How would you take this?

My Aries male ex and I have managed to stay friends after our breakup, both have feelings for each other still but his depression and self esteem got so bad we both agreed on a seperation. Remained friends until today I finally decided I needed to not be friends so I can move on, his last message says "they say absence makes the heart grow fonder so you can hold on to that or just move on, you have two choices" im super confused. Especially when he has told me we will not date again and it sounds too romantic to be towards being friends again. I don't plan on waiting around for him, but im super confused by it.

Jesus girl, he's playing with you.

"they say absence makes the heart grow fonder (SO is a conjunction) so you can hold on to that (OR is another conjunction) or just move on, you have two choices"

Your CALL, but he's confused because when one says, "Absence makes a heart grow fonder." Taurean (John) and I don't see one another until like eight days later WE are kinda sorta a "couple" (his call; not in a hurry); yet you TWO have broken up (thus the ex, but have "feelings").

Flip this on him and tell him YAY or NAY....period (.) He's depressed and wants to hold on to "something" and it's not your fault of his diagnosis, taking his meds, seeing a doctor, controlling his temper (anger management classes?). Yeah, he's right, give him your final answer (no phone a friend, etc).

DO you want to hold on to him OR move on? The OTHER saying I like is, "Time reveals a person's heart"

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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Jesus girl, he's playing with you.

"they say absence makes the heart grow fonder (SO is a conjunction) so you can hold on to that (OR is another conjunction) or just move on, you have two choices"

Your CALL, but he's confused because when one says, "Absence makes a heart grow fonder." Taurean (John) and I don't see one another until like eight days later WE are kinda sorta a "couple" (his call; not in a hurry); yet you TWO have broken up (thus the ex, but have "feelings").

Flip this on him and tell him YAY or NAY....period (.) He's depressed and wants to hold on to "something" and it's not your fault of his diagnosis, taking his meds, seeing a doctor, controlling his temper (anger management classes?). Yeah, he's right, give him your final answer (no phone a friend, etc).

DO you want to hold on to him OR move on? The OTHER saying I like is, "Time reveals a person's heart"

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Thanks for the input!

I straight up asked him what it means and said because that leans more towards him wanting me to wait on him romantically and not just friends. He said "interpret it how ever you like". It pissed me off haha. But either way I'm going to to move on, I hate games like this. Seems childish to reply like he did.

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Jesus girl, he's playing with you.

"they say absence makes the heart grow fonder (SO is a conjunction) so you can hold on to that (OR is another conjunction) or just move on, you have two choices"

Your CALL, but he's confused because when one says, "Absence makes a heart grow fonder." Taurean (John) and I don't see one another until like eight days later WE are kinda sorta a "couple" (his call; not in a hurry); yet you TWO have broken up (thus the ex, but have "feelings").

Flip this on him and tell him YAY or NAY....period (.) He's depressed and wants to hold on to "something" and it's not your fault of his diagnosis, taking his meds, seeing a doctor, controlling his temper (anger management classes?). Yeah, he's right, give him your final answer (no phone a friend, etc).

DO you want to hold on to him OR move on? The OTHER saying I like is, "Time reveals a person's heart"

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Thanks for the input!

I straight up asked him what it means and said because that leans more towards him wanting me to wait on him romantically and not just friends. He said "interpret it how ever you like". It pissed me off haha. But either way I'm going to to move on, I hate games like this. Seems childish to reply like he did.

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Thus the reason(s) why I am NEVER "friends" with my exes (according to my birth chart that Froggy interpreted):

"Despite your Pisces placements, the planetary placements show someone who will put out their wishes ahead of other things and won't be remorseful of cutting ties. You can be stubborn about things that matters to you... And you also have the ability to go after what you what."

I have learned when God closes a door, he will blow one WIDE open for me...he has 😉

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

I'm pretty sure he is saying if you leave and can't be friends it's a warning that he will be done completely.

