ok, so i am in deep dodo with ex girl

so, made a lot of mistakes and now she cant forgive me
should i even keep trying?
i was possesive and controlling

now she said i love you but i dont want you.

but she didnt cut me off we chat on aim sometimes
but at school she avoids me like the plague.
cuzz she say i am not good for her.
and that i maker forget who she is trying to be and revert back to her old self

which was that she was living in her own little fantasy world.
and she wants to be more realistic

GEMINI DODO BACKDOORS TRANSVESTITE ?

ah no, it was just and expression for she cant forgive me

sounds like she needs that space to grow on her own right now..maybe you should give her that.

Not an aries, but I've been here recently.

sorry G.I.L. just pulling your chain there.

the mistakes and the no forgiving stuff doesn't sound promising. You really have to hurt us bad to never be forgiven.

Just try to be cool (you Geminis excel in that area) and try to keep it friendly. Keep it real.
School is weird, don't take anything that happens there to heart. This extends to lessons.

LOL, i was wondeing wtf R N A P

you know even being on this blog remind me of her. i have done a lot of work on my self in past couple of months.
i know i am better than i used to be. and that i have changed.

i can say i actually almost over her. but she wont let me go with this aim shit. i wish she just let me be blocked.
now i worrie about if i should say hi to her on aim or not. wtf.

see this is what happens between aires and gimini only. i am thin she is thinking about me all the time. just like do of her.
i actually told her this last week. and she said yes. so its like wtf again. why would you then unblock me.

if you want to forget me ok fine you i can deal but she has that aim crap.

i know i am her weakness lol she cant avoids me at school cuz she thinks she can just get truth it with out me.

but in reality really honestly, i know she loves me, if i show her i have changed will she forgive me?
and how do i show her?

are you an aires janettan? and if so, have you ever been in love with a gimini?

its not that simple but if you answer yes to this two question i will think hard about that advice.

Gem in love, I can relate to your situation and can understand the heartache from both ends of your previous relationship. Happens to be the same Gem I speak about in my previous post. Four years of actively courting me, being completely in my life but in such an emotionally unattached manner, I tell him that him and I cannot become romantically involved due to this detachment of his... He tells me he loves me. I do not doubt an ounce of it, but I cannot feel it. Not sure if the feeling is something realistic that I am looking for, but I need it.

*this is also a response to your post to mine on a different topic. I feel it applies here better.

If I were her, I'd say my mind is made, my words are gold. I can put aside my feelings for self preservation. Give her her space. You can opt to be there for her as she needs on her terms, if it hurts you too much, then you need to detach from her. Tell her, she will understand. If she's still talking to you, then she wants to know you are doing ok as well. Take some time for yourself, will help you think more clearly. 🙂 best.

Posted by geminiinlove
are you an aires janettan? and if so, have you ever been in love with a gimini?

its not that simple but if you answer yes to this two question i will think hard about that advice.

Your Aries needs to know that you are independent of her, and not changing because of her. I despise anyone who changes themselves for anyone other themselves. I can never be happy knowing that you do not get to be yourself. Romantically involved or otherwise.

Lady Aries

well i dont think you want the full loving thing from a gimini it sounds to me like he is good gimini and has not suffer from a bad relationship yet.
you have two choices tell him exactly what he needs to do to show you that he loves you.
or go out with him and break up with him hurt his feeling and he will be able to show you how he feels deeply just by looking at you. you will feel deep passionate love that so much that you wil hate him for it. and will love him for it too.

or just go out with him and know that as time goes by you will get even closer and that love he can show will eventually shine truth that.

its hard to even understand you aries, cuz we are here for you but you think we dont love you.

Aries is the only sign ill ever love. cuz you people are so dam bad for me lol 😢

what do you mean your mind is made up? and my words are gold? self preservation? wtf sorry i am mad now cus you sound just like her. gzz
you people cant give good advice at all. so because your scared something might go wrong you wont take a chance at true happiness with someone you truely love. what BS
you people are so imature when it come to dealing with your feelings. god

will you Aries girls ever grow up and confront your fears?

Jenattam

i appriciate you advice but you are obviously not in love. your thinking and not feeling.

i am a gimini and i have found true love i mena the real true love i will let go of it cuz i know i have to.

but if we did resume the relation ship it would freaking great cuz i am me and she is her. its like she melts when she sees me anything she is thinking she vanishes.
thats why she avoids me. lol

anyways i just think she is scared of getting hurt again. anyways thats all for now.

