Confusing Aries man,

My sun is in Aries, and the one thing I know I can relate to in regards to this sign in the need to be free and doing my own thing. I also relate to the demand for respect -- other parts of my chart have seemed to make me a little meaker, more introverted when it comes to delivery, and speaking up for myself. I finally spoke up today, to this Aries man.

I've been dealing with this fellow Aries since March of this year -- we met through a friend and there was instant attraction. We soon went on a date that lasted five hours, and all we did was talk and walk around a trail in a nearby park. Was a nice time, I really enjoyed myself and we talked about everything under the sun. He even trusted me enough by the end to share some of his deepest issues, and I had no judgment. I felt privileged to hear these things.
Soon after, he closed himself off; I could tell he regretted being so open. It seemed to scare him. And after that, I didn't hear from him for about three weeks. Out of the blue he asked me to dinner, apologized for the way he'd behaved and explained to me that it was due to shame he felt sharing that and he couldn't face me. I told him I understood he fears, and I would never judge him. But that I would also like to be respected and not left in the dark. He seemed to get the message and we continued to date for a few weeks after, and became intimate, in all aspects.
Then he disappeared again -- for a little over a month. I was pissed that he'd done this again, so I'd written him off. Until I decided that I needed to speak up for myself. I texted him last night saying I felt like he left me hanging again. He claimed the distance this time was him trying to 'sort shit out', and he didn't want me to 'be stuck in the middle of it'. I quickly shot back and told him that I understand that we all have things to sort out, but that doesn't mean he can't show me the respect and acknowledge me. So he soon said he knew where I was coming from and he asked if I would forgive him. My response?
"Well, you've done this twice already so I don't have much trust honestly. But I'm open to forgive."

He does have an ex that I'm aware of, who's gotten back with her other ex she dated after him. And I don't want to jump to conclusions because I don't know if they even still talk. But part of me is concerned that he was trying to see if this girl still wanted him or something, and is keeping that from me.

Or is this just typical, secretive, close-off Aries behavi

*closed-off Aries behavior?

Oh! And his Ascendant is Cancer, his Moon Pisces. My Ascendant and Moon are both Libra -- clearly I'm far more open and wiollign than him. We're equally sensitive, he's just so stubborn and closed off it's crazy.

*willing; damn typos!

Knowing that he has a Pisces moon makes him naturally bi-polar. lol I have the same combo. One minute I'm all open and understanding, the next I'm closed off and in my own little world. Add in some other emotional problems that he clearly has and you've got one messed up man over there. He probably needs therapy.

I agree with Pulciee. If I was really interested in someone, I wouldn't disappear. It wouldn't matter what was going on in my life.

It doesn't matter his sign or stars, he is not behaving maturely. To be intimate and then go running away to sort stuff may be honest but there are two sides to that coin. He needs to treat you respectfully and ditching out after a deep intimate time is selfish and thoughtless. Tell him that it's rude and disrespectful and tell him you deserve better. Stop being intimate with someone who obviously is not respectful of you. should you decide to see him again I certainly would have very high standards regarding putting my heart or body on the line. I would be damn sure he earned it. It could be he wants to peruse this but it really feels like he is getting an awful lot for very little input. It seems he is getting his cake and eating it to and your getting left with a bunch of crumbs. I wouldn't feel good about that. I would tell him if he wants to spend time with you he needs to be more of a gentleman and show respect for you and your feelings. Tell him you need to be treated like a lady and see if he can step up. Men will only treat you like a lady if you behave like one.

Funnily enough, he's coming after me again and I'm not as invested now. I can feel him suddenly opening up to me and he's texting me everyday now, and I'm kind of over his crap at this point. Mehh.

Mans I know it's not just for sex. Crazy to see the tables turning

*And I know it's not just for sex.

That's an Aries for ya. As soon as someone is no longer interested we're like whaaaa? Hold up! Lol it's the chase.

Be careful though because once he knows that you're interested again he might disappear because he's not really that emotionally invested .

I'm an Aries myself so I understand the chase; however, I don't think it's him not being emotionally invested. I was pushing him away the last time as saw him and I saw his Pisces moon emerging; he was clinging to me quite a bit and very affectionate. Was different.

He also kept mentioning wanting to "claim" me lol

Claim you?! Well now! What happened here?! Lol

Lol yeah was a definite shift. Sounds almost Scorpio-like to me, right?