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I'm pretty sure he is saying if you leave and can't be friends it's a warning that he will be done completely.

That's the thing he has said we won't date again and then says this shit

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Jesus girl, he's playing with you.

"they say absence makes the heart grow fonder (SO is a conjunction) so you can hold on to that (OR is another conjunction) or just move on, you have two choices"

Your CALL, but he's confused because when one says, "Absence makes a heart grow fonder." Taurean (John) and I don't see one another until like eight days later WE are kinda sorta a "couple" (his call; not in a hurry); yet you TWO have broken up (thus the ex, but have "feelings").

Flip this on him and tell him YAY or NAY....period (.) He's depressed and wants to hold on to "something" and it's not your fault of his diagnosis, taking his meds, seeing a doctor, controlling his temper (anger management classes?). Yeah, he's right, give him your final answer (no phone a friend, etc).

DO you want to hold on to him OR move on? The OTHER saying I like is, "Time reveals a person's heart"

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Thanks for the input!

I straight up asked him what it means and said because that leans more towards him wanting me to wait on him romantically and not just friends. He said "interpret it how ever you like". It pissed me off haha. But either way I'm going to to move on, I hate games like this. Seems childish to reply like he did.

Thus the reason(s) why I am NEVER "friends" with my exes (according to my birth chart that Froggy interpreted):

"Despite your Pisces placements, the planetary placements show someone who will put out their wishes ahead of other things and won't be remorseful of cutting ties. You can be stubborn about things that matters to you... And you also have the ability to go after what you what."

I have learned when God closes a door, he will blow one WIDE open for me...he has 😉

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

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I wish I could cut ties without wondering if I did otherwise, that's why I'm so cautious anymore. But you're very right, a new door will open after another closes

It seems you found yourself a very smart Aries...it was so obvious what he just told you.

An Aries could have *10 infatuations per day*...but for an Aries to fall in Love...it takes Time....

Ever heard of a thing called the *chase* ?...That chase implies one thing....Time...

If you can't understand him...just leave him...he will never Love you anyway...

Aries can only see her or his partner as Equal...not above or bellow...hence why some say that *he treats me like a man*...

That's were you come in...it's up to *you* to shape this little boy into a man...and if you are woman enough or if you ever do manage to shape him into a Man....let me tell you something....

Jackpot.

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It seems you found yourself a very smart Aries...it was so obvious what he just told you.

An Aries could have *10 infatuations per day*...but for an Aries to fall in Love...it takes Time....

Ever heard of a thing called the *chase* ?...That chase implies one thing....Time...

If you can't understand him...just leave him...he will never Love you anyway...

Aries can only see her or his partner as Equal...not above or bellow...hence why some say that *he treats me like a man*...

That's were you come in...it's up to *you* to shape this little boy into a man...and if you are woman enough or if you ever do manage to shape him into a Man....let me tell you something....

Jackpot.

Damn this is fairly accurate with a Aries that is trying to figure his shit out.

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Jesus girl, he's playing with you.

"they say absence makes the heart grow fonder (SO is a conjunction) so you can hold on to that (OR is another conjunction) or just move on, you have two choices"

Your CALL, but he's confused because when one says, "Absence makes a heart grow fonder." Taurean (John) and I don't see one another until like eight days later WE are kinda sorta a "couple" (his call; not in a hurry); yet you TWO have broken up (thus the ex, but have "feelings").

Flip this on him and tell him YAY or NAY....period (.) He's depressed and wants to hold on to "something" and it's not your fault of his diagnosis, taking his meds, seeing a doctor, controlling his temper (anger management classes?). Yeah, he's right, give him your final answer (no phone a friend, etc).

DO you want to hold on to him OR move on? The OTHER saying I like is, "Time reveals a person's heart"

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

I am curious about how does time reveals a persona heart?

He doesn't want you to leave but he's letting it be your choice. And he won't come out and ask you to stay either. That pride thing.

Sounds like mind games are involved as well.

