I met this guy on a dating site and I guess i was the aggressor because he seemed cool and i gave him my number. He called and we talked for like 3 or 4 hours. It seemed like a good convo to me. Now on the dating site he said he was "looking for a relationship" but after speaking to him i found out he's still hung up over his ex, like if she came back to him he would take her back. He said he's not going to press her and if someone comes into his life better he would move on. Did i mention she lives in a different state. They were only together for 4 months and he claimed it ended a yr ago. not sure why he still feels so strongly for her unless he's lying, but i guess my question is ...How should I handle this? I told him he probably needed to change his profile from saying he wants a relationship; which he did lol and now it says he wants to date but nothing serious. but i know when someone sparks my interest i jump completely in and even tho we had a good convo i didn't hear from him today (not that he had to) until i sent him a hello text. he responded nicely but no convo really, but i can't tell if he is interested or he was being nice. Not trying to over think it but I don't want to come off as being pressed. Should I fall back and see if he'll contact me again?
leo girl just met aries man

Haha had a similar dance but with a Leo guy. I'd stay away from this one especially if you want something more serious, and don't fool yourself into believing you don;t just to be with him because in the end only you can get hurt especially if he's still hung up on his ex. From an Aries who is still hung up on her ex I would stay away this can only end in you being rebound or booty call... unless thats all you want to be. Good luck!

So despite his clear hang ups and the fact he clearly isn't ready to date, you still want to force something to happen?
Are any leo chicks not batshit crazy? :/
Are any leo chicks not batshit crazy? :/
smh... Im not forcing anything. He seemed cool and only wanted to know how to handle it. He's on a dating site and said he's willing to move on. But i know how judgmental you are... So continue to do what you do best. Moving on...
thx GG. I wasn't going to force anything. Nothing feels worse than being a rebound person, but like i said he seems cool and I'm ok with being just friends. He's very aware I'm not having sex with anyone. I too am trying to get over someone but its more of the how to stay cool with him. Should I wait to see if he will reach out to me or what?

Posted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
smh... Im not forcing anything. He seemed cool and only wanted to know how to handle it. He's on a dating site and said he's willing to move on. But i know how judgmental you are... So continue to do what you do best. Moving on...
Not judging honey, just wondering why you bothered making this thread and calling you out on your illogical shit that women of your sign seem to be prone to, apparently. The answer is already in the tidbit you gave us. Why are you insisting on making something of this just because your lady bits tingled?
Just leave it be. He clearly has some emotional stuff to get over before seriously dating.
He is not dating material, yet you seem to still want to pursue for something. Leave dude alone.

this should really be in the validation forum


Aries stellium in progression here.
There is only one way to find out and that is to meet in person. You could test if you two have chemistry. You may find out you don't fancy him after all. He may even get over his ex in an instant, if he likes you (it happened to me every time).
Just don't put your expectations any high. STOP mentioning his ex and change the subject if he does. He needs to feel good in your presence, and his ex is as good as sour grapes right now. Don't let her spoil your milk.
You could invite him casually with: "I'm having coffee/breakfast at xyz..... Would you like to say hello and join me?" Then stop chasing right there. If he becomes interested in you, he will take on the chase. If he declines to meet, stop right there as well.
There is only one way to find out and that is to meet in person. You could test if you two have chemistry. You may find out you don't fancy him after all. He may even get over his ex in an instant, if he likes you (it happened to me every time).
Just don't put your expectations any high. STOP mentioning his ex and change the subject if he does. He needs to feel good in your presence, and his ex is as good as sour grapes right now. Don't let her spoil your milk.
You could invite him casually with: "I'm having coffee/breakfast at xyz..... Would you like to say hello and join me?" Then stop chasing right there. If he becomes interested in you, he will take on the chase. If he declines to meet, stop right there as well.

Posted by GGPosted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by MIZUNDERSTOOD
smh... Im not forcing anything. He seemed cool and only wanted to know how to handle it. He's on a dating site and said he's willing to move on. But i know how judgmental you are... So continue to do what you do best. Moving on...
Not judging honey, just wondering why you bothered making this thread and calling you out on your illogical shit that women of your sign seem to be prone to, apparently. The answer is already in the tidbit you gave us. Why are you insisting on making something of this just because your lady bits tingled?
Just leave it be. He clearly has some emotional stuff to get over before seriously dating.
He is not dating material, yet you seem to still want to pursue for something. Leave dude alone.
Dude, you're too harsh. Unnecessarily, too! The girls just asking a question. I remember you saying something a couple months back about "people get blinded by astrology." I think that's the case here. Unless you just don't like this chick...then excuse me.click to expand
Funny how you think I give a shit.

Too much attention given to a brief relationship/ fling that ended one year ago. Oh yeah, the one that got away, before he really knew who she was ....must have been The One! And this based upon what......her thinking that she was too good for him, perhaps?
If he is still obsessing after all that time (300% longer than the actual relationship!), he needs a kick in the butt and a new interest asap. Although it is highly unlikely. For any normal human being, let alone for an Aries guy!
If he is still obsessing after all that time (300% longer than the actual relationship!), he needs a kick in the butt and a new interest asap. Although it is highly unlikely. For any normal human being, let alone for an Aries guy!
Posted by Undine
Too much attention given to a brief relationship/ fling that ended one year ago. Oh yeah, the one that got away, before he really knew who she was ....must have been The One! And this based upon what......her thinking that she was too good for him, perhaps?
If he is still obsessing after all that time (300% longer than the actual relationship!), he needs a kick in the butt and a new interest asap. Although it is highly unlikely. For any normal human being, let alone for an Aries guy!
he is. so that brings caution from me. It seems like it's more there than what he's saying, idk I think its the chase thats having him believing he wants her back, but like someone else said, if he was bringing her up I would skip the subject.
But i never said I wanted a relationship or anything past getting to know him. My questions was always how to handle it to get to know him. For everyone who feels i should stay away THANK YOU FOR YOUR OPINION. but the name calling and the harshness because you don't agree with my question is immature. You don't like it don't respond! Everyone else I appreciate your advice on this.
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