i knew it.....

i knew he was going through somethings, he doesn't show it much but for some weird reason i can tell, he thinks he shouldn't be in a relationship because he has too many problems. i told him i don't care what problems he has or what he's going through i just want him! i want to stick with him! he was very happy when i told him that, i just wanted him to KNOW that i will always be there for him and that i'm all for him. he works but he doesn't make alot of money, he stays with different relatives, his ex took his daughter away from him which is hurting him, he doesn't go out as much as he used to, he told me i'm the only girl he talks to and dates he texts other girls but he says he doesn't do more than that, (i don't want to be naive and believe i'm the only girl he mess around with but i don't think he's lying)i know he secretly gets jealous when i socialize with my other guy friends but he knows i'm all for him and i don't want anybody else. i'm going to be there for him through everything, and i'm going to help him with anything he needs. right now working on moving in the next few days so he would have a place to stay. he talks to me almost everyday now for the past 2 months even if it's just a text message saying good morning. i don't know what it is or what i did but he's been giving me more attention than what he used to when we were having those problems.
but, yea, just thought i'd share that for those who care.....

Ladies and gentlemen,

This is a great example of the "nurturing/fixing" bs that you see women get sucked into. Note the practice of ignoring all the red flags. Note how he's been playing her like a fiddle, getting ego stroking comments out of her by playing the emotionally damaged card.

Hopefully it works out, but I wouldn't be surprised if this one was back at some point, complaining about all the drama and "confusing" behavior from this guy. :/

Posted by capgirl75
Yeah, I'm with rockyroad here.
This sounds bad.
I'd be afraid he'd latch on to you and then he's gonna run when he gets on his feet. 😢
Also, he's jealous and he lost his daughter- what did he do? Be careful.

Agreed. Jealousy that early on can lead to some issues further down the road. Jealousy = insecurity = potentially batshit later on.

well just today they had to take one of his family members off life support, he lost 2 of his best friends to violence, and his other best friend was in a really bad car accident sooo he's been through a lot. i really don't think he's playing if he is or isn't i'm still keeping my eyes open....

he doesn't show his jealousy but the questions he asks makes me think he's a little intimidated or jealous

Honey, I'm not talking about the legit life's issues.

Your first red flag is a guy admitting that he doesn't want a relationship because of reason x. It doesn't matter if x = "I'm an asshole" or "I have problems." He has said he shouldn't be in a relationship. But you've done the typical estrogen thing of dismissing that and assuming that you know what's best for him. Especially when you state something like "he THINKS." This tells me you already aren't taking him seriously in what he says. I will never understand why females just don't listen to what's being said by the guy. I know you can be confused with any following behavior, but still. Get a clue.

Second thing is that you went and told him that you wanted him no matter what. You're excited that he was happy about that? Who wouldn't be? Especially a guy. Their egos love that shit.

The next red flag is home hopping and not making enough to live. It's a shitty circumstance, but why in the world are you taking on his problems? I'm not saying it's bad to help, but people are such users anymore. They take something good and abuse the hell out of it. You're going to let him stay with you? That's nice, but I hope it doesn't turn into some long term thing where you end up supporting him. You pretty much left yourself wide open for being used when you jumped the gun and went on about how you'd be there for him and would practically lick the ground he walks on.

Overall, it really isn't the most ideal situation to chase. Do you want a relationship or a charity project? Mixing the two isn't the best way to start a romantic relationship...

I think some Cancer women just like to nurture. This guy is in sticky situations and she wants to nurture/fix/support/ who knows because this has been going on for some time now.

Posted by lovelivelife11
he doesn't show his jealousy but the questions he asks makes me think he's a little intimidated or jealous

When is the last time you and this Aries guy went out on a date?