I guess it's time I move on

I have been with my aries guy just short if 4 years now. Again, we are back to him ignoring me. His best friend was recently injured and is now fighting for his life. I'm text him only twice a day to check for any changes. Nothing more. I'm trying not to get in his way but the ignoring has been ever since I moved and no longer his neighbor back in March I haven't seen or heard much from him. I went over the day after the accident and he broke down in my arms. Cried for hours. Wanted me to stay but I have to take medication every night. He was drunk and passed out so I went on and left. When I ask about his friend or anything else I get one word answers.
I have supported this man emotionally when others wouldn't.
I just don't understand bc during my move I had to stay with him a little more than 3 weeks. He was so loving and I made him want to be a better man, he loved me with all of his heart, just alot of things that I know were hard for him to admit to. I am the longest relationship he has ever had. All the others were a few weeks at most.
Now that I'm no longer a neighbor he doesn't seem to be interested anymore....
I need aries advice. Do I hold on or just let go?

Eh, it's been 4 years, why let go now? He's going through a hard time, and might not have a lot to talk about. Give it time.

He thinks you deserted him 😢

But I didn't. I got evicted after 11 years. I had no choice but to move. Believe me, moving was very hard on me and my family bc where we lived was like family.

How can you consider this a relationship if you barely hear from him anymore and he's ignoring you because you moved?

Posted by AriesIntrovert16
Eh, it's been 4 years, why let go now?

This is the stupidest logic ever. I don't understand why people think that it's okay to have this attitude.

I'm sorry you are going through shit and back with the aries. Four years is along time to be with someone, learning to deal with good and the bad, it's not easy being an earth sign with a fire sign.

The two Aries that I know are sensitive deep down. They do want someone there for them. Like a stable rock..Aries are strong it was probably hard for him to cry onto your shoulder...and you left..oh I'm pretty sure you've had sex before, so even if you felt sex wasn't right. It maybe could of been your unselfish way to let go and just cater to him like a child needs attention..love, food, support, and communication. But every Arian is different. Only you know what he likes, or doesn't..

And yeah that ignoring shit people do is a sign they moved on or has something else to do. So when that happens we're supposed be independent and do our own things in life while people decide what to do..should I stay or go.. yeah four years is along time but shit can happen so fast, and impulsively that it's over before you can stay I'm sorry. Maybe there are other reasons not to work it out..


So move on and next time a bff is hurt, stay with them..

I didn't leave him. I went over every night after work a ten hour day and then going to feed my grandparents and getting them to bed safely. I still managed to get over there afterwards. He is ALWAYS drunk. I did everything possible to be there for him with the exception of forgoing my own family.
I DID NOT LEAVE HIM INTENTIONALLY. I WAS EVICTED FROM MY PLACE AFTER 11 YEARS!
I have made my decision. I have been his emotional punching bag for long enough. I don't deserve that.

I'm sorry you are going through that with your family and your situation. That's not right at all. To give and give and never share.. it's inconsiderate, uncomfortable, and selfish. That's too much to deal with already. Yeah sorry it didn't work out. And I'm glad you are taking care of yourself. Cause he won't.

Posted by ladycappi41
I didn't leave him. I went over every night after work a ten hour day and then going to feed my grandparents and getting them to bed safely. I still managed to get over there afterwards. He is ALWAYS drunk. I did everything possible to be there for him with the exception of forgoing my own family.
I DID NOT LEAVE HIM INTENTIONALLY. I WAS EVICTED FROM MY PLACE AFTER 11 YEARS!
I have made my decision. I have been his emotional punching bag for long enough. I don't deserve that.

Wait, he's been an emotional leech for awhile now?

No wonder he's behaving like he is. Move along. It's shitty that you'd have to do this after 4 years together, but if it's been 4 years of dysfunction, this eviction was a godsend and a sign for you to move the hell along to someone much better for you and your own emotional wellbeing. You cannot continue to tolerate an emotional freak because they will NOT change if you stick around. By sticking around, you're telling them that it's okay for them to behave that way and they will continue to do so.

I have decided to move on. It's hard after so long but I think I am in love with the illusion that I have in my own head of who he can be...
That illusion is no longer working for me. Meeting people around here is hard. Most have some sort of addiction. Alcohol, pills, drugs, something. I'm not a bar goer either.