able to shrug it off...Good luck..

Saying that, she should've just had the balls to come outright and say if something was wrong..

Roxi: "people can behave very shabbily towards eachother at the end of a relationship"

For me thats usually because I think gosh this dudes seen me naked..not because I have any feelings for him etc..

Solitas..I agree!..Men look really stupid when they act in such a way...whatever happened to dignity

"aries man broken down by saggitarius woman—"

LOL....U cant tie them down forever however U may wish to. And for that matter women have this extraordinary power of making men obsolete...so one shudnt bother.

"as if any thing can stop a ram from stepping up to a seemingly impossible challenge...
"

LOL...A bleeding nose...thatz what one would have to settle for. When dealing with a Sag ..choose to strike first... And with a scorp ..choose to hide first 😛

"baby you need us to make your nose bleed"

LOL...Indeed. But now n then we would feel the urge to settle down with somebody who can nurse those wounds 😛

Example of a Sag-Aries relationship - Kim Basinger and Alec Baldwin.

* Not to throw a spanner in the works..but I reckon she thought she was missing out on all the fun by being tied to a relationship. I ended my very long term relationship because selfishly I thought I need to experience some life before settling down..it just happened over night that decision and I don't regret it one bit..She was young but yes she needs to get all that out of her system..I think people should avoid serious relationships until over the age of 25. But each to their own.

The same thing happened to me. I ended a long term relationship because I wanted to experience life before settling down. I also never regretted it either.

I think everyone needs experiences one big heartbreak in life. It is a very humbling experience and teaches you true compassion. You will get through this class-act. It just takes sometime.

* archer, If he was so strong why did he call you crying? I think I'd rather die than admit to an ex lover that I miss them.

Why? There is strengeth in vulnerability. People need to love more not less. Just because a relationship ends doesn't mean the love and connection end. Part of growing up is losing love.

* "hmm, so I own you."... he got real serious and said "NO one owns me but ME"....

I actually agree with him. No one owns anyone. We are all just out on loan.

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its been over a year, and just when i think im completely over her some shitty friends of mine bring up the topic and ask if i talked to her or if i miss her and crap like that and it hits me like a tone of bricks, ;-( im trying so hard to forget her and to erase her from my heart but its harder than i thought
this wasnt my first heartbreak but it was the worst for sure, all i can say i didnt do anything to deserve it but i guess that wasnt enough, i guess it was just a long 5 year date for her. she just went along for a ride i had a good job, place of my own , my life pretty much on track so i was better than any of her friends in her age group, but than she got older and so did all her friends,
im like you i rather die than to admit to ex lover that i miss them, maybe my pride was at fault, maybe if i tried to keep her it would have been different, but once you feel that the person doesnt love you its best for your self if you just let them go....no matter how hard it is, its like choosing which healthy arm you want cut of right or left?
i hope to find in someone what i lost but im very judgmental,opinionated and prejudiced to relationships and women .

The relationship I left was at the 5 yr mark too.

He did NOTHING to prompt the break-up. He was a great, wonderful guy who I actually set up with one of my friends because he is just plain wonderful. They have been together for several years.

This is about growing apart. A lot changed for her between 19 - 24. (For me 22-27) She wants the chance to experience different things.

This isn't about you and your worth. It is about her and her search for self. I can pretty much guarantee that.

I hate when people bring up the ex-lover too. I wish they would stop asking. One day they will. The only do it because they are concerned and want the best for you. Perhaps you should tell them to stop.

Sometimes it takes a long time to get over someone. A VERY long time.

You got hurt badly. When you are ready, you will find your way home again. Until then, just keep breathing.

lots of love.

the ones that are concern about me do not ask, cauze they know better, im strong minded and i can deal with , but the ones that do they do it just to bust my balls. I have it coming though, im known as a big ball buster but when i do it there is certain art and humor to it and everyone has fun and strangely enough they look forward to it but when some of them try to return the favor they always pick bad timing and come across arrogant and just looking to find that sweet spot where it hurts...but i cant blame them for it, lol
all this years i was the guy who can take any kind of a joke and ball busting without taking it too personal and not getting hurt, yet it does hurt when they bring up the ex but i do not show it, i just smile.
i hope she finds her self, its just that during the 5 years we were best friends, soul mates and when she start to grow apart from me i felt it right of way, i would ask and she would lie straight to my face,
when she was breaking up with me she bagged me not to be mad at her but now she doesnt even care to talk to me......sigh.,........

* that during the 5 years we were best friends, soul mates and when she start to grow apart from me i felt it right of way, i would ask and she would lie straight to my face,
when she was breaking up with me she bagged me not to be mad at her

That was how it was when we broke up. It could be she was not lying to you but lying to herself.

