Cancer emotional wife with aries cheating husband

Hi i am a cancerian.. too emotional n loyal n love my husband.. i hve nvr done anything to cheat on him or even if he gets a lil jealous of me talking to any fren i make sure thats clear between us.. but i recently found out tht my husband was cheating on me.. by talking to a young gal 17 yr old n he is 33 now..on networking site.. thy exchanged dirty pic n talked dirty also he wanted to meet tht gal n lie to me abt it as if he is going for a business trip.he has a habbit of lying a lot n he always shout n starts yelling if i confront him for wrong things.. i get scared n nerous n break so i just cry n do nothing.. i confronted him m told him tht i read tht chat but he blamed me for spying on him.didnt talk to me at all.. also i fell sick cudnt sleep for the complete ngt but he didnt bother .. n becoz he is out of station he went to other woman to satisfy himself as i chked his email he took a hotel inspite we hve a house there..i still love him i guess but dont knw how to bring him to understand tht wht he is doing is wrong. i really m not able to make up my mind wht to do.. my mum will not be able to take it if i tell her all this n his parents support him in whtever he does as he has a huge infulence on his parents.

Not able to make up your mind?

Question 1- Do you like being emotionally abused and manipulated, thus making you absolutely miserable?

Question 2- Why do you think you need to be doormat status toward such a troll of a person?

Question 3- Why do you feel obligated to stick around? "Love" is not a valid answer since "love" is clouding your sense of worth and happiness.

Question 4- Can you tolerate not being in a relationship? Too often, women stick around because they have some fucked up issues that make them stick around in shitty situations like this- all because they seem to think that they cannot function alone outside of a relationship.


You clearly are not happy, he clearly does not respect you as a person, and you need to do something about it. I know it's hard to choose when you're in the middle of the clusterfuck, but you need to focus on your own needs and happiness, and what will make that happen since he clearly doesn't give a shit about you. He's an abusive prick. You can seek advice all you want, but the power of the situation lies in what you actually do about it.

Do you have a friend who is NOT a mutual friend of both of you? If so, can you pack a bag and head over there for a little while?
Or- do you have money of your own? If so, can you head to a hotel for a week or so and get some space that way?
Everyone is right about the whole self respect thing but I think you should start by removing yourself from the situation first and foremost.
Then work back from there...

And to reiterate, insecurity is not Love, doormat behavior is not Love, allowing this to happen is not Love, you are sorely lacking in Self Love, which is a key ingredient for a happy marriage. (or so I've heard) Chin up dear, and good luck =)

Ughhh, hate I saw this too late. Number one flaw here is I cant tell you to leave your husband, but surely you can take a break from him if the relationship is becoming unhealthy such as you crying yourself to sleep, and losing sleep period. That's not healthy.

First and number one order of business with an Aries that I learned the hard way is you can NEVER let them think they have you 100% . They are the babies of the zodiac so you gotta dangle every now and then to keep them hooked. What I mean is, they like to know that you are loyal but to know there is still a chase there, it gives them a certain thrill that they can't shake which in my opinion is why Aries men gets accused of cheating. The relationship becomes stale, routine, or boring, and I think they miss the cat-and-mouse of dating and chasing down a woman that's —ACTING?? like he can't have her, and once he gets her he's on to his next conquest. Kind of a shallow way of looking at them, but I'm telling you that's generally how most of them think.

There is a way to appeal to this single flaw without stooping to their level. Number one is..you cannot be WEAK to them, ugh. They won't respect you. I don't care how scared you are, put your game face on when dealing with fire signs, they sense fear and will harp on it. So it's cool to cry just not in front of him. Again my own opinion.
The 2nd is stop acting like your life is over, even if that's how you feel I don't think a man should ever know how torn up a woman is over him, unless she's in the wrong. If he's in the wrong, he only needs to see you upbeat, doing you, and living life. Make an Aries have to catch up, he will be silly puddy in your hands.
I'm sorry but girl, you gotta find that woman he married deep inside of you.
I??ve read that Aries men are very particular on their girlfriends alone, so if he married you he must??ve put you on the highest of the highest pedestal and he's acting out because you fell off of it. Well to get back on track tell him f**k his pedestal and live your life. Pray for your marriage. Find peace with God, and leave the Aries and his madness to him. As long as you are sure you were nothing but a good devoted wife, then you have nothing to cry about. Please don't shed another tear, if you can. Good Luck girl