Moody Aries Guy....is like a bomb —?

The Aries guy I have been seeing for 2 months is now having some bad moment and shutting down himself already for the 3rd day. So he supposed to go a weekend trip and after I sent a safe flight message, he told me he's not going and said he had a read fucking week and having bad mood, not feel like to fly and so just cancelled.

Here below is the conversation....i wish i could open him up and make him feel better, but this is my first time in life dating an Aries guy.... i don't really know what they want when they are in such a bad mood, as Aries guy not even bother to go for fun... that's serious, i guess.

HIM：fuckin week.. didnt feel like going away..

ME：What happened ? Wanna talk ? (Kiss)

HIM：no just get drunk..

HIM：sorry.. but thanks CC..

HIM：bad mood today..

ME：wish i could do something

ME：Just I'm always here (Kiss)?

Then....i don't dare to say anything more and dead air already......i wonder should I say something more to show him care or should I leave him in his cave for a while?

Thanks and would be really appreciate 🙂

Either

1. go get drunk with him

2. leave him alone, you said enough for support

I am not sure its the best thing that you were sooo accomodating (wish i could do something, just iam always here..)

Are you the one with the Aries, who is avoiding to introduce you to his friends and mother?

If yes, it doesnt look good... you are too available

Understood, will then just leave him alone.... 😢

That's what I thought after I have said it.....sigh

Guess I fxked things up now 😢

Posted by Cc1124
Understood, will then just leave him alone.... 😢

That's what I thought after I have said it.....sigh

Guess I fxked things up now 😢

Dont be so hard on yourself, you acted like a good girlfriend should.... now stop beeing here for him if he is not here for you..

do something what can keep your mind away from this nonsense of his... (reading stories here is a good occupation as well 🙂 and sometimes helpful as well

wait until your Aries contacts you and be sweet but a bit elusive, and dont do a big thing about his moods

Thanks dear, already stopped there, been spending time with friends these days and yes also been reading storied here 🙂

What kind of elusive should I be when he contacting me back? Like asking me out but say no once in 2 times? Or just not replying too fast ? I in general replying him at least 30mins to 2 hours after his....hahaa, didn't mean to be like that, just work making me that sometimes.

But yes, will not do anything about his mood thing. Anyhow, he doesn't seem like feel to share these things to me. Just other than these things, he's been real good to me, so which making me feel like he's worth my time to try.

CC, you said: "Just other than these things, he's been real good to me, so which making me feel like he's worth my time to try."

Other than these things? List these things

Hes been real good to me? List these things

You know, write a list here (it can be educational to others as well), The bad and The good things

I am not sure about the elusive thing in your case, because he is beeing absent from your relationship for a few weeks already, so its hard to tell, how to be elusive to the absent partner...

but, you did the sweet thing (I wish I can help you) and now do something maybe what he can "envy" and would like to be a part of....... I dont know, like new restaurant (are you FB friends?) or going somewhere cool, so when he contacts you again, you can tell him about this....

all of your interactions is about him.... when he has time (I fit you in my time shcedule, from 8 - 10, because I have to go to drink with my friend to console....... I cant be with you next week (maybe 2) because my mother is in town.... I had a fxcked up week....

always about him

~~GOOD THINGS ~~

He's been making time for me at least every week to dinner or go places I like, sometimes weekdays sometimes weekends, usually stay over at his except the last 3 weeks no sleep over but still every week.

At least he's messaging me everyday

Would let me know his schedule

He let me make up a “happy to do list” which is about places we both wanna go and go one after the other. And we're still checking

Everytime we dinner out, he wouldn't avoid get close to me, he would still kiss me, sut close to me, hold hands, peel the shrimp shells for me every time etc....

There were 2 times I was moody and said wanted him be there, he would see me immediately

Also few times when I finished some day time things with friends and wanted to see him, i asked, he would also showed up and stayed with me a bit

There was one time he knew a guy friend visiting me from other city, he was so insist to make sure seeing me that night after i dinner with that guy, don't know if he was only to make sure I was staying at that guy's hotel or neither my place, he never acted that way even he was damn tired when I saw him.