What's weird is he made it clear that he doesn't want to date you again. But his response sound flirty.

Does your friendship cross lines? As in it can be more than friendly?

He might just keep you around for the company/attention of the opposite sex.

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He doesn't want you to leave but he's letting it be your choice. And he won't come out and ask you to stay either. That pride thing.

Sounds like mind games are involved as well.

What's weird is he made it clear that he doesn't want to date you again. But his response sound flirty.

Does your friendship cross lines? As in it can be more than friendly?

He might just keep you around for the company/attention of the opposite sex.

Yes, i totaly agree with you.

There is alot of pride/ego and mind games involved in this one, but he his also asking her for one thing...more Time...

He is basicly leaving this up to her....if she gives up...he will think that she was not worth it after all...if she stays...he will keep thinking about it.

It's like he said...2 choices...very very simple.

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Why do women act or claim they're confused when they damn well know what the deal is?

Explain

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He doesn't want you to leave but he's letting it be your choice. And he won't come out and ask you to stay either. That pride thing.

Sounds like mind games are involved as well.

What's weird is he made it clear that he doesn't want to date you again. But his response sound flirty.

Does your friendship cross lines? As in it can be more than friendly?

He might just keep you around for the company/attention of the opposite sex.

Yes, i totaly agree with you.

There is alot of pride/ego and mind games involved in this one, but he his also asking her for one thing...more Time...

He is basicly leaving this up to her....if she gives up...he will think that she was not worth it after all...if she stays...he will keep thinking about it.

It's like he said...2 choices...very very simple.

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It feels manipulative tho. Putting her in a position where she doesn't know the right move to make. Making her feel like if she makes the right choice she could have a chance with him. Meanwhile he's made it clear that they won't date again.

Like manipulativing her into staying and wasting more of her time.

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He doesn't want you to leave but he's letting it be your choice. And he won't come out and ask you to stay either. That pride thing.

Sounds like mind games are involved as well.

What's weird is he made it clear that he doesn't want to date you again. But his response sound flirty.

Does your friendship cross lines? As in it can be more than friendly?

He might just keep you around for the company/attention of the opposite sex.

Yes, i totaly agree with you.

There is alot of pride/ego and mind games involved in this one, but he his also asking her for one thing...more Time...

He is basicly leaving this up to her....if she gives up...he will think that she was not worth it after all...if she stays...he will keep thinking about it.

It's like he said...2 choices...very very simple.

It feels manipulative tho. Putting her in a position where she doesn't know the right move to make. Making her feel like if she makes the right choice she could have a chance with him. Meanwhile he's made it clear that they won't date again.

Like manipulativing her into staying and wasting more of her time.

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Yes, very manipulative and very Arian...you know the deal, right ?...you are also an Aries.

Sometimes these people forget that we are rulled by the Head.

But as an Aries you also know one thing....we never make *you* waste *your* Time.

If she gives him the Time he needs...he will never let her down....we keep our *word*...without our *word* we are nothing.

And aren't we blunt ?..you think that if he didn't liked her he woldn't say it ?...you know that we wold.

Yes..it's a risk she is taking...but we also don't know their background story or his story...maybe he said he didn't want to date again because of a *reason* that requires Time for him to *heal* up.

Woldn't you agree ?...

Yes you're right. We don't know the full story. And in my younger days I played mind games with those I wasn't truly interested in.

But I don't believe in any of that behavior. I'm straight forward. Open book. And a person of my word. Won't mislead you. Tell you like it is... and you can do with it what you want. The joys of maturing

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Yes you're right. We don't know the full story. And in my younger days I played mind games with those I wasn't truly interested in.

But I don't believe in any of that behavior. I'm straight forward. Open book. And a person of my word. Won't mislead you. Tell you like it is... and you can do with it what you want. The joys of maturing

Me neither.

But at the end of the day you are failing to realise this......we aren't talking about You and Me.....we are talking about Him.

