Should I move on?

Newbee here, and I'm wondering if this guy is into me or stringing me along. Met my Aries a month ago on a dating site. We got on really well and he asked to see me again. We arranged for the following week. The next day he postponed our date cos he had something else he'd arranged for that night that he'd forgotten about. Not a problem. I let him do the texting to set the pace (a text a day) but once I asked him to give me a call. Never heard from him until the next day, and he said he'd been busy but I'd seen him on the dating site. I'm a Leo, so I guess my nose was out of joint. I also took myself off the dating site cos I didnt want to keep checking up on him.
When he asked me why I came off the site I told him I was fed up talking to weirdos. Didn't hear from him for a few days, so i sent him a text asking how he was. He said he was surprised to hear from me again, and asked me if we could do that second date, which we did and had a great night.
Now he asks me if we can keep seeing each other but not other people. Great! But he's working away so we arranged to spend the weekend together 2 weeks from then. That was a week ago and I've 4 texts and 2 brief calls since then. Nothing for 2 days.
Maybe it's just me, but when a guy is into me I get more communication than that. He wanted to give this a go but why is he even bothering when he seems to have lost interest?
And now Im wondering if I hear from him today should I tell him I want more communication, say nothing or tell him I've died of boredom?

Hmmmmm, interesting.....

Could be you are expecting an awful lot in such a short time, even for an Aries.

A bit unclear exactly what your weekend will include, but I would see how that goes, and make a decision of some sort.

Yeah, maybe I do expect a lot. I guess past experience has shown me that the guys who don't make much effort often end up messing me about. I was planning to have a passionate weekend with him since we won't see each other too often, but now I'm thinking I don't want to drop my pants for someone who's just feeding me lines. He still goes out clubbing a lot, and at 44 I'm wondering if he's just a bit of a player.

Thanks peeps. I'll probably just wait and see when he gets in touch, and bite my tongue. I let him do the first contact other than when we hadn't spoke for a few days. He just seemed so smitten the last time we saw each other, and when I feel like that I don't want a few days to go by without contact. Speaks volumes in the wrong way to me. :0(

You should absolutely say something to him. Giving someone your expectations in the early beginning is very important & is the 1 thing many people forget to do b/c they fear rejection, turning the other person off, etc.

But if you notice, those who don't make it clear from the beginning what they expect, are usually left to be mad months/years later when the other person STILL hasn't met their expectations. This guy's intentions may be harmless + he's a freakin' guy! He won't know what you want NOR can he give you what you want unless you've atleast told him 1st. And if after you've told him he's still NOT adhering to your needs, move on (b/c settling is the last thing you should do)

I'm 50/50 on whether or not this guy is just leading you on.
On 1 hand, it could all be innocent & he really may be busy. But on the other hand, we all know that when you feel someone is worth it, you'll MAKE time/room.

A person whose got you on their mind won't magically "forget" about you. Even if can't physically see you/hang out b/c they're busy, they'll ATLEAST acknowledge you through other forms of contact. And if he's NOT doing that, your intuition is RIGHT in that he's probably NOT as interested in you as he's making it seem.

He could just be telling you what you want to hear. If he's already ready to be exclusive with you way before he's gotten a real chance to get to know you & make that kind of informed decision, then yeah he's probably just spitting "game" to you. After all, every player knows that the average woman will light up if/when he acts as if being exclusive is the way to go. A man who is not geniune will use that to his advantage, BUT even the biggest & best players eventually give themselves & their sneaky intentions away b/c their actions NEVER support what they actually say.

If he's not making good on his word, that's a potential problem. If he's too busy to say "hi" then perhaps he's NOT yet ready to date anyone, let alone you. If he's ready to be exclusive with you, his partnership with the dating site oughta end asap, otherwise there's NO real need for him to give the world/other women the impression that he's single/free IF he's really not.

Give this guy 1 more chance. If you continue to notice a pattern of inconsistency, then yep, it's exactly what you think. BULLshxt.

I was thinking along the same lines as you krysrenee. I'm still not sure whether to get in touch with him first and ask him why he's been quiet, or sit and wait. It seems to have put a dampner on the weekend plan now since I don't want to let loose with him only for him to disappear. hmm...

Well, he got in touch, and I said I was glad to hear from him, but not so glad I hadn't heard from him. He says he's been busy getting his head round new stuff in his life (he started a new job last week a few hours away, and has moved there). Had a few messages back and forth so hopefully he's taken the hint without me having to b1tch about it. Fingers crossed...

Yes, aries men looooooove a challenge. Don't act wimpy (not saying that you are). Behave independently and let him know that you have some important things going on. Aries men love women that have their own opinions, their own things going on in their lives and they actually enjoy getting into healthy debates. Call him out on what he is doing. That will show that you care enough to get a little angry by his actions, but at the same time that you will not put up with none of his bull s#!t, LoL. In a nutshell aries men likes to do the chasing for the most part. They want what they feel they cannot have. They are full of fire and desire.

Ha, after a few texts he asks if he can call me in a bit. I said Sure, that was 8 hours ago. I guess the message didn't get through. I'm sure he'll have an excuse, but I know he's going to drive me nuts.....

Huh, 8 hours ago.....and when/if he eventually calls you, act like it didn't bother you that he took so long. Talk to him for a minute or two and say something like, "Well, I was about to leave. I have to buy a few groceries because I'm having company. Can I text you tomorrow?" Hahaha! You MUST try to get him to see that he isn't the only one that can get someone wired up.

He apologised for not calling and I told him i didn't think this was going to work cos I'm too impatient and he's already driving me nuts. He said he understood and he had a lot on his plate so it was probably for the best.
Since then he's sent a few texts saying how much he really likes me (especially my straight talking)and wishes it could have been different, the last one saying this feels wrong and he thinks we've made a mistake.
I didn't know what to say, so i just wished him the best. I think I'm best leaving him alone until he gets himself together.
I'm disappointed with the way things went, but I really am too imaptient for him.
Thanks for the replies.

Am I the only one who picked up on the similarity between Should I Move On? and Did I Read Things So Wrong? And I also had the same situation with an Aries male...it seems logical to me the all these men can't be players...

I am an Aries and I am never aggessive in romance, too afraid of coming on too strong, my Aries man told me that the first night we talked...that he was afraid of coming on too strong, so he always backed off a little..

In fact most of the ones I have met are skittish..including myself.

Remember a while back there was a post from an Aries male that said something about how he sits and waits for the girl to come to him after she has played it cool?? I wish I could find the post, but I don't know how to find it.

Mine once said to me...he thought I'd be mad..so he was afraid to call..

Plus consider all men are not great texters....I work with a guy who says, "I hate texting...when my gf texts me, she better not expect an answer", and he's a really nice guy...he just hates it..he won't answer..
One thing I don't like about these boards...too many assumptions about people's actions..
The men give the best advice (Heroic guy) ...an older male friend told me once..."You want to know about men?? Ask a man....not a woman."
"You want to know about a woman?? Ask a woman!!"