~~BAD THINGS~~

Not introducing me to his friends

Not yet willing to open up with his feeling about us



......... these are mostly what happened these 2 months, when listing out, i found that hard to really point out what are the bad....maybe I'm too blinded 😢

Yes we're facebook friends, but as I know he's not much up to that and not really checking it often, but yes will anyhow try to update more these days showing more some happy moments and cool places I go with friends maybe.

I somehow know myself been really way too available for him.... 😢

It seems to me like you are in a nice place with him. Try to relax and enjoy. I know it's not easy when you are having all this feelings... But to me it looks like he really likes you.

Posted by pisceswoman123
It seems to me like you are in a nice place with him. Try to relax and enjoy. I know it's not easy when you are having all this feelings... But to me it looks like he really likes you.

When I started to list the goods and bads about him, i realised he's actually been really sweet to me, except not clear about the status and not meeting his friends thing. So yes, seems like he really likes me. I'm trying to learn and be relax and enjoy the time with him.

Just the down time he's having right now, wish he could be more open and let me in and be there for him... guess because we're still not yet that close close, knowing him upset for something but i can't do anything and just can wait, it's not easy 😢 but yea i will take this chance and learn

He knows that you are there if he needs you, so is not much else you can do for now. He doesn't want to show you that side of him jet, but I am sure he will come back off it very soon and be back to his happy self and ready to make you laugh

Posted by pisceswoman123
He knows that you are there if he needs you, so is not much else you can do for now. He doesn't want to show you that side of him jet, but I am sure he will come back off it very soon and be back to his happy self and ready to make you laugh

“he doesn't want to show you that side of him yet"~~ right right, i guess yes maybe this is the case. He's always so enjoy to make me happy, smile and laugh... he even knows i like it when he always to say “when you're happy I'm happy ” after he did something made me happy....hahaaa....

Yes, will just have to wait for him come back from his grumpy upset time...

I will update you guys if any changes

Thanks a lotttt x

Thank god he finally talks a bit and asked to see me...... though he's not telling me anything in detail about what he's upset from work, at least he wanted to see me even he's still feeling moody, will see how he is these days then.

Somehow i wonder, do Aries guys usually like this when upset about something ? I mean they just usually shut down and deal with it themselves ? Or only talk to the person they can trust or think is close enough ? Just want to know in general 🙂 thanks

Hey, no usually guys in general prefer to categories things that upset them into "we can sort it out" or "we can't sort it out therefore forget about it".. we aren't the same as women. Yeah go have a drink and not talk about it. The answer to most guys problems.

I wouldn't push it, if he doesn't want to talk about it, then he doesn't. It's not because he doesn't want to open up to you. If anything I think it's better he thinks this way, because Aries men want to be the hero and the one people can count on, they want to be strong. He wants you to see him as strong, so that means not acting like a cry baby and talking about his bad day. Difficult to describe, but he is probably worrying you will see him as a weaker person. Aries in general like to stick to the positives and look forward.

you didn't make any mistakes anyway. You did everything perfectly, because when he calms down he'll remember you were there for him, and that's all that matters. Honestly I think he must feel very comfortable with you if he told you he had a bad day. I wouldn't do that unless I really trusted the person. I know it doesn't seem like a lot, but I think it is.

I would forget the whole friends thing. I have good friends now I will introduce women to, but I never used to. Most of the time friends criticise and judge and don’t offer anything useful. I want to spend my time with my GF, just the two of us and make the most of that time. Why listen to my friends get drunk, or talk rubbish, or say anything negative really. Aries are usually confident and know what they want, so I don’t need to confide in friends for their opinion of my GF, I just know she’s great and that’s why I’m with her. I have nothing to gain by introducing her, but possibly something to lose. Hanging out with other couple might be different, but that comes later in the relationship anyway, when you make friends together.

The availability thing works like this – you want to see him, so telling him no once in two times doesn’t let you see him. Pretending you are mega busy and that you don’t think you can, but you can check something, making him wait while you check your calendar, check on a friend, on work whatever. Then later getting out of your pretend busy arrangement, so that you can see him after all. It keeps him guessing whether he will see you, makes him work harder for you, and make you seem like you have a life outside him, then you get to see him. So that’s a better way to work it.