And the same way He gave her choices...You and Me did the same...we agreed with each other...and we exposed all the choices she could make.

So you see...us Aries...it's all about choice...thing is...when we Aries gives you the choice.....despite all the games egos and etc etc etc...it means one thing above all....we care.

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Yes you're right. We don't know the full story. And in my younger days I played mind games with those I wasn't truly interested in.

But I don't believe in any of that behavior. I'm straight forward. Open book. And a person of my word. Won't mislead you. Tell you like it is... and you can do with it what you want. The joys of maturing

Me neither.

But at the end of the day you are failing to realise this......we aren't talking about You and Me.....we are talking about Him.

And the same way He gave her choices...You and Me did the same...we agreed with each other...and we exposed all the choices she could make.

So you see...us Aries...it's all about choice...thing is...when we Aries gives you the choice.....despite all the games egos and etc etc etc...it means one thing above all....we care.

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You have an interesting perspective, that's the thing though. He was willing to break up with me and has said we probably won't date again. Like trying not to give me false hope I guess. And had said in our last conversations I need to move on in order to be just friends. And I didn't expect his message at all. We were talking about being just friends then he says that message, completely throws me off and then when I say "wait that sounds romantic and that's usually something people say involving love" and all he said was "interpret however you like" which didn't deny it or confirm it. I don't know if it's a choice or not, I saw it as I should move on or just keep wanting him but it's my choice what I do. It's also something I would never say to a friend though, or meaning friendship is a possibilities. And he doesn't usually ever say stuff that leads me on. And anytime I ask for clarification he has always given it but this time.

I also never did anything to hurt him when we were together l practically tried my best to make him feel wanted and good enough. No matter what I said he always felt inadequate

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He doesn't want you to leave but he's letting it be your choice. And he won't come out and ask you to stay either. That pride thing.

Sounds like mind games are involved as well.

What's weird is he made it clear that he doesn't want to date you again. But his response sound flirty.

Does your friendship cross lines? As in it can be more than friendly?

He might just keep you around for the company/attention of the opposite sex.

Yes, i totaly agree with you.

There is alot of pride/ego and mind games involved in this one, but he his also asking her for one thing...more Time...

He is basicly leaving this up to her....if she gives up...he will think that she was not worth it after all...if she stays...he will keep thinking about it.

It's like he said...2 choices...very very simple.

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Very interesting I didn't even see it as him asking for more time, unless it's hidden in that message. He is not the type to ask that of anyone though

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Yes you're right. We don't know the full story. And in my younger days I played mind games with those I wasn't truly interested in.

But I don't believe in any of that behavior. I'm straight forward. Open book. And a person of my word. Won't mislead you. Tell you like it is... and you can do with it what you want. The joys of maturing

Me neither.

But at the end of the day you are failing to realise this......we aren't talking about You and Me.....we are talking about Him.

And the same way He gave her choices...You and Me did the same...we agreed with each other...and we exposed all the choices she could make.

So you see...us Aries...it's all about choice...thing is...when we Aries gives you the choice.....despite all the games egos and etc etc etc...it means one thing above all....we care.

You have an interesting perspective, that's the thing though. He was willing to break up with me and has said we probably won't date again. Like trying not to give me false hope I guess. And had said in our last conversations I need to move on in order to be just friends. And I didn't expect his message at all. We were talking about being just friends then he says that message, completely throws me off and then when I say "wait that sounds romantic and that's usually something people say involving love" and all he said was "interpret however you like" which didn't deny it or confirm it. I don't know if it's a choice or not, I saw it as I should move on or just keep wanting him but it's my choice what I do. It's also something I would never say to a friend though, or meaning friendship is a possibilities. And he doesn't usually ever say stuff that leads me on. And anytime I ask for clarification he has always given it but this time.

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Aries do not lead people on when it comes to this things...we are blunt and direct.

