Cheating spouses

Hey guys and gals!

What would make a married Aries cheat?

I know two that have cheated on their spouses, one Aries gal and the other an Aries guy... that last I spoke with her, she was ready to leave her husband for her lover; The Aries guy didnt really elaborate why he slept with someone else, only to say there's way more behind why and he wasn't ready to talk about it except to say them/their marriage is not what everyone thinks it is and not this fairytale everyone thinks it/they are. The person he cheated with wasnt planned, although he said he had always attracted to her. Both have kids (one child each.

I know Aries can be flirty, but I always found them to be faithful in love. What is the breaking point to actually sleep with someone behind a spouses back?

Hey guys and gals!

What would make a married Aries cheat?

I know two that have cheated on their spouses, one Aries gal and the other an Aries guy... that last I spoke with her, she was ready to leave her husband for her lover; The Aries guy didnt really elaborate why he slept with someone else, only to say there's way more behind why and he wasn't ready to talk about it except to say them/their marriage is not what everyone thinks it is and not this fairytale everyone thinks it/they are. The person he cheated with wasnt planned, although he said he had always attracted to her. Both have kids (one child each.

I know Aries can be flirty, but I always found them to be faithful in love. What is the breaking point in their (your) mind, relationship, etc. to actually sleep with someone behind a spouses back?

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Posted by OceanDeep

I know Aries can be flirty, but I always found them to be faithful in love. What is the breaking point to actually sleep with someone behind a spouses back?

there's probably not a single breaking point scenario out there that can serve as a good enough excuse for sleeping around behind your spouse's back. personally i don't like unfinished business that drags on and on (a half hearted relationship for example) so yeah i don't think there's such a thing as a breaking point. they're all just excuses at the end of the day, right? i'm either fully in or out. no gray areas.

Yeah breaking point prob is the right term. More or less, there has to be a turning point when the mind switches from wanting to remain faithful to then just not caring or the marriage is felt doomed/bad.

I'm just rather surprised is all, and if you're in or out then cheating is one foot out the door imho

That's why I'm surprised because I know my Aries friends are all flirty, but these two went further and both based out of something missing or making them that unhappy enough to cheat. And in my one friend's case, enough to want to divorce to be with the lover. Not sure about the guy, what his plan is/was.

*isnt the right word

Bad sex.



In all honesty, I don't know. Everyone is different. Personally, I couldn't find myself cheating on my S.O. I'd feel too bad/guilty to even go there. If I even thought about it for a second, I'd start re-evaluating the current relationship and find out why I'm having drifting thoughts like that.

As for the ones who do, maybe they're just selfish douchebags...?

The relationship would have to be over - in our heart/brain, even if the paperwork (divorce, whatever) had not been signed.

If Aries is truly in love - they'll be marytr about it because we really do believe in love.
But cheating comes in if an Aries is being neglected usually. Long term. Aries typically love an attentive partner and if that changes, they'll hang on, plead, beg, actually want to talk about the relationship (which really burns them up because they have to be humble) after that they withdraw. And it's in the withdrawal phase they are likely drawn into cheating.

Posted by ari3sfire
If Aries is truly in love - they'll be marytr about it because we really do believe in love.
But cheating comes in if an Aries is being neglected usually. Long term. Aries typically love an attentive partner and if that changes, they'll hang on, plead, beg, actually want to talk about the relationship (which really burns them up because they have to be humble) after that they withdraw. And it's in the withdrawal phase they are likely drawn into cheating.

This really seems to be what happened with my girlfriend, I don't know as much with my guyfriend because I don't see him as often. And too, he hasn't elaborated as much but said sometime he'd tell me about it. I know, or at least what he said, was his concern is their small child and said because of that would be the reason for him to stay when I asked why not divorce.

As for my girlfriend she and I were best friends for a few years, work acqaintances before that and always chatted. You would've never known there was problems, during that time. Having gotten much closer to her, she slowly started telling me how lonely she was although even then it really seemed like they had an ideal marriage. I guess it shows sometimes how people can really be struggling on the inside if their needs aren't being met or they don't feel fulfilled. She tried talking to him several times, and at one point started divorce proceedings. Shortly after that they moved away, he was on the road again and that's when the affair started.

indecisive cowards.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
The relationship would have to be over - in our heart/brain, even if the paperwork (divorce, whatever) had not been signed.