Every time you say something, I’m not sure I get the right impression because I think you make it sound negative when it isn't. It sounds really good with him. It could be that you are worrying too much, you deserve to be with him if you want to, you need to tell yourself that. You deserve good things in life, so don’t be surprised when they come along. Have confidence in yourself, he wants to see you. He definite likes you if you have a “happy to do list” together.

Posted by AriesJo
Hey, no usually guys in general prefer to categories things that upset them into "we can sort it out" or "we can't sort it out therefore forget about it".. we aren't the same as women. Yeah go have a drink and not talk about it. The answer to most guys problems.

I wouldn't push it, if he doesn't want to talk about it, then he doesn't. It's not because he doesn't want to open up to you. If anything I think it's better he thinks this way, because Aries men want to be the hero and the one people can count on, they want to be strong. He wants you to see him as strong, so that means not acting like a cry baby and talking about his bad day. Difficult to describe, but he is probably worrying you will see him as a weaker person. Aries in general like to stick to the positives and look forward.

you didn't make any mistakes anyway. You did everything perfectly, because when he calms down he'll remember you were there for him, and that's all that matters. Honestly I think he must feel very comfortable with you if he told you he had a bad day. I wouldn't do that unless I really trusted the person. I know it doesn't seem like a lot, but I think it is.

I would forget the whole friends thing. I have good friends now I will introduce women to, but I never used to. Most of the time friends criticise and judge and don’t offer anything useful. I want to spend my time with my GF, just the two of us and make the most of that time. Why listen to my friends get drunk, or talk rubbish, or say anything negative really. Aries are usually confident and know what they want, so I don’t need to confide in friends for their opinion of my GF, I just know she’s great and that’s why I’m with her. I have nothing to gain by introducing her, but possibly something to lose. Hanging out with other couple might be different, but that comes later in the relationship anyway, when you make friends together.

The availability thing works like this – you want to see him, so telling him no once in two times doesn’t let you see him. Pretending you are mega busy and that you don’t think you can, but you can check something, making him wait while you check your calendar, check on a friend, on work whatever. Then later getting out of your pretend busy arrangement, so that you can see him after all. It keeps him guessing whether he will see you, makes him work harder for you, and make you seem like you have a life outside him, then you get to see him. So that’s a better way to work it.

Every time you say something, I’m not sure I get the right impression because I think you make it sound negative when it isn't. It sounds really good with him. It could be that you are worrying too much, you deserve to be with him if you want to, you need to tell yourself that. You deserve good things in life, so don’t be surprised when they come along. Have confidence in yourself, he wants to see you. He definite likes you if you have a “happy to do list” together.

I somehow had teary eyes when I read till the end of your reply , not sure why but yes just did. I do sound negative i know 😢 , guess i like him a lot and care so much to not losing this great guy. Thank god I haven't did any bad moves since the beginning till now.. will keep it up heehee

I yes having faith that he's kind of the situation you're describing, really are all very new to me, never met a guy like this that sometimes really confusing me about how he feels about me and us... like he's telling me he's having a bad day but that's it and without needing me there, really frustrating me (about he seems doesn't need me be there, and messaging me much less during his down time 😢 ) but knowing more how and why it is like this to aries man now, it makes me feel better.

somehow, after all the advices here, and the good and bad list of his, seems everything really at a good pace without myself even noticing it and surprisingly good.. So I will keep being myself as always and yes be there for him when he needs but not too available, what a technique lol, actually i just did it that way like a mega busy person on Saturday when he suddenly saying want to see me during he down time....he waited me till late evening...

Thanks thanks thanks to AriesJo and allllll of you xx

Posted by AriesJo
Hey, no usually guys in general prefer to categories things that upset them into "we can sort it out" or "we can't sort it out therefore forget about it".. we aren't the same as women. Yeah go have a drink and not talk about it. The answer to most guys problems.