For me that was very direct lol

It takes Time for an Aries to get in tune with their emotions...and the more he is away from you..the more he will realise...read again what he said.

And you seriously asked him (an Aries) if he that was romantic and if he was in love ? Hehe You still got a good answer from him 🙂

I dunno what's up with him/you or if there is another reason he needs Time, but keep that to yourself.

The moment he gave you the choice, he already knows all the possible outcomes and he will follow it through with wathever is your choice.

But he is also doing another thing...he is testing you... Aries don't care about words...but we do care about actions...your actions...your choices...that's all he needs in order to know\realise what you really feel about him 😉

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My Aries male ex and I have managed to stay friends after our breakup, both have feelings for each other still but his depression and self esteem got so bad we both agreed on a seperation. Remained friends until today I finally decided I needed to not be friends so I can move on, his last message says "they say absence makes the heart grow fonder so you can hold on to that or just move on, you have two choices" im super confused. Especially when he has told me we will not date again and it sounds too romantic to be towards being friends again. I don't plan on waiting around for him, but im super confused by it.

His statement is HELLUVA confusing! These apparent "choices" arent so clear at all. Talking in riddles, sounds quite Libra lol!

Choice no1. Hold onto "abscence makes the heart grow fonder" - how does one "hold onto that" and what kind of choice is this anyway?

Choice no2. Move on.

But I agree, I remember when I first met my Aries, he was very much ball in my court-ish. Didnt put a fight or show anything either way. It was a very unclear but i was ready for it and to prove myself more than worthy. We've been together 1 year next month and now he'll fight for me and show me that he needs/wants me in his life.

It is a good lesson for you at the end of the day. You control your destiny. You decide who stays and who goes, who's worthy and who's not. How long did you date?

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My Aries male ex and I have managed to stay friends after our breakup, both have feelings for each other still but his depression and self esteem got so bad we both agreed on a seperation. Remained friends until today I finally decided I needed to not be friends so I can move on, his last message says "they say absence makes the heart grow fonder so you can hold on to that or just move on, you have two choices" im super confused. Especially when he has told me we will not date again and it sounds too romantic to be towards being friends again. I don't plan on waiting around for him, but im super confused by it.

His statement is HELLUVA confusing! These apparent "choices" arent so clear at all. Talking in riddles, sounds quite Libra lol!

Choice no1. Hold onto "abscence makes the heart grow fonder" - how does one "hold onto that" and what kind of choice is this anyway?

Choice no2. Move on.

But I agree, I remember when I first met my Aries, he was very much ball in my court-ish. Didnt put a fight or show anything either way. It was a very unclear but i was ready for it and to prove myself more than worthy. We've been together 1 year next month and now he'll fight for me and show me that he needs/wants me in his life.

It is a good lesson for you at the end of the day. You control your destiny. You decide who stays and who goes, who's worthy and who's not. How long did you date?

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Exactly lmao...

I still can't really wrap my head around it, and him not explaining it makes me feel like its mind games perhaps. Even though he's a straight forward type. Makes me feel like even though he has said he doesn't wanna date me right now and I should move on if we can be friends, that he is still confused or not decided on "letting me go" completely. I think he said it so I would keep him in my mind and keep me thinking about what it means. He didn't deny it to be related to love or relationship though, said to interpret how ever I like. Just seems like a selfish way of making sure I don't forget about him? Weird that it came up from a conversation based on friendship. Him and I courted for about 4 months, then made it official that lasted 5 more months. Been "friends" for maybe 2 months up until now. We aren't on speaking terms and idk when or if we will be but I'm just going to focus on better myself since it's all I can do. I kind of wish he didn't have to go and say something like that. Confusion makes everything harder. But being the just friends when you want more is so much harder than just moving on. No matter how much you love someone

Personally, this feels like mind games. And let's be clear, Aries ppl aren't above fucking with ppls heads for their own gain. I've witness some of my old unevloved Aries male friends play sick mind games with females.

Is he the love of your life or anything of that nature?

