I am really bad at dating 0_o

So I am your typical awesome-seeming-aries chick. I geniunely love guy stuff: video games, shooting, sports, the outdoors, etc. I am independent, I live alone, and I am self-made. I earn a good living for my age (22). I am in good shape and I have a really pretty face 😄

I have a lot of Earth and Water in my chart so I feel like I am pretty mature, empathetic and down to earth for an aries.

When it comes to dating I kind of feel like a take on the guy role. I get creeped out by guys who virgorously persue me without getting to know me well first. It seems like they are in love with an idea of me rather than who I really am. It also makes me feel like maybe THEY think I am too good for them, so they have to compensate. I don't like insecurity. Also I am really indepdent and I need a guy who can handle being on his own a lot. I don't want a serious relationship right now. I want some easy, like casual and slow moving. Or maybe even FWB. Since I want to focus on improving myself and my work right now. I feel like this is harder to do than regular dating since guys think it means I am slutty. Which means they think they can treat me poorly / not try OR that I am not worth their time at all.

When a guy is aloof, that's when I get interested. I get too interested and impatient. I come off as clingy and needy, even though I am not AFTER I get into a relationship (or FWB, whatever). Once I know where I stand with someone I am fiercly independent. But during that honey moon stage I am so obsessed with them it's like I have no self-control. It's like only the clingy guys can handle that initial intensity because they like the attention. I scare off normal / indepdent guys. But then the clingy guys become too clingy once I am over it and back to normal, so I break it off with them. (Or just don't go anywhere in the first place most of the time, since I lose interest if they are "too easy").

I am just bad with new people. I messed it up with two guys by acting clingy. I am not. I guess I just need to get better self control and stop it _-_ I feel like a guy though with dating. I want to do the chasing. I don't know how to do the girl role lol.

Haha yes Venus in Aries. Sun in Aries, moon in Virgo, Mercury in Pisces.

See the probem is with guys I lose interest in I might still lead on and give them extra chances. I also move slower to being physical and stuff since I trust them less. Since I am aloof and busy to them, they get MORE attracted to me and pursue me more. I make it clear at some point if I have lost all interest in a guy which will get them to stop. I don't want to waste anyone's time or energy.

Then the guys I am actually really interested in, I come off as clingy, desperate or crazy but it's really all just impatience. I chase them off lol.

So I am this perfect girl to all the guys I don't really want. Then the ones I do don't like me.

Ugh. Rejection doesn't really bother me, when someone is rejecting me for me. But the way I act sometimes.. that's not who I am normally. It's just in the beginning or with dating... actually I look back at all my relationships or close friendships and they had VERY rocky starts. I am just bad with new people. I am different then most people and it's hard to give off the right impression so I feel comfortable being myself!

I just read this artice on Venus in Aries. Describes me perfectly: http://astrology.about.com/od/astrologyandrelationships/p/VenusAries.htm


I am just depressed right now because it feels like I will never find like minded friends who can be in my life on a daily basis. I don't get most people. They don't get me. I'm lonely. But that does not mean I am going to settle... not at all. I'd rather be alone then around people who are bad for me.


It's funny when I mention that I feel very alone to potential love interests. Then they get offended if I don't want to spend all my time with them yet. Or if I do they think it's just out of desperation. No I like you or I don't. Why are you taking this personally?


I need to get better at not teling everyone everything and having boundries too lol.

I am an aries too, I just had the same problem.
I even posted about it here >> https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/aries-woman-trying-to-understand-a-taurus-man-5828793/
I started the thread thinking that the guy was the one in the wrong but it turned out that for everybody it was me.
I do see it now.
I did not even get to the dating stage, But I was doing the courting,...too much courting. So it either made him lazy or I was doing so much that he did not have enough "space" to do the courting
I did not know where to stand, and it made me go even harder

And I think I scared him away... I have not heard from him since thursday, and I am so impatient, and I know that for some, it's not that long, but to me it feels too long already
And if I text him, and I don't get a reply, I text again a day later. I know that it makes me appear desperate, but I have no self control

So now it is even worst cause I am waiting for him to text me again, I decided that I give him until friday to contact me,after that I will know where to stand for sure
And the more you resist me the more sexy you are!

So we are the same, and my venus is not in aries
My sun is in Aries, my rising in Virgo, my venus and my mercury are in pisces, my moon in aries, and my mars is in taurus

So maybe it's just an aries thing...

So maybe we need to learn from our mistakes, and be less enthousiast when we like someone. We need to learn self control...