I wouldn't push it, if he doesn't want to talk about it, then he doesn't. It's not because he doesn't want to open up to you. If anything I think it's better he thinks this way, because Aries men want to be the hero and the one people can count on, they want to be strong. He wants you to see him as strong, so that means not acting like a cry baby and talking about his bad day. Difficult to describe, but he is probably worrying you will see him as a weaker person. Aries in general like to stick to the positives and look forward.

you didn't make any mistakes anyway. You did everything perfectly, because when he calms down he'll remember you were there for him, and that's all that matters. Honestly I think he must feel very comfortable with you if he told you he had a bad day. I wouldn't do that unless I really trusted the person. I know it doesn't seem like a lot, but I think it is.

I would forget the whole friends thing. I have good friends now I will introduce women to, but I never used to. Most of the time friends criticise and judge and don’t offer anything useful. I want to spend my time with my GF, just the two of us and make the most of that time. Why listen to my friends get drunk, or talk rubbish, or say anything negative really. Aries are usually confident and know what they want, so I don’t need to confide in friends for their opinion of my GF, I just know she’s great and that’s why I’m with her. I have nothing to gain by introducing her, but possibly something to lose. Hanging out with other couple might be different, but that comes later in the relationship anyway, when you make friends together.

The availability thing works like this – you want to see him, so telling him no once in two times doesn’t let you see him. Pretending you are mega busy and that you don’t think you can, but you can check something, making him wait while you check your calendar, check on a friend, on work whatever. Then later getting out of your pretend busy arrangement, so that you can see him after all. It keeps him guessing whether he will see you, makes him work harder for you, and make you seem like you have a life outside him, then you get to see him. So that’s a better way to work it.

Every time you say something, I’m not sure I get the right impression because I think you make it sound negative when it isn't. It sounds really good with him. It could be that you are worrying too much, you deserve to be with him if you want to, you need to tell yourself that. You deserve good things in life, so don’t be surprised when they come along. Have confidence in yourself, he wants to see you. He definite likes you if you have a “happy to do list” together.

So during this time... my case with this aries man, should I sometimes sending him some happy messages to cheer him up? I did the last 2 days, he replied so little but sounded he was up and down but somehow thankful about that. I worry if this making him feel like i start being clingy ? (Which i think I'm now a little yes) cause i know I start to be impatient...hahaaa, yes Sagittarius...lol and I always worry he would slowly forgetting about my existence 😢 yes....negative again 😢

Sometimes leaving messages here can somehow let myself cool off a little without pursuing him too much, forgive me everyone please x

If he likes you he won't forget about you. I would let him be a bit and no contact him for few days. Let him come to you when he is ready.

I know what you mean about messages in here helping you to cool off. Hehe For me too. I reread them every time I feel like contacting him and I see the full picture a bit better.

Don't apologize. That is what this is for!

Keep strong, if AriesJo thinks he likes you he is probably right.

Posted by pisceswoman123
If he likes you he won't forget about you. I would let him be a bit and no contact him for few days. Let him come to you when he is ready.

I know what you mean about messages in here helping you to cool off. Hehe For me too. I reread them every time I feel like contacting him and I see the full picture a bit better.

Don't apologize. That is what this is for!

Keep strong, if AriesJo thinks he likes you he is probably right.

Thanks Dear..... still been texting tho, but just very little for replying each other...

Really want the work stress of his going off asap !!!!!!! Sighhhhhh

I'm just so not confident about myself i guess, that's why having all these stress on this “relationship”.

The advice is always to let him be and let him contact you first.

Aries men are experts at making you doubt yourself. But hopefully he gets out of this soon and he comes back to you happy and full of love ? Hehe

Aries are impatient too, so I wouldn’t worry about that. And I think it’s gone beyond the stage where he might be assessing if you are clingy or not. I don’t think you are clingy, confidence is the opposite of clingy and Sagittarius usually show confidence well with Aries. If you are direct and just honest straight forward, then that is good and I doubt he will ever consider you clingy. If it sounds like you are worrying about what you say, or if it looks like you spent hours carefully constructing the perfect message, then that might be seen as clingy. You messages are fine though. I think you should be yourself, Sagittarius always cheer me up, they directly say random things and it cheers me up, like best friend type stuff. So I think be yourself, and message when you want, he seems comfortable with you and you’re doing good so far.