All I know is, don't put your life on hold for anyone. There's no space for confusion when feelings are genuine and sincere.

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Personally, this feels like mind games. And let's be clear, Aries ppl aren't above fucking with ppls heads for their own gain. I've witness some of my old unevloved Aries male friends play sick mind games with females.

Is he the love of your life or anything of that nature?

All I know is, don't put your life on hold for anyone. There's no space for confusion when feelings are genuine and sincere.

It's obvious it's mind games.

But who started this game ?..him or her ?...

For me..she telling him she doesn't want to be Freinds anymore so that she can move on...that's her mind game...this was her *card*...if he said ok "move on" she wold...if he said something else...hummm...she woldn't...notice how she asked him after "is this romantic?.."..

You think i am wrong ?...lol...if she was so clear of her real intentions and what she was about to do when she sent that message...she woldn't be on a Astrology forum asking for answers to his reply...she wold have left him by now.

He replied to her on the same coin...and that's why you shouldn't play *games* with an Aries.

So yeah....you are right with that one...Genuine and Sincere...that's really the key...i am also an Aries, i know.

You guys should be honest with yourslefs...try to ask him straight away what he really wants...and you OP...try to figure out what you really want...

He's telling u in a nice way to move on.. feelings are still there for him for u but he's putting himself first due to his depression

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My Aries male ex and I have managed to stay friends after our breakup, both have feelings for each other still but his depression and self esteem got so bad we both agreed on a seperation. Remained friends until today I finally decided I needed to not be friends so I can move on, his last message says "they say absence makes the heart grow fonder so you can hold on to that or just move on, you have two choices" im super confused. Especially when he has told me we will not date again and it sounds too romantic to be towards being friends again. I don't plan on waiting around for him, but im super confused by it.

His statement is HELLUVA confusing! These apparent "choices" arent so clear at all. Talking in riddles, sounds quite Libra lol!

Choice no1. Hold onto "abscence makes the heart grow fonder" - how does one "hold onto that" and what kind of choice is this anyway?

Choice no2. Move on.

But I agree, I remember when I first met my Aries, he was very much ball in my court-ish. Didnt put a fight or show anything either way. It was a very unclear but i was ready for it and to prove myself more than worthy. We've been together 1 year next month and now he'll fight for me and show me that he needs/wants me in his life.

It is a good lesson for you at the end of the day. You control your destiny. You decide who stays and who goes, who's worthy and who's not. How long did you date?

Exactly lmao...

I still can't really wrap my head around it, and him not explaining it makes me feel like its mind games perhaps. Even though he's a straight forward type. Makes me feel like even though he has said he doesn't wanna date me right now and I should move on if we can be friends, that he is still confused or not decided on "letting me go" completely. I think he said it so I would keep him in my mind and keep me thinking about what it means. He didn't deny it to be related to love or relationship though, said to interpret how ever I like. Just seems like a selfish way of making sure I don't forget about him? Weird that it came up from a conversation based on friendship. Him and I courted for about 4 months, then made it official that lasted 5 more months. Been "friends" for maybe 2 months up until now. We aren't on speaking terms and idk when or if we will be but I'm just going to focus on better myself since it's all I can do. I kind of wish he didn't have to go and say something like that. Confusion makes everything harder. But being the just friends when you want more is so much harder than just moving on. No matter how much you love someone

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So this is quite a bit of time for him to have figured you out and know exactly what he wants from/with you-and if he wanted you, you would have zero doubts about it. I guess what puts a spanner in the works here is the fact you are dealing with depression, which will affect any typical traits that you might be looking for from an astrology standpoint.

I say do your thing, live your life and if you are strong enough to remain platonic with him then do so but be open to all other possibilities in life. Men will come and go, the right one will stay and you won't have much to doubt at all!

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Personally, this feels like mind games. And let's be clear, Aries ppl aren't above fucking with ppls heads for their own gain. I've witness some of my old unevloved Aries male friends play sick mind games with females.

