My Aries man child.

So, id posted a coupla months ago about having met an Aries man. Well, we we'd been dating (long distancing), and things have been rough. It started somewhere with him going through alot of personal stuff, with his family and business not doing well. I acted a little immature, since he'd been acting moody alot, and one day I snapped. And told him to either start sharing things with me by opening up, or leaving me.

We didn't speak for weeks, and then I initiated contact, and we started speaking again. Since the incident things have obviously changed. I am working in a different city so.we anyway can't meet. I flew back home twice for him, we'd meet each time, it's been friendly. He still shares his problems with me, but he snaps alot more. He's taken his love back, and I can understand why. We've never spoken about the incident.

I know he cares about me, but he doesn't cherish me how he used to. He's going through alot of things simultaneously, and I'm trying my best to help him in any way possible. I really really love him. Last time I went home, he'd had a fight with his family and he didn't wanna see me. I somehow pulled him out of his home, we went out and I'd bought engraved cufflinks for him, he seemed touched by the gesture. And his mood lightened up, for which he thanked me later. But he's pulled away.

I just wish I knew what to do.

We talk every alternate day. But it's always dry. I'm still affectionate, and he reaches out when he's feeling.down. But he snaps if I'm unable to cheer him up. Acting completely childish. Yesterday he was in a bad mood. We were chatting online and I had no idea. I mentioned something about going on a work trip, and he snapped saying I can't even understand he's in a bad mood and that he's gonna go watch TV since he doesn't feel like talking to me right now.

I just told him sorry, I had no idea. Tried to cheer him up, but then he went offline and stopped replying.

I'm just becoming a mess emotionally. And growing tired 😢

Just to add, he's an indepedent top B-School grad. He started his venture a year ago, which has totally crashed and he's job hunting again, but not without two bad rejections. A common friend told me he talks about me with his best friend, and he told him right now he's got too much going on, and isn't capable of giving me what I want. Which is why I'm taking his mood swings, and letting him settle down. It's just when he snaps, and distances himself so coldly I'm left shattered.

Forget him.

So we hadn't spoken in three days. Last night I saw him online, and pinged him. After a while of random chit chat, he called. We spoke for like an hour. Mostly he did the talking, was talking about work, the interviews he's attended etc. Everytime I had something to share he was barely attentive. It annoyed me, and I stopped midway of telling a story, and told him it's pointless since he's clearly distracted. He asked me once to continue, and then said leave it and started rambling about another one of his stories. He knows me. And he knows when he hurts me. It's like he's just stopped caring. Suddenly.

And I get what you women are saying, and rationally that is the right thing to do. But, my heart is gone and I can't help try make this work. I'm already shattered, how much worse can it get. Should I have an honest chat with him? He's going through so much work studd that I really don't w3ant to bring this up right now!

You aren't good together.

You don't know how to be supportive in the manner that he wants.

You have needs that he obviously has told you that he is in over his head with things going on in his personal life, but you still demand him to dote over you.

You can dislike him, hate him, call him the bad guy all you want, but the nice way to put this is that you both aren't good together.

It happens.

Two people can be great for each other on paper and even on a date or in real life, but when things get tough, especially with an Aries and someone else, or a Leo and someone else, it is a tug of war of who gets to what today etc etc.

I like how you think you are in love with him but you can't listen to his stories without wanting him to shut up and let you talk etc etc.

I worry about your feelings in all this and figure you need to move on and stop worrying about him so you can get back to enjoying your life.

Men in general have needs these days. There is no romantic old-fashioned movie-type love story for most of us, where the man has his life 100% perfect and has no needs, so he just enjoys listening to JUST YOU, and has nothing to do all day except worry about what gift he is gonna get you. I am so not trying to be mean but it isn't fair to him that he can't be who he is and is called a total selfish jerk, but yet, you have made this story into 100% He Is Bad, and you are 100% You Are Innocent. Takes two to tango, and yes he didn't pay attention to you, and it looks like you couldn't wait for him to shut up so you could have your turn to talk.

anyway, I hope you get to feeling better, love is a great thing, but we fire signs tend to dream up some wishful and wonderful ideas of what our mate should be, and get so disappointed when they turn out to have their own issues.

Sigh. I never meant that I couldn't wait for him to stop. I love to listen to him. He's so cute when he's telling me all his stories. And they're really funny.

I don't want to give up on this. He knows where I am at emotionally. He knows it very very well. He doesn't reciprocate, yes. But he's never said no. When we're together, it's so wonderful. He's attentive. Caring. It's just the moment I leave town, to come back here, he suddenly starts distancing himself. And then it gets all moody. It pretty much starts from the second I get dropped off to the airport, and he disappears. Maybe he can't handle the long distance.

He's at a point in his life where he's going through so much shit. He's lost his sleep. His appetite for days. Maybe I won't get the love back that I wish for right now. I'm not gonna leave him. I care for him too much. It's just when he snaps at me, it' gets tough. I don't react because I don't want to add to his troubles right now. If once things sort out, and he decides to move on, instead of turning back to me. I guess that's gonna be my fate.


"You can dislike him, hate him, call him the bad guy all you want, but the nice way to put this is that you both aren't good together."

Not once did I say I anything bad about him. If I was going through what all he is, I'd probably have acted worse. I just wish I could see him more often. It's so much easier. And simpler 😢