The only thing you need to watch out for, is Aries are not great on commitment straight away. They still want freedom and stuff to see friends, but I think this is the same for Sagittarian anyway so you probably understand this. And maybe if you are coming on strong, then he might think that he needs to check you aren’t just jumping in head first and maybe you will get bored easily later and move to someone else. Again I think Sagittarius and Aries understand this well too, because they are the same. But with these things, they are guesses and we shouldn’t jump to conclusions. I’m just trying to think why it’s taking so long myself now, lol.

Posted by AriesJo
Aries are impatient too, so I wouldn’t worry about that. And I think it’s gone beyond the stage where he might be assessing if you are clingy or not. I don’t think you are clingy, confidence is the opposite of clingy and Sagittarius usually show confidence well with Aries. If you are direct and just honest straight forward, then that is good and I doubt he will ever consider you clingy. If it sounds like you are worrying about what you say, or if it looks like you spent hours carefully constructing the perfect message, then that might be seen as clingy. You messages are fine though. I think you should be yourself, Sagittarius always cheer me up, they directly say random things and it cheers me up, like best friend type stuff. So I think be yourself, and message when you want, he seems comfortable with you and you’re doing good so far.

The only thing you need to watch out for, is Aries are not great on commitment straight away. They still want freedom and stuff to see friends, but I think this is the same for Sagittarian anyway so you probably understand this. And maybe if you are coming on strong, then he might think that he needs to check you aren’t just jumping in head first and maybe you will get bored easily later and move to someone else. Again I think Sagittarius and Aries understand this well too, because they are the same. But with these things, they are guesses and we shouldn’t jump to conclusions. I’m just trying to think why it’s taking so long myself now, lol.

Damn yesss, what takes you guys sooo longgggg LOL

Just now I'm getting so impatient now with his damn slow reply and not in the mood thing, so really needa make my schedule fuuuuullll.

I posted some pics on Facebook that I was at the restaurant we went but only my face there and the view, hopping him would see that I'm also having my goddamn life when he's that absent from the relationship.... and kind of making him wonder if i was with someone else hahaa. Maybe he never cared or just not really see the post, but who knows 😛 but gotta play it carefully I guess, he's really a jealous type i guess

Posted by Cc1124

Posted by AriesJo
Aries are impatient too, so I wouldn’t worry about that. And I think it’s gone beyond the stage where he might be assessing if you are clingy or not. I don’t think you are clingy, confidence is the opposite of clingy and Sagittarius usually show confidence well with Aries. If you are direct and just honest straight forward, then that is good and I doubt he will ever consider you clingy. If it sounds like you are worrying about what you say, or if it looks like you spent hours carefully constructing the perfect message, then that might be seen as clingy. You messages are fine though. I think you should be yourself, Sagittarius always cheer me up, they directly say random things and it cheers me up, like best friend type stuff. So I think be yourself, and message when you want, he seems comfortable with you and you’re doing good so far.

The only thing you need to watch out for, is Aries are not great on commitment straight away. They still want freedom and stuff to see friends, but I think this is the same for Sagittarian anyway so you probably understand this. And maybe if you are coming on strong, then he might think that he needs to check you aren’t just jumping in head first and maybe you will get bored easily later and move to someone else. Again I think Sagittarius and Aries understand this well too, because they are the same. But with these things, they are guesses and we shouldn’t jump to conclusions. I’m just trying to think why it’s taking so long myself now, lol.

Damn yesss, what takes you guys sooo longgggg LOL

Just now I'm getting so impatient now with his damn slow reply and not in the mood thing, so really needa make my schedule fuuuuullll.

I posted some pics on Facebook that I was at the restaurant we went but only my face there and the view, hopping him would see that I'm also having my goddamn life when he's that absent from the relationship.... and kind of making him wonder if i was with someone else hahaa. Maybe he never cared or just not really see the post, but who knows 😛 but gotta play it carefully I guess, he's really a jealous type i guess

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what about this line: "now with his damn slow reply"....

what slow reply? are you texting him? why dont you wait

back off a bit🙂 dont text him

and dont text him first

let him come to you

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Posted by Cc1124

Posted by AriesJo
Aries are impatient too, so I wouldn’t worry about that. And I think it’s gone beyond the stage where he might be assessing if you are clingy or not. I don’t think you are clingy, confidence is the opposite of clingy and Sagittarius usually show confidence well with Aries. If you are direct and just honest straight forward, then that is good and I doubt he will ever consider you clingy. If it sounds like you are worrying about what you say, or if it looks like you spent hours carefully constructing the perfect message, then that might be seen as clingy. You messages are fine though. I think you should be yourself, Sagittarius always cheer me up, they directly say random things and it cheers me up, like best friend type stuff. So I think be yourself, and message when you want, he seems comfortable with you and you’re doing good so far.