Is he the love of your life or anything of that nature?

All I know is, don't put your life on hold for anyone. There's no space for confusion when feelings are genuine and sincere.

It's obvious it's mind games.

But who started this game ?..him or her ?...

For me..she telling him she doesn't want to be Freinds anymore so that she can move on...that's her mind game...this was her *card*...if he said ok "move on" she wold...if he said something else...hummm...she woldn't...notice how she asked him after "is this romantic?.."..

You think i am wrong ?...lol...if she was so clear of her real intentions and what she was about to do when she sent that message...she woldn't be on a Astrology forum asking for answers to his reply...she wold have left him by now.

He replied to her on the same coin...and that's why you shouldn't play *games* with an Aries.

So yeah....you are right with that one...Genuine and Sincere...that's really the key...i am also an Aries, i know.

You guys should be honest with yourslefs...try to ask him straight away what he really wants...and you OP...try to figure out what you really want...

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I have asked this before, he wants to remain single, and we tried to be friends but they wouldn't work for me because I was too emotional for it. I can't have feelings for someone without expressing it. But the conversation about not being friends any longer got confusing when he dropped this on me. I asked him again what it meant and he only said

"let's give it time before we write each other again, things will work as they should."

So I stopped asking what it meant because maybe it was just a bullshit message to begin with?

Posted by IntoTheEverblack
My Aries male ex and I have managed to stay friends after our breakup, both have feelings for each other still but his depression and self esteem got so bad we both agreed on a seperation. Remained friends until today I finally decided I needed to not be friends so I can move on, his last message says "they say absence makes the heart grow fonder so you can hold on to that or just move on, you have two choices" im super confused. Especially when he has told me we will not date again and it sounds too romantic to be towards being friends again. I don't plan on waiting around for him, but im super confused by it.

He's agreeing with you. He wants you to go and do your thing because he knows he can't treat you the way you want him to. But maybe in the future when he's ready you will still be there.

Telling you give space but stay on hold.

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Posted by Aries_Luminary
Personally, this feels like mind games. And let's be clear, Aries ppl aren't above fucking with ppls heads for their own gain. I've witness some of my old unevloved Aries male friends play sick mind games with females.

Is he the love of your life or anything of that nature?

All I know is, don't put your life on hold for anyone. There's no space for confusion when feelings are genuine and sincere.

It's obvious it's mind games.

But who started this game ?..him or her ?...

For me..she telling him she doesn't want to be Freinds anymore so that she can move on...that's her mind game...this was her *card*...if he said ok "move on" she wold...if he said something else...hummm...she woldn't...notice how she asked him after "is this romantic?.."..

You think i am wrong ?...lol...if she was so clear of her real intentions and what she was about to do when she sent that message...she woldn't be on a Astrology forum asking for answers to his reply...she wold have left him by now.

He replied to her on the same coin...and that's why you shouldn't play *games* with an Aries.

So yeah....you are right with that one...Genuine and Sincere...that's really the key...i am also an Aries, i know.

You guys should be honest with yourslefs...try to ask him straight away what he really wants...and you OP...try to figure out what you really want...

I have asked this before, he wants to remain single, and we tried to be friends but they wouldn't work for me because I was too emotional for it. I can't have feelings for someone without expressing it. But the conversation about not being friends any longer got confusing when he dropped this on me. I asked him again what it meant and he only said

"let's give it time before we write each other again, things will work as they should."

So I stopped asking what it meant because maybe it was just a bullshit message to begin with?

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It kinda was a bshit message to begin with...lol

Was he even talking with you everyday ?...or was it because he wasn't talking with you that you said you couldn't be freinds anymore ?...

If what happened was the 2nd option....then you know exactly what you were doing, right ? 🙂

But it doesn't matter...it's in the past...and he told you what everything you need to know.