*giggles* gem in love. he is patiently waiting for me to come around, and you sound just like him... 'you don't know something until you actually do it.' We Aries and Gems are a smidgen different in this aspect. He is a phenomenal guy and his ex was an Aries as well, I've watched him struggle the same as you are now, as him and I are. What you are irritated with is an embedded personality that won't change. Live, and let be. I am sorry you are hurt because of this. This clash is from both sides being so stubborn and head-strong, would you love her otherwise? if she were a pansy? if she would let life and emotions run her over? DO you think maybe that this 'fantasy world' you say we live in isn't what keeps you intrigued? keeps you guessing, I know. All or nothing.

If you think an Aries can't give good advice about themselves and their experiences, then you might be asking the wrong people. 🙂

she is not over me, i asked her straigh up if she loves me she said yes and she meant it.
i know it goes both ways but my aries does not know how to express her feeling and keeps it all bottled in thats why i didnt realize she was feeling like she needed some room.
that and giminis are not very good listenrers.

how does the past tramp the present?

yea ok so just block her ass on aim lol

lady aries, i love her no matter what and i am not hurt anymore, she did break my heart but i am whole again i dont feel any pain. and
yes i could get over her right now and just live on and be happy i know that can do it and i am actually deciding to just move on.
but there is a little part of me left that has hope for her. not hate or lust or wanting just a little hope for her.
i guess i am going to just let her be for a while and let the chips fall where they may. i hope you people are right cuz i dont want to find another girl.
i am a gemini you know we get any girl we want lol. so anyways yea i dont want another but i will let go of her.
i dont need a another aries one is more than anough lol hate you people 😉

Lady Aries you have some issues 4 year i cant believe you are making this poor guy wait for you that long.
stop being a pussy and give the guy a chance if he truely loves you will change your mind sooner than you think
i had my aries the firt night we met. lol. mistake #1 you are like the total oppsite extreeme but it is a mistake to wait this long as well

he needs you take control man he is a pussy too lol let me have his email i can tell him exactly what to do lady aries

gem in love, I am with you on this one. It is good to embrace the love you have for her.

It is definitely the gemini mentality to think you guys can get anyone you want. 😉 You know HOW to, no doubt, but I digress. More power to you!

My gem friend always says in lieu of me jumping into his arms, "You don't know something until you actually do it." The sea is HUGE! and that is an understatement. 🙂

kehehehe you're so silly. I have no intention of making him wait, nor is he waiting. He's dating up a storm. Only because he's stuck around so long, I am just now thinking that things MAY work out, which I wouldn't have before. I respond differently to different people. Gems tend to make me step back and THINK about the relationship rather than just BE it. hahaha if that makes any sense.

no sense at all. how do we make you think? god i thats the last thing i want an aries to do. cause you people always come up with the wrong conclusion

you love it, and you know it. hahaha

i am being totally frank when i say i dont love it. it just confusing. maybe my subconcious or my ego cant let go of that. but i defenetely dont love it. it is just frustrating to me. but i dont have to deal with it lol. thats something you got to work on.

I'm not the one knee deep!

-i know i am her weakness
***yes — Geminis ARE our weakness. You see much - you must be the Obi Wan of Geminis!


-its hard to even understand you aries, cuz we are here for you but you think we dont love you.
*** no, we are pretty simple creatures. Honest, straightforward — whether we love you or hate you, we like to keep it simple so everyone knows where they stand.
No B/s, no confusion.
Sometimes the Geminis might think they are letting us know they love us but the message arrives to us differently. As I said, we are simple creatures.
If you tell us —I love you?? we believe you. And if we find out later you were bullshitting us about anything love-related we die inside. Don't ever fuck with this.
But if you are communicating on some higher plane (ask Gemini Mind on the Gem board about it — I don't understand how it all works) we might miss the message.
Keep it simple for us.


- Aries is the only sign ill ever love. cuz you people are so dam bad for me lol 😢
**I love to hear this!!!
Aries + Gem should be the number 1 match of all time. With patience and communication and trust it should be a winner everytime.

If she still melts for you that should tell you something - you Gems are all about the "read my actions not my words thing" aren't you?
Guile is not Aries' strong suit

lady aries, i am no knee deep i am working on my problem and i am letting go of my aries so she can grow and and she wants to contact me she can if she decides not too. then she wont . maybe its all for the best. if she loves me and truly loves me for who i am she will contact me and thats just a fact. if Aries cant find that out for her self then she will suffer because of her ego. and if she cant let her ego down and see the truth she is not ready for a gimini.

ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Yes we are about that, are actions will tell you what we are trying to tell you. it is not easy though. we are stong minded people and know when we are right but we let you aries have your way too many times. this is the thing i thought i could treat an aries just like every chick i dated on the past. but this was my first Aries, and dam it she never reacts the way i thougth she would. anyways, it like you cant show any weakness. anyways i have grown from the experience and i hope thing turn out well.
and i am not a Obi won, lol i just have come realize something about Aries cuz i am a gimini, we dont like to be confused and if you confuse me i am just going to get mad and after i get mad i will try to find out what the truth to it all really is after i accept the truth than i can move on. anyways it should be like that for most people too. although. i think i can say i am matured for a gimini. i also into walking the path of enlightenment. thats a whole other issue in is self. anyways. you Aries girls are very emature and thats a fact. the only way to deal with you with true compasion and unconditional love. not something most people can do, not some i could do. but i can do now.

thank you everyone for your comments

well i dont think i did, i always did a lot for her, she just feels like she was spending too much time with me. i am not sure if i dominated her or not actually.
she never said that i dominated her. if she did something i didnt like i never really yeld but she could tell i was mad by looking at my face. but i have strong charecter she could have taken it as dominant i guess. but i always did what ever she wanted.

I was chasing a Gemini hard once. Even though the gemini would only smile back when I would visit and act all coy while trying to work (coffee shop) I really like our chemistry together and we could talk forever.

The gemini was hung up on the ex and I gave enough space to not pressure anything.

Regardless, the gemini in my life made my year, and every afternoon or outing with friends was a treat for me.

I did feel at times I was putting myself into a fantasy world where I was exactly what the Gem wanted and that would get us where I wanted to be, but even that just kept breaking my heart.

You can and should be honest and talk to your gem anytime you want. Just remember that your Aries is their own person with their own life to live just like you have yours. And if you really really care for them you would want to grow through this life together and not try to have some relationship where you stay the same, or repeat the same mess you got in over and over.

Change the topic, get into a new topic with them, work on something together, be friends, do something normal and let your relationship heal. Yes you may want to have some kind of dating, bf/gf thing right away and she might too, but doesn't mean that is what will get you to good again.

Not sure what you did to hurt their feelings, but I am sure your Aries will let you know when things are not good between you two, at least I hope so. Just respect that space if it is needed, and if she is letting you contact her, don't be shy, by all means talk with her, she is a smart, capable person and can take care of herself.

Good luck.

Hey everyone :-)

i just thought i let you all know how everything is going and thank everyone for their advice.

good news all and all, about a week a go my aries contacted me after about a month of no talking to each other.

she said all kinds of good things and wants to get back together.

i guess she just needed some time to her self. i stil dont get you people but thanks for all the help lol

Posted by geminiinlove
Hey everyone :-)

i just thought i let you all know how everything is going and thank everyone for their advice.

good news all and all, about a week a go my aries contacted me after about a month of no talking to each other.

she said all kinds of good things and wants to get back together.

i guess she just needed some time to her self. i stil dont get you people but thanks for all the help lol

nothing to "get" babe - just love us and let us love you back. Aries = love.
Keep it simple, keep it real.
We aren't that complicated, it's just that a lot of folk out there can't handle someone who keeps it real and simple and pure which is what we/love are all about. People can be weird man.

leave her alone -_-

she is just bored

Posted by geminiinlove
so, made a lot of mistakes and now she cant forgive me
should i even keep trying?
i was possesive and controlling

now she said i love you but i dont want you.

but she didnt cut me off we chat on aim sometimes
but at school she avoids me like the plague.
cuzz she say i am not good for her.
and that i maker forget who she is trying to be and revert back to her old self

which was that she was living in her own little fantasy world.
and she wants to be more realistic

The fact that she is avoiding you is a clear indicator she doesn't want to be with you.

Get out and enjoy being single again.

I agree with all the other Aries people who posted here. If you've learned anything from your previous mistakes, you'll forget words like possessive and jealous even exist! Because try to pull that sort of trick on her again and she'll be gone before you know it. Also, try showering her with affection but keep it varied, us Aries girls do enjoy a romantic thing from time to time, but not ALL the time.
Last, but not least, it's true we are most often honest and straightforward and don't like to make things complicated. Unfortunately, that can also come across as a fault since not many people can deal with that much straightforward honesty.... as I've seen recently with my Taurus guy 😢

To gemininlove

My ex aries was also possesive n controlling. I didnt mee him for 3 weeks, just to see what will hplen.
And now he told me he want to break up but we maintain frens.

So basically i think she just want some breathe or space.

Keep continue be her friend. Maybe meet her once a week, n be less controlling.

I still madly in love w my aries. He is my soulmate.