The only thing you need to watch out for, is Aries are not great on commitment straight away. They still want freedom and stuff to see friends, but I think this is the same for Sagittarian anyway so you probably understand this. And maybe if you are coming on strong, then he might think that he needs to check you aren’t just jumping in head first and maybe you will get bored easily later and move to someone else. Again I think Sagittarius and Aries understand this well too, because they are the same. But with these things, they are guesses and we shouldn’t jump to conclusions. I’m just trying to think why it’s taking so long myself now, lol.

Damn yesss, what takes you guys sooo longgggg LOL

Just now I'm getting so impatient now with his damn slow reply and not in the mood thing, so really needa make my schedule fuuuuullll.

I posted some pics on Facebook that I was at the restaurant we went but only my face there and the view, hopping him would see that I'm also having my goddamn life when he's that absent from the relationship.... and kind of making him wonder if i was with someone else hahaa. Maybe he never cared or just not really see the post, but who knows 😛 but gotta play it carefully I guess, he's really a jealous type i guess

what about this line: "now with his damn slow reply"....

what slow reply? are you texting him? why dont you wait

back off a bit🙂 dont text him

and dont text him first

let him come to you

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Yeaaa shxt me.... backed off now, dxmn it 😢

I'm feeling a bit impatient now

Posted by AriesJo
Aries are impatient too, so I wouldn’t worry about that. And I think it’s gone beyond the stage where he might be assessing if you are clingy or not. I don’t think you are clingy, confidence is the opposite of clingy and Sagittarius usually show confidence well with Aries. If you are direct and just honest straight forward, then that is good and I doubt he will ever consider you clingy. If it sounds like you are worrying about what you say, or if it looks like you spent hours carefully constructing the perfect message, then that might be seen as clingy. You messages are fine though. I think you should be yourself, Sagittarius always cheer me up, they directly say random things and it cheers me up, like best friend type stuff. So I think be yourself, and message when you want, he seems comfortable with you and you’re doing good so far.

The only thing you need to watch out for, is Aries are not great on commitment straight away. They still want freedom and stuff to see friends, but I think this is the same for Sagittarian anyway so you probably understand this. And maybe if you are coming on strong, then he might think that he needs to check you aren’t just jumping in head first and maybe you will get bored easily later and move to someone else. Again I think Sagittarius and Aries understand this well too, because they are the same. But with these things, they are guesses and we shouldn’t jump to conclusions. I’m just trying to think why it’s taking so long myself now, lol.

Btw, these 2 weeks cause of his kind of “moody time” from work, he since last week doing the last minute call say wanna see me and stay over after he got drunk and awake from the hang over (no sex), so i honestly don't like last minute thing, if he does this again today, should I somehow find a way a tell him I don't like it? And if yes, what's the best way to present it without pissing a grumpy Aries?

Sighhhh... i understand he's still moody from the work thing which seems pretty serious, but still.. i want the happy one and always plan in advance Aries backkkkkkk

His moody time really frustrating me and making me so impatient now 😢 arhhh

On the other hand, would Aries guy really be able to get that moody from something and still be that for 2 weekss?? (For him this time he said is work stuff)

I now start to being so impatient and more negative about him now, I see we're doing great and he seems like me a lot (maybe not a lot), but how could a guy staying away that much just because he's in bad mood (used to msg me every day but now since the moody thing he's only initial contact once in 2,3days) ?

Doesn't he feel needing the woman he likes to be there with him to so feeling better —?? Arghhhhh

Sorry again I just need this forum so much fpr me to vent and so I could feel better or I will no able to stop myself finally text him again 😢 i anyhow yes knowing he needs time...