Pretty much this. Once the relationship has ended at the emotional level, assorted things like paperwork are irrelevant. A relationship only has meaning and value if I carry it in my heart.

some people want it both ways they want someone to keep the homefires burning and to be loved by someone while going out and playing around with others and having sex with whoever they choose.it's more about character & what the person feels deeply about concerning right and wrong than about their sign,there are many loyal gemini people but they get a bad rap when their relationships fall apart because they move on instead of dwell on it,but something caused the break down long before,so it's more of a personal thing not about their sign!!

Posted by ari3sfire
If Aries is truly in love - they'll be marytr about it because we really do believe in love.
But cheating comes in if an Aries is being neglected usually. Long term. Aries typically love an attentive partner and if that changes, they'll hang on, plead, beg, actually want to talk about the relationship (which really burns them up because they have to be humble) after that they withdraw. And it's in the withdrawal phase they are likely drawn into cheating.

What she said....ari3sfire is exactly right. I have been in this exact position. I will fight for attention, beg, plead, and if nothing changes, I withdraw and start to look around.

Im a cancerian. I met an Aries through my former scorpio partner 10 years ago and we were great friends and he made me laugh all the time. I went through a traumatic ending with scorpio and aries seemed to really understand. I started to like him very much. He was married and in his 50's. He never spoke well of her at all. One time she popped into his garage to bring him his lunch and his comment was when she left was well thats a first. He didnt seem pleased or happy, no thanks love, nothing from either him nor her. Seemed strange to me. Anyway i got to know him and thought he seemed nice and caring. However, the very first alarm bell which i didnt hear was when i hadnt been to see him for 3 days nor had i text him. Next thing i knew was a knock on my door, i answered he just walked in and said, ive not seen you for 3 days whats going off—!!!! I said what, nothing and i was bemused, confused whatever it is. He said it was just that he couldnt get on with not seeing me and he seemed angry about. Now 10 years on, little did i know that he always had his eyes on me. We did end up together but the journey was tough. We did have a bad time when we first got together because scorpio made things very hard for him and me, through texting all the time and spying on us when we were out. We both hated that. Time passed and things progressed. We very nearly got married. It is a really long story. He has a selfish love. Ive never heard of that before, i couldnt relate the 2. Now i see it and understand what it is. Its deceit. Its hurtful. Its not direct heartbreak. The thing with this is its a wolf in sheeps clothing. Its their stepping stone for their own benefit in the long run, not yours. Anybody want to know more?

I do not cheat. I figure if I'm at the point of considering it, I need to either fix what's wrong in my relationship or leave. So the things that would make me *think* of cheating are boredom, feeling ignored or lonely, my partner cheated, not being attracted to my partner, and if I met Johnny Depp.
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I am going through a divorce,(in aries, soon to be ex husband is scorp). He was unfaithful at beginning of relationship and I cheated on him last summer. I told him right away. It was horrible and not only did I hurt him, I hurt myself. Lesson learned. I know that I was unhappy in our relationship. Almost as soon as we got married. I cheated outta boredom, unsatisfied in every area of our life together. Marriage was not what I expected and it wasn't a good fit. I've heard the saying.. men marry women cause they don't want them to change, women marry men to change them. Huh.. go figures! Over the course of the 4 years we were together, he quit or got fired from every job, never helped provide, he brought his 2 kids into our relationship, they lived with us, which was fine, love those kids, but then its my job to support us all while he either played video games all day or run around all day looking to get high, I had suspecpions, but whenever I confronted him he looked me square in the eyes and lied. I cheated after this went in for 2 years. During this time I lost all interest in having sex with him. Which was always an agruement. Times I cried and begged him to be the man we need. the guy I cheated on him with was a one night stand. I think I needed an ego boost after my spirits had dwendled down to nothing. We broke up for 6 weeks in febuary this year. Decided to try it again, get counciling. Our 3 session he wad out getting drunk. He got a job, bought 40 dollars in food. That's all he's contributed in 2 months of working. I told him I needed space. Then a few days ago told him I want divorce. I think once an aries heart is somewhere else, doesn't have to be with another person, but once its done, its done. And staying cause we don't want to hurt the other person, just makes more misery in the long run! So if an aries is cheating, its probably all over in thirty heart.. heads just need to catch up.

Being horny and not thinking of the consequences. Not looking before you leaped...and also being unhappy, distrusting, and unfulfilled on some level.