in love

I am an Aries female and i am in love with a cancer guy, for 2 years we have broken up and gotten back together so many times, i usually broke it off because he would neglect me emotionally and he developed a really bad drug habit, so now we are not talking at all the last thing he said was im going to get clean and we are gonna be together so i hope your ready for that, havent heard from him since. its been really hard on me.

its been 5 days, im just struggling to know if i should move on, theres no communication and no his dad is detoxing him and isolating him =, although he could contact me, im told i am a trigger,

because talking to me brings up so much emotion

Go look up videos of people detoxing from heroine. Making time for an emotional trigger should be and probably is the last thing on his mind, especially only 5 days in.

Take solace in that, for now, you are the person he is aspiring to redeem himself for. Trouble is, that path will change... He needs to do it for himself. Right now yoiy remind him of his failures. Give him time. I know it sucks, but him going back to you isn't the end game. Him getting well is.

The entire situation sounds fucked and you'd both be better off without eachother, as harsh as that sounds. You're a trigger? He emotionally neglected you and became an addict?

Honey, walk away. There is no winning for anyone when you get involved with an addict. A relationship is not equipped to deal with someone like that.

Why do you keep taking back someone who is like this? Are you sure it's "love" and not "emotional dependency?"

Seriously, why do you think you need this guy? List the pros and cons.

the sturdy cancer man is the best balance for a wild crazy ram, we learn allot from them its so complex i need to explain more, i see bot pints being made here, for sure, theirs allot of drama suroundign this situation for sure, with his family interfering with our relationship and causing distance between us due to his addiction and they are the ones saying i am a trigger not him, although it doesn't really matter because yes his recover is the most important thing, i suppose i am hurt because not having contact makes you wonder if i should let go, but being supportive means you hang in there especially when someone is fighting for there lives and they have always been there for you when things where hard, good people are hard to find and some get caught in things they shouldn't have. at this point i ahev decided just mostly do me , go about my life and whats ment to be will be.

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the sturdy cancer man is the best balance for a wild crazy ram, we learn allot from them its so complex i need to explain more, i see bot pints being made here, for sure, theirs allot of drama suroundign this situation for sure, with his family interfering with our relationship and causing distance between us due to his addiction and they are the ones saying i am a trigger not him, although it doesn't really matter because yes his recover is the most important thing, i suppose i am hurt because not having contact makes you wonder if i should let go, but being supportive means you hang in there especially when someone is fighting for there lives and they have always been there for you when things where hard, good people are hard to find and some get caught in things they shouldn't have. at this point i ahev decided just mostly do me , go about my life and whats ment to be will be.

One, try again in fucking English. Is it really that hard to ask someone to write coherently so we can actually read your giant cluster fuck of a run on sentence? Come on now.

Two, you have yet to give me a reason why you think you need this guy. You have also not listed the pros and cons.

Tell me why you think you need this guy. LIST the pros and cons.

...in ENGLISH. :/

Also, your desperation does not equate "support." You're not supporting him, you're trying to keep him around for your own selfish reasons because you cannot be alone without this dude. That is also something you need to explain WHY.

What rocky said. Like I said before, he needs to get better for himself, not because you want him to. And you not getting that is selfish. You don't get over shit like heroine in a week.

And his parents have to tell you you're a trigger because he can't see that for himself yet, and neither can you.

You need to back off and give him the space he needs to heal.