You have to give him his space when he is moody or mad. They will come to you, don't push for contact if he seems uninterested. Try to be positive when you two talk and don't let it show that his absence has bothered you, and maybe he isn't the right fit. Maybe you should be with someone who is more attentive? Aries is very independent... I'm a sag and idk about you but I need someone less cold or wishy washy

Posted by AriesJo
Aries are impatient too, so I wouldn’t worry about that. And I think it’s gone beyond the stage where he might be assessing if you are clingy or not. I don’t think you are clingy, confidence is the opposite of clingy and Sagittarius usually show confidence well with Aries. If you are direct and just honest straight forward, then that is good and I doubt he will ever consider you clingy. If it sounds like you are worrying about what you say, or if it looks like you spent hours carefully constructing the perfect message, then that might be seen as clingy. You messages are fine though. I think you should be yourself, Sagittarius always cheer me up, they directly say random things and it cheers me up, like best friend type stuff. So I think be yourself, and message when you want, he seems comfortable with you and you’re doing good so far.

The only thing you need to watch out for, is Aries are not great on commitment straight away. They still want freedom and stuff to see friends, but I think this is the same for Sagittarian anyway so you probably understand this. And maybe if you are coming on strong, then he might think that he needs to check you aren’t just jumping in head first and maybe you will get bored easily later and move to someone else. Again I think Sagittarius and Aries understand this well too, because they are the same. But with these things, they are guesses and we shouldn’t jump to conclusions. I’m just trying to think why it’s taking so long myself now, lol.

His mood has been back to normal for 2+ weeks now and being so sweet again and even see me more like 2 times a week and messaging me more often.

However something happened I don't know if I should do anything to this.

He loves all kind of party, tennis and car racing related stuff and I always so okay about that as long as he tells me where he's partying, so again this Sat he went to a car drifting thing and he told me he's crazy drunk (of coz) and after that had friends came over his place continue drinking.

Then yesterday Sunday, he woke up in late morning and messaged me said wanna see me last night and so we dinner out and had drinks at bar, then stayed over at his, when we arrived at his, i was so in a rush to go toilet, when there, i saw there were ""3 used condoms"" in the trash bin....i was like WHAAMMM T.T

That only happened when the first night ever i went to his place and never happened again in these 2.5 months.

I understand that we're not official and not even exclusive (at least he's not been clear about that and I don't want to make him feel like I'm pushing), so i didn't know what I could do about what I saw, then i was acting so calm but a bit shocked face after came out from the toilet and watching F1 with him on the sofa but obviously i was texting with my best friend that moment about what I just saw... he was asking if i were okay, i said yes just work stuff....and he of course believed and still being sweet.

So, we didn't have sex last night not because i didn't want but just we didn't, but as usual he's so sweet and holding me in his arms whole night and kissed sometimes. (We don't have sex every time when staying over)

Please, is there anything i should do or can do or say to him to tell him that was kinda bothering me? Sighhhhh i have been thinking he's like kind of quilty about sleeping with another woman and so he asked to see me and be super sweet with me last night.....

Posted by Pandora101
Either

1. go get drunk with him

2. leave him alone, you said enough for support

I am not sure its the best thing that you were sooo accomodating (wish i could do something, just iam always here..)

Are you the one with the Aries, who is avoiding to introduce you to his friends and mother?

If yes, it doesnt look good... you are too available

Kinda agree it is Mercury retro so... so he is not reacting well... to stress something to take note off.

Is he an alcoholic?

Piscesmoon

Posted by piscesmoon2

Posted by Pandora101
Either

1. go get drunk with him

2. leave him alone, you said enough for support

I am not sure its the best thing that you were sooo accomodating (wish i could do something, just iam always here..)

Are you the one with the Aries, who is avoiding to introduce you to his friends and mother?

If yes, it doesnt look good... you are too available

Kinda agree it is Mercury retro so... so he is not reacting well... to stress something to take note off.

Is he an alcoholic?

Piscesmoon

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He's not alcoholic tho but seems like he enjoy having drinks whenever he's super happy as well as when he's super unhappy, in general he only drink one or two that's it.