aries man hard choice please help

so we pregnant and i didnt wanna be , so his now started flirting whit other woman we 8 months together 13 weeks pregnant and his using cat again . i would have dropped him long ago if it wasnt for the child , i am single mom AND DO NOT WANNA BE A SINGLE MOM OF 2 , i just cant do it financially or emotionally and i cant stand babys crying all the time i just cant. im really pissed off at him for making small unnecessary fights everyday , if i dont fight him back then he goes crawling too his flirts . i think this is stupid , every day arguing id rather stay on my own. im considering a abortion. i highly doubt ill feel bad bad about it afterwards , more like relive. not that im a bad person im a great mom to my 3 year old (now that his 3 we best friends) his a aquarius and very independent we play so nice together now i love him more then anything.ill be honest i couldnt handle him when he was younger mostly my parents did. but i supported him i couldnt stand the constant attention he needed it wasnt in me. advice please . i really cant look after another baby by myself and finance is in the gutters .i feel me and this aries guy wont last i see right trew him. and he hates that i know what hes up too before hes even completely started.

I messaged you cause the text was too long. Make the best decision for you and your 3 year old.

DO whats best for you and your child Saggurl......dont worry about what others think. If that means abortion then id say go for it.....its your life and now you have little one who is your world, focus on that. DOnt complicate the situation anyomre if you can. YOu dont have to put up wit bad treatment under any circumstances.

If your finances are shit, why the hell did you let yourself get pregnant?

A little baffled by that one... Condoms and birth control are free ninety nine to you if your finances are that bad. When something is available to you at no cost, and you don't use resources available to you, then that's you being irresponsible. This is why you're in the bind that you're in now.

That said, if you do follow through with an abortion, keep that in mind for next time.

As others have said, do what's best for you and YOUR child. This fool that you got knocked up by is clearly not a viable candidate for father of the year. You're what, a little over 3 months in? Figure that shit out asap. I'm a little concerned that you waited this long to figure out if you wanted an abortion or not. If I got knocked up by a guy after only 4-5 months of dating, I'd seriously be considering it asap. You don't even know the person all that well and who the hell knows what kind of person they'd turn into with something like this.

Good luck to you.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
If your finances are shit, why the hell did you let yourself get pregnant?

A little baffled by that one... Condoms and birth control are free ninety nine to you if your finances are that bad. When something is available to you at no cost, and you don't use resources available to you, then that's you being irresponsible. This is why you're in the bind that you're in now.

That said, if you do follow through with an abortion, keep that in mind for next time.

As others have said, do what's best for you and YOUR child. This fool that you got knocked up by is clearly not a viable candidate for father of the year. You're what, a little over 3 months in? Figure that shit out asap. I'm a little concerned that you waited this long to figure out if you wanted an abortion or not. If I got knocked up by a guy after only 4-5 months of dating, I'd seriously be considering it asap. You don't even know the person all that well and who the hell knows what kind of person they'd turn into with something like this.

Good luck to you.

As harsh as it sounded, she's is totally right. This guy needs to get kicked to the curb RIGHT NOW. He seems like he would be a horrible father. It is not healthy to raise your child/children in a broken home where they witness their parents fighting and so on. If you don't have the resources to handle another child, I say get an abortion. It also seems like you DON'T WANT to have another child so I feel like this should be a no brainer for you. If you have ANY DOUBT in your mind, then you should NOT have this baby. Instead, focus on your child now and him the best life possible. Instead of fighting with this loser guy, read to your child before bed every night and tell him many times each and every day how much you love him. Invest your heart and your all to your son and NOT on this guy. And please, please, please for your own physical and mental health get on birth control/use condoms....It's free.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
If your finances are shit, why the hell did you let yourself get pregnant?

A little baffled by that one... Condoms and birth control are free ninety nine to you if your finances are that bad. When something is available to you at no cost, and you don't use resources available to you, then that's you being irresponsible. This is why you're in the bind that you're in now.

The only thing I could think of was contraceptive failure, as after one pregnancy you can turn into fertile Murtle and espcially if it is within the first 5 years of a child. I would hope this wasn't a free willy situation. Regardless and as previously stated I hope you make the best decision for you and yours.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
If your finances are shit, why the hell did you let yourself get pregnant?

A little baffled by that one... Condoms and birth control are free ninety nine to you if your finances are that bad. When something is available to you at no cost, and you don't use resources available to you, then that's you being irresponsible. This is why you're in the bind that you're in now.

The only thing I could think of was contraceptive failure, as after one pregnancy you can turn into fertile Murtle and espcially if it is within the first 5 years of a child. I would hope this wasn't a free willy situation. Regardless and as previously stated I hope you make the best decision for you and yours.

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Yeah, I know shit happens with contraceptives, and if this were the case, it's totally understandable.