My best friend is an Aries, and boyyyy am I confus

My best friend is a aries, woman. She is vivacious, and beautiful. She has so many aspirations and many goals in life. But whenever we hang out ( i am an aquaa) all she wants to do is just run for the adventure without thinking. beleive me, I love to have fun but I like to be somewhat rational. She is usually the friend that is demanding, spoiled and wants nothing else but everything for herself. And she hates to spend her money. She will go out with 10 guys a week, just as friends, just so she doesnt have to pay for lunch. She takes advantage. and I worry about her. She jsut figures it will all be handed to her. She makes me feel like I am uptight and dont take risks. But i am just curious..... what exactly are you aries after ( generally)... are friends important— or status—? Are you all exhibistinists—?? Or is my friend just a wild fruit from the bunch? I love her to death, but she drivin me crazzy

ummmm. It all depends on where she is in her life. We aries all have experience that wilding out in life because we dont think negative and arent afraid or fearful. Your friend is thinking very positive in her own mind. She cant help that! She is enjoying and will go where any of friends fear or dont believe. It appears that she is going through the immature stages of being an aries. Sad but true. Truth be told, she is not using anyone or taking anyone for granted. Its that imature stage. Thinking like a baby as if everyone should see that she is happy. That's it!!!!!!! She is not rational. The 10 guy thing is only because she can do it!!!! She has a lot of power and hasnt realized how to use it. In time, she will calm down. Still remain friends with her. If you feel the way you do, then tell her. If she gets mad..so what.. She will get over it....You are a friend, please remain her friend. She needs you as much as you need her. Just be there if you are truly sincere........

Hello Alexandra.. and welcome.

Are you asking for advice? or are you trying to dive into the true nature of an Arien?

Upon reading what you have, I think the more appropriate questions should be "what are you after?" and "What kind of friendship do you want?" Maybe it's not the fact that she's an aries that troubles you, but how she treats you and other people. I wouldn't say that what one aries does is strictly identical to what another does. In other words.. questions such as these:

..... what exactly are you aries after ( generally)... are friends important— or status—? Are you all exhibistinists—?? Or is my friend just a wild fruit from the bunch?

.. I can't answer for anyone else.

As for myself, you'd have to get to know me for those answers.. and decide for yourself. My response to this question: Is a your friend a wild-fruit? Well, seems as if you have already answered that question- especially since you know her best.

Also-- let's say (hypothetically speaking) that because she's an Aries, your friend will always be wild, crazy- moving forward without thinking...? Will knowing that change your opinion of her? Will it change your desire to be her friend? This question you have asked on this forum-- will it really give you the knowledge that you seek?

I hope this has helped. Good luck.

My advice - never judge people on their sun signs!

I speak from experience: When a kid I had a best friend, from yrs 7-13 we were very close, still keep contact though not very close now.
This friend of mine is a pisces and a true dare-devil; she still is!
I?m supposed to be the infamous aries but once (at the age of eleven) I saved her life.
Because despite the sun signs I was the responsible and careful one.

This aries girl could be anyone - a sag perhaps?

I agree with you turtle.. you should never judge by sunsign.

I agree that you cant judge everyone by their sign, I only beleive that it will give you guidance. Now that (seizethe day) asked me what exactly am I asking, I am not sure. Nor am I sure that i can get any real answers. I guess I just hate being the good friend and having someone take advantage. As to why I came on this particular message board and asked is because she is very clued in about her sign and feels that it sets her apart. I would never not be her friend, I love her and need her too. I can also learn from her idiosyncracies and work on my own. thanks all

I have been friends with an arien female for over 10 years, and what I've learned is that she's very head strong,however, very self conscious. Always having to be first, or the winner, always arguing a point, never wrong. Penny pinching and sometimes selfish. I wish you darn ariens would just learn to be a little nicer. This coming from an aqua. And you say we're emotionally detached, whew! This arien is the type that will spit in your mama's face!

Hello aqueen, and welcome.

Thank you for posting. Yes, some people are stubborn, head-strong, argumentative and/or self conscious. Going back to Turtle's point- you can't blame that on the star sign. Nor should you judge people based on their star sign.

So, here's my bone of contention with a few of the things you've said:

I wish you darn ariens would just learn to be a little nicer.

Maybe it's not all Ariens that need to learn how to be "nice"-- just your friend.

Also- to come on an Aries forum and point the judgemental finger at all Ariens.. was that your example of being "nice" ?

No not all ariens just her. So whats up with all that jealousy and self conciousness? She and her boyfriend of over 12 yrs. Has a child. He also has 1 with another woman. I understand her jealousy, but to totally alienate the the child is disgusting. She allows no pictures of the child in their home. She doesn't even allow mentions of her name. In her head the child doesn't exist and doesn't mind it growing up without a dad. Me being an aqua, can't fathom this. It's easy for me to make friends with male or female, but she is not that open especially with other women. I don't wanna point the judgemental finger, just wanna know WHATS UP WITH THAT ARIES! I love her, but sometimes I am sickened by her ways.

*shrugs* I dunno. I don't have kids.. nor have I ever had to build a relationship with someone who's had kids-- sorry- can't speak on it.

As for the self consciousness- I'm pretty self conscious too, but I think it stemmed from me being a geek and a clutz when I was younger.

Enough is enough, right?

What kind of a friend goes into detailed complaints of their best friends faults - real or imagined? Anonymously, at that!

With friends like that who needs enemies?

Well aqueen..here's the thing. What goes on between your friend, her boyfriend and the children, has nothing to do with you. Since we can't control anyone but ourselves, how are her actions affecting you? Essentially, if you want to be friends with this girl, then you take her as she is... all of her.. or at the very least, stay out of her business unless she's asking for your help.

I know this post is old,,,,but I have to comment.....If I was with a man and he had a child with another woman...If I chose to stay with him...I would encourage him to have a relationship with his child and NEVER would I try too alienate him from his seed.....Thats horrible