What did i told you about not making you waste your Time ?... 😉

He is not ready...but he told you he couldn't hold you either on that last message...things will happen as they should. And that's what you should do.

Let me tell you something else about Aries...when we start *thinking*...we hit a *huge* problem...we don't know when to stop.

It's on face of *danger* that we start to move again.

Live your life, carry on, if it reaches a Time were you are faced with a possibility of a new romance or partner...and if you feel like you still have something inside for him....tell him...this is the time he will have to make his choice...and if he likes you..he will move for you.

Take Care and Best of Luck 🙂

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Posted by Aries_Luminary
Personally, this feels like mind games. And let's be clear, Aries ppl aren't above fucking with ppls heads for their own gain. I've witness some of my old unevloved Aries male friends play sick mind games with females.

Is he the love of your life or anything of that nature?

All I know is, don't put your life on hold for anyone. There's no space for confusion when feelings are genuine and sincere.

It's obvious it's mind games.

But who started this game ?..him or her ?...

For me..she telling him she doesn't want to be Freinds anymore so that she can move on...that's her mind game...this was her *card*...if he said ok "move on" she wold...if he said something else...hummm...she woldn't...notice how she asked him after "is this romantic?.."..

You think i am wrong ?...lol...if she was so clear of her real intentions and what she was about to do when she sent that message...she woldn't be on a Astrology forum asking for answers to his reply...she wold have left him by now.

He replied to her on the same coin...and that's why you shouldn't play *games* with an Aries.

So yeah....you are right with that one...Genuine and Sincere...that's really the key...i am also an Aries, i know.

You guys should be honest with yourslefs...try to ask him straight away what he really wants...and you OP...try to figure out what you really want...

I have asked this before, he wants to remain single, and we tried to be friends but they wouldn't work for me because I was too emotional for it. I can't have feelings for someone without expressing it. But the conversation about not being friends any longer got confusing when he dropped this on me. I asked him again what it meant and he only said

"let's give it time before we write each other again, things will work as they should."

So I stopped asking what it meant because maybe it was just a bullshit message to begin with?

It kinda was a bshit message to begin with...lol

Was he even talking with you everyday ?...or was it because he wasn't talking with you that you said you couldn't be freinds anymore ?...

If what happened was the 2nd option....then you know exactly what you were doing, right ? 🙂

But it doesn't matter...it's in the past...and he told you what everything you need to know.

What did i told you about not making you waste your Time ?... 😉

He is not ready...but he told you he couldn't hold you either on that last message...things will happen as they should. And that's what you should do.

Let me tell you something else about Aries...when we start *thinking*...we hit a *huge* problem...we don't know when to stop.

It's on face of *danger* that we start to move again.

Live your life, carry on, if it reaches a Time were you are faced with a possibility of a new romance or partner...and if you feel like you still have something inside for him....tell him...this is the time he will have to make his choice...and if he likes you..he will move for you.

Take Care and Best of Luck 🙂

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Thanks so much for all the advice very appreciated🙂

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Posted by EvatheDiva
Jesus girl, he's playing with you.

"they say absence makes the heart grow fonder (SO is a conjunction) so you can hold on to that (OR is another conjunction) or just move on, you have two choices"

Your CALL, but he's confused because when one says, "Absence makes a heart grow fonder." Taurean (John) and I don't see one another until like eight days later WE are kinda sorta a "couple" (his call; not in a hurry); yet you TWO have broken up (thus the ex, but have "feelings").

Flip this on him and tell him YAY or NAY....period (.) He's depressed and wants to hold on to "something" and it's not your fault of his diagnosis, taking his meds, seeing a doctor, controlling his temper (anger management classes?). Yeah, he's right, give him your final answer (no phone a friend, etc).

DO you want to hold on to him OR move on? The OTHER saying I like is, "Time reveals a person's heart"

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

I am curious about how does time reveals a persona heart?

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Good morning,

Funny you should ask. It means time away from them they start to "miss you" 😉

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva