Deeply in love with an Aries.. but confused!

Hi all..

Im new here, and really hope to find help out here... I'll try to make my story as short as possible.. but its gonna be tricky 🙂


How am i gonna start all this thing.. First, im libra man.. yea, i know.. Aries and Libras aren't the perfect match.. But still, even if we are completely different.. we blend quite smoothly.. She fits me perfectly!

all started like 5 years ago or so, she was studyin abroad.. we met while she was on holidays.. it was nice.. but i wasn't really into her.. and i was plannin to get into a long distance relatiionship.. So we dated for a couple of months.. and when she got back to Italy for her studies.. it didn't work well... so.. we broke up.. But she was in love with me.. thats what she was saying... and showing..

Couple of months later, when she was on holidays again, she tried to get back to me.. But i was avoiding her, not answering her calls or texts.. Wasn't in the mood to get into a distance thing again.. Specially coz it scr*wed up once already..


One year ago, same story again :p, On holidays.. we got in touch.. and it worked pretty well... she told me that she was still loving me.. that she really suffered from my behavior.. and was sure that i was that "special one" for her.. and told me too that she'll just add one more year in italy.. then she'll get back here.. so that we'll be together.. It sounded sweet by time.. and i must admit that i had feelings for her too.. and she was too damn sexy!! So we dated... we've spent 3 months together.. than she flew off to italy.. she did her best to come gimme as much as she could during the year.. and we were giving news to each other on a daily basis... Daily hours phone calls and all the stuff..


We've ended wth the background stuff.. it's tiime for the but finally!!

2 months ago, her mom was supposed to giv her a visit in italy.. to fix all the paper work for her final arrival.. So.. she told me that we won't be talkin as long as her mom is with her, coz she doesn't feel really comfortable with that.. and that she's not really close to her mom..

Since her mom got there, i haven't hear any news from her.. she just mailed me once, like a month ago.. with stg like.."everythiings ok.. don't worry.. im just fixin stuff here.. don't panic".. Nothing since.. i've been texting her, mailing her, calling her... she never answers or pick up..

Couple of weeks ago.. One friend of hers, told me that she got back to the country.. and that she was m

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...and that she was meeting her on a daily basis.. and that she doesn't know why she behaves this way..

I've tried to call her.. text her... she never answers.. i don't know what to do... Don't know if she just decided to move on... But.. why would she want to move on.. Knowing that she transfered from her college to here for me.. so that we could be together...

Lately, i've been callin her like 3.. 4 times a day.. leavin messages and texts.. But No Reply !!


Dunno what's wrong with her.... She told me once, that when she'll get back.. I'll have to bear her behavior.. coz i made her suffer before, and becoz she came for me... maybe thats what she doing...


I don't know if i should keep up the pressure and the calling stuff.. or leav her alone for a while... and wait for her to do her move... The only thing i knew for now.. is that i hate when she do this to me !!

The only thng i know is that i don't wanna lose her, and im a bit afraid.. that i've already lost her a bit.. Coz.. 2 months with no news... thats a bit big!


Sorry for the so long message.. Its just so that you guyz, get the whole story..

Do Aries Woman change their mind quickly... she've been loving me for 5yrs now.. it's been a year that we're together.. why leave now.. that we can get together..??

The Libra guy in front of you is confused... Help him out!

Leave her alone for a while; make no more attempts at contact. If you still don't hear anything I say let it be. If she took the time to be with friends but doesn't want you around her mom or them, there are issues on her end you may not know about.

Aries woman are there or not, all hot or ice cold. Her being on the fence about the way the last five years went may be making her place distance until she is sure if you should just be friends or more. Also she was overseas a long time and she may just be this way in person. But to go from daily to none, something is up...

Easy to say.. Bt harder to do..

Even if the calling stuff is completely useless.. But somehow, it's just like... a relief.. or wateva.. Feel better when i do it..


i should thing bout create a poll.. with two choices or stg 😛


Thx for the advce tho' Flavia!

"She told me once, that when she'll get back.. I'll have to bear her behavior.. coz i made her suffer before, and becoz she came for me... maybe thats what she doing..."

That's f'ed up. Aries & Libra are actually pretty good together but if she's making you pay for not being as sure about her as she was about you, then SHE is the one who needs a lesson. Everybody has their own timetable when it comes to falling in love and the one pursuing needs to understand that & not punish you when you do finally come around. I would rather enjoy 'my prize' then punish him. What foolish game is this girl playing?

I don't see why she couldn't talk to you even though her mother was there. Is she attached to her hip? I used to sneak out & call a boyfriend my parents didn't want me to have so there's no excuse.

Stop the calls, all communication. Make her wonder where you went. In the meantime, you are available so go out & have fun. If you meet another girl, go for it. You have no obligation to this one since she doesn't have a clue how to care for you.

I hate those stupid mind games.. and yea, I bet she's saying stg like "it's Revenge time!" or... "im no more overseas.. we'll have all the time to be together.. there's no hurry... Let's just play a bit with him"

And I love the way u see things Mistery !!

Actually, i met a girl lately... but as all ladies, she wants me to run after her.. show attention and all the stuff.. (Which is normal afterall) its just that im really not in the mood.. i keep thinkin of my Aries all the time... and it eats me from the inside..

*Sorry for my poor english, it's not my first language..*

Well first of all I cant tell exactly how she feels since every Aries girl is different, depending on which signs they have in their charts and so on.. But as an Aries girl I could try to give you some advices.
(Btw, I think Aries and Libras get along quite well. My closest friend is an Libra lol)

She clearly feels/felt a lot for you and really cares about you. If an Aries try to contact you time and time again and you go on and ignore her, she feels stupid and like her proud is being misused, so when she told you she was really suffering that first time you should believe her.
Aries always have a lot of things going on, school, friends etc. so she could be busy. You say she wrote to you and told you "everything is ok (...)". That was to make you sure that she wasn't forgetting you, but maybe she is having her doubts. It's typical aries, to love like crazy, but then start to doubt. Dont be to clingy. What Aries(well talking for myself now) dont like, is when you are constantly contacting her, like calling her and texting her all the time. Sure she enjoys the fact that you care about her, but stay cool. Be right on it, tell her clearly exactly what you feel about her behaviour and give her an option like "either you talk to me or it's over for good". That way, she have to do something. If she doesn't, then you know she is over you.


And btw, yes Aries woman do change her mind quickly about things they arent 100 % sure.. unfortunately

Even if every Aries Girl is different, It seems that WaterAries and my girl are quite the same 🙂


I really believe, and convinced that i lade her suffer before.. and that deep inside her, she didn't forgive me.. actually, maybe she's forgiving me.. But not forgetting..!

The mistake I made, is being too clingy while she disappeared.. I was sending her dozens of mails on her FB page.. to the point that she deactivated her page (about a week now). I hope that's too late now, but i'll try to cool things down a bit.. leav her alone.. Let her do her things.. give her a week reflexion.. and see whats happening..

I can't go for the "either u talk to me or it's over for good".. I know her, she hates ultimatums... and she'll pick the 'it's over' just to show her strenght.. And i dont wanna risk losing her for that...


The only thing that i forget in all this... Is that maybe, i've already lost her :/

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Easy to say.. Bt harder to do..

Even if the calling stuff is completely useless.. But somehow, it's just like... a relief.. or wateva.. Feel better when i do it..


i should thing bout create a poll.. with two choices or stg 😛


Thx for the advce tho' Flavia!

It won't be easy. But you need to do this for your well being. I read a few of the posts after this one by you and if she also deactivated her fb, it is not good to continue contacting her. Just give yourself time away from your situation with her. It will be a daily task and effort. If you can do that it will get better over time 😉

Hope she won't get my 'silence' as a "u decided to hide? Good for you, I don't care, Cya!"...


I'll keep you updated.. But if i don't get any news by sunday... i'll do a "useless" move again... can't help it 🙂

Leave her alone. Nagging will make things worse and you wont give her the chance to miss you or wonder if you're over her or not.
She will contact you if she's still interested, not to mention that if she isn't the distance might spark interest again.

Circonflex - Let it past more than a week. I know how hard it can be, when you really want to contact someone all the time, you want to hear something from them but they just give you the silence treatment. There is a reason til why she acts the way she acts.. Try to do alot of other things to keep your mind busy (well atleast try to), and let it go a while. She knows now that she have her exactly where she want to, she can come and go, meet other boys, if she misses you she can contact you. You know what I mean? She take you for granted at this point because you are always trying to contact her... Just dont write or contact her in a loooong while now. Take a rest. She will then be all "Oh, why isn't he contacting me? What is happening??" and she will maybe think you have moved on. THIS will make her really scared (if she really loves you and cares for you) because then she wont take you for granted anymore, she will realize that you could dissapear for good out of her life (let her think so atleast). She will be confused that you are not contacting her and then she will contact you sooner or later. Please, just dont write or contact her anymore. I think the more you contact her, the less she want to be with you. She will feel like you are stalking her kind of.. Dont know how to explain it, but at the end it will be too much for her. So my only advice: STOP contacting her, live your on life, and she will then sooner or later contact you if she cares for you still! And if she doesn't, well why would you even want to have a person like that in your life? Is she worth all your thoughts, all your time, if she really doesnt love you? Just relax and let time show if this is meant to be or if it never was. 🙂

Well.. Thank you all for your advices and support.. You have a great community out here.

Concerning my story.. Well, didn't go well.. I think that she definitely don't wanna hear from me again.. For some mysterious reasons.. She just re-activated her FB account, BUT.. She removed me from her friends.. the relationship status.. removed my friends that I introduced to her too..
I know by one of her friends, that she told her that our story was over. So.. I guess.. This is it 🙂

I still don't know what are her reasons.. why is she acting this way.. But i think it's over now, i should think bout moving.. and be, a bit less "sensitive" in my future relationships.. Coz im a bit tired of the being broken hearted.. I should find a way to get that guy'ish.. don't give a fuck.. "not telling her that im in love"-attitude..

After that, I sent one long message on FB.. Telling her how much i love her.. that i don't understand why shes acting this way.. that we could sort things up.. Blah Blah Blah.. But.. This time, im not waiting for her to answer.. Usually, when she gets stg on her mind she sticks to it whateva what happens...

So.. I Guess i'll just lay low.. And try to move on.. and i guess that if she's acting this way.. she must have her reasons... even if they are.. unknown for me!

I am sorry it turned out the way it did.. We cant know why she choose to ended this, I suppose she just didn't feel the same way anymore that she use to feel. You'll probably never know why she did what she did and maybe that's even for the better?

But one thing I have to comment, I dont think you should change yourself and be more "guyish", like you wrote. I think you should be exactly who you are, you should be open with your emotions, I think that's a really good quality, that I wished more guys had... That's really a good thing, so hold on to that!
I am glad you realize you should move on, that is of course the best thing to do. If she removes you from FB it's clearly that she thinks you are over.
One day you'll find someone who understands you and who appreciate you for who you are.

I've done this kind of thing and hate to admit it. Sometimes we go after a challenge (you) but once we get you, we're not so sure anymore. Of course there's no way of knowing exactly what happened with her but yeah, I've done this & left men confused. I regret it deeply.

Still, don't lose faith in love. Every man & woman have had their hearts broken at some time. Karma came around and got me. It'll get her too. Always be the strong one, the one who isn't afraid to love & give your all.

2 months—?? that's a long time in anyones book and to deactivate her page...doesnt sound like she is interested at all! Not to mention not responding to any of your texts calls and emails....

All these Red Flags and people are telling you to hang on in there— **shakes head**

Move on already...if she decides to come back then you can deal with everything but in the meantime you need to get yourself sorted and back to being a man or someone that isnt wasting all his time and thoughts on someone that doesnt even care enough to respond or of how you feel!!!!

Yes it's a tough road ahead but you arent the only broken hearted person...take a look around!@

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Posted by Mistery
I've done this kind of thing and hate to admit it. Sometimes we go after a challenge (you) but once we get you, we're not so sure anymore. Of course there's no way of knowing exactly what happened with her but yeah, I've done this & left men confused. I regret it deeply.

Have you ever done anything to perhaps say "Sorry" ?

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Oh yes but you have to understand at the time, I wasn't aware of the motivation behind my behavior. It wasn't until I got him that things seem to fizzle. I was just as confused and hurt because I sincerely thought it was what I wanted. It leaves the chaser empty as well. Only when you mature emotionally do you realize the mistakes you've made in the past. Perhaps that's why I'm very judgmental about power-play relationships. I see thru it so clearly & don't want other's to be hurt or toyed with. Just paying some karmic dues. 🙂