I am sorry this happened to you ClassAct.

well, for all its worth i hope she gets some shitty boyfriends. she needs to learn the hard way,
i was seeing us growign old together be this old couple in the park but all that is gone now, i wish her luck but to be honest i dont care i wouldnt mind if she suffered a little like i did,
fuck her

its been 14 months and im stupid enough to still care, i wish i could let it go i just dont know how......its making me really unhappy ;-(
i probably wont be around to see her get served her upcomings , i dont care to witness it but i would like her to feel how i do ...is that wrong of me?
i know everyone says after break up i wont her all the best for her and hope it works out but is that real? i wish her health. succes at work but her love life i WISH her the worst luck , maybe if she done it differently i would feel different but after 5 years discard me like trash wihtout even wanting to talk it out, screw this
i cant even get a closure and that sux the most

Even though there was only a few years difference between you, she was at an age that was miles apart from you. I would chalk it up to her inexperience with men. She didn't know want she wants so how can she know how good she had it?

The good thing is that you will never commit the mistake of trusting anyone else than yourself. More so a woman.

In time, your wounds will heal.

you right about that Gaurav_a
but the sad thing is how can you love someone if you unable to trust them? there is no real love without trust and i think i'll miss that the most

Nominally, the most powerful person in the world is GW Bush. Forget that comparison, you ( or for that matter myself ) arent even an ace general,minister,politician,technologist, economist,activist or a tycoon. If you can live with this then why is it difficult to live with a trivial fact that there may indeed be no such thing as true love ?

Ms. Archer, love has strange properties. The moment you catch it, it changes itz hue and mocks at you. And it beckons you when you decide to release it. The safe way is to always be in love and constantly out of it at the same time.

And no, it will not rob your life of fire. Play with unbridled passion with an aim to be a master of it.

How are you doing Roxx ?

Indeed Archer. You are wiser.

You can sometimes be wrong Taurausbabe 😉

Dear Class-Act,

Breaking up does smart for a bit - basically it will hurt you but it won't kill you. This is something I read whenever I was really feeling all misty during one of those break ups - Hope it helps...

Let It Go - by T.D.Jake

There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.

I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anyone that left.

The bible said that they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us (1 Johhn 2:19)

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part in the story is over.

And you've got to know when peole's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift. I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have it will be given to me.

And it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains...LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back..and see your worth...LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you...LET IT GO!!! If you are holding on to thoughts of evil and revenge...LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction...LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents...LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude...LET IT GO!!! If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in HIM/HER...LET IT GO!!! If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship...LET IT GO!!!
...LET IT GO!!!

...Cont.

If you keep trying to help someone who won't help themselves...LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed...LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying, "Take your hands off of it," then you need to...LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. God is doing new things in 2008!!!
...LET IT GO!!!
Get RIGHT or Get LEFT.. think about it, and then...LET IT GO!!!


I know deep down we all know this stuff but it helps to revisit it in times of need.

Im a saggittarian female and this is my first real relationship with an aries guy, so learning 😄.

But was reading your post and tbh i can kinda see from myself how that happened. I have been in a similar situation and i was with someone 3 years was perfect like you had, and then it chnaged the romance stopped and i stared hanging round with my freinds more as he wasent around and ended it after about 6 months of lonliness.. I used to see other couples and jealousy took over and boarderline depressed. I might be wrong but maybe she felt that feeling i get when you feel that the other person is not putting enough in then i start to think more, and if she never saw you much then she could have the well i aint here for then iot suits you sorta attitude.

It might be a bit late to reply but it might help you.
I am a sagg and I recently got out of a kind of long relationship with a Libra and just like you he started acting weird, ignoring my calls and telling me he was just "tired and stressed". But my instinct told me that he had someone else.
He ended up confessing to me over the phone (didn't even have the balls to say it to my face) that he felt in love with a a 15 year old he just met. I was crying like crazy when he told me he had someone else, I remember I just text him telling him that I didn't want to know anything about him ever again in my life. For 1 hour I was calm but then I started crying because I didn't understand why? how? how did he trash our relationship of 14 months for a 15 year old chic, so despite the fact that my friend almost tied me down I grabbed the phone and called him.
He picked up and I started yelling at him, demanding him why? how? what did I do? He just kept saying "he didn't know". It took me an hour of telling him that he was garbage, a hypocrite and a waste of space for him to confess that he loved her and that they understood each other well and that he wanted to be with her forever and not with me. After he told me that I understood his decision and hanged up after getting all of my anger out on him.
Then after that I deleted him from everywhere, put his stuffs in a garbage back and decided to never look back.
I think thats what you need, I know you need to know why, and I honestly think you should talk to her and make her confess, she is a Sagittarius, she won't lie if you ask her to tell you the truth. After you know the truth I am sure you will feel released and ready to move on. Release all of your emotions to her, yell at her and tell her what you really feel and I am sure she will tell you why.

Just like you he was younger than me for 2 years, he was too young, too immmature. Although she is 24, she is still young. I don't think you are the problem, the problem is her.
She is probably surrounded by her college friends who are dating people her age that she felt left out and decided to try new things.
We sagittarius women are like that, we don't like to be tied down, and when we feel the relationship is long we feel scared, she probably realized as well that both of you were getting older and knew that the next step was getting married or living together so she probably got scared of the idea and decided to run away before it got more serious between