New Attitude And Finding Your Place

Hey Aries,

I had quite a shakeup Thursday where I found myself thinking everything was on course, and then found the tables had been turned. It wasn't about something like a water bill, or finding out I would have to do something I didn't want. It was finding out that what I wanted and what I liked having, was gonna be not such a sure bet.

My boss after coming back from a long vacation lets me know he would be leaving the company, and though I am extremely happy for him, I learned later that they would be hiring someone to replace him who will LEAD the team! The double shot of news had me reeling, as I feel I have been showing I am more than capable to lead our team of 2 and that I am dedicated. A new guy is expected to just come in and basically what, I have to train him and give him everything he needs to know, so that he can take credit for something I am more than capable of doing? So let's just say he better be the best of the best ...

My mind felt so torn about all this. Should I take it as an insult, should I be worried that people think I am leaving too, since my coworker and I know each other ...

Let's just say I felt really tripped up by all this, and though I have been through this crap before, I somehow recommitted anyway and decided to go at this stronger, work harder, see if they will reconsider what I think is an affront to me (lol I am such an Aries about this shite).

Anyway, I was dying to find out what was the significance of the Lunar Eclipse and what horoscopes for the past few days were, and sure enough it did in fact revolve around this reassessing my value, my work values, and thinking bigger in terms of what I am worth.

I always try to watch SoulGardenTV, just because of the great relaxing and comforting tone it sets for walking through the day to day changes of the moon and other planets. If you are feeling emotionally up at arms about last week, I say start here with a glance at what the lunar eclipse meant for us Aries, and see if it helps. In general it has been a great thing for me since I stumbled upon it last year.

What sort of terms are you on with your current boss?
Would you be comfortable having a word in his ear about the possibility of YOU leading the team?

You could push the line regarding the extra time and money taken up training a total new dude.....if they want you to train this new guy I think it is reasonable for you to ask for a shot at the top role yourself.

What have they got to lose—??

Don't be torn up. Fuck them. You know you have the skills - go for it

A couple thoughts ... and they are on different sides of the spectrum

First, it could be that someone isn't recognizing your confidence. You say in here that you are really good at your job .. but, we in here don't make those decisions. Often times, people become so focused on not rocking boats, that they fail to realize that unless you give the other a poke, they might not even know you are there.

You have to promote yourself. I get the feeling that you are expecting someone to come and recognize you, while you don't have to do anything to get their attention. If you think your work speaks for itself, then you are wrong. Anybody can learn to do your job, only you can speak on behalf of how much more you are than the other person.


The other side is .... sometimes it's wrong to be really good at your job because then you become irreplaceable. And that means you can't be promoted, because you can never leave your exact spot because nobody else could fill your shoes.

If you think you have become so good at your job that nobody can do it better .... then it's possible that this is a shot in your own foot.

Posted by ImpressMe
Closed mouths don't get fed.

I hear this...for all the absolute bullshit we get for being big brash loudmouths, we actually work damn hard and it is very annoying to see people with half the ability but good at blowing their own trumpet get all the kudos/promotions/whatever.

But for some reason many companies continue to value bullshitters over people who go head down/azs up and get the job done.
Their loss, but often they don't realise until the disgruntled Aries has gotten the pricker with being looked over and moved on to greener pastures.

so any updates Heroic—

what about you IM? Are you feeling better?

After the 1 July eclipse things are supposed to settle down a bit...this stuff is a bit technical for me, but I think if we keep our heads down and try to remain positive we will all get thru.

Hang in there Rams - weekend coming!

sorry - I think my computer is having a bad hair day.