pinklibra
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Quick Question Aries?
Libra,
Your the complicator 🙂
Your the complicator 🙂
i know I'm working on it though. I stopped telling him everytime i have a new emotion. lol. He was so sweet he'd talk about it with me, but after i put myself in shoes i stopped. That was in the beginning though. I've cooled out alot now. Thats why im asking adivce before i do anything lol
Posted by pinklibra
But anyway, here it is a yr later and he's on house arrest (which has been driving him nuts, given the fact that this man never EVER sits still.) but he will be getting off the Friday after Valentines day (Valentines day is that Thursday). I knew he??d probably wanna run the streets with his boys and celebrate getting off house arrest, so I asked him if he would want to come over to my new place and that I??d have special evening planned out for him if he were going to come. I told him I didn't know if he had plans, but maybe he could come after. He said he had plans for that Friday and Saturday with is being his first weekend off, and that we could probably work something out for Sunday.
Would I be wrong to turn him down on Sunday? Let me explain, I sort of feel like we are always on HIS terms. Don't get me wrong there are times when I suggest we hang, and we did. But I just remember a time when he was jumping through hoops to spend just a little time with me. Now I feel like he feels he can always see me, and maybe that's my fault. But it's never too late to change that cycle right? I don't wanna play games but I don't want to create a pattern for always coming last to other things. Am I reading too much into this?
If you feel second then tell him that you do, you will at least get the truth of your situation.
Kind of off topic: What is he on house arrest for?
One of his friends started fighting, not the Aries. But since he was with them he got charged too.
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Posted by pinklibra
I don't wanna play games...
Then don't. All you're doing it setting things up for potential drama. Aries pick up on that real fast and we are NOT fans of that bs. This is the first time he's going to be out and about and you choose that time to start playing games and bs because you don't like that he is making time for you on Sunday? (btw, be GLAD he's actually wanting to make time for you! He could be a total ass and not bother with you at all that weekend.)
I'm not trying to scold you, but this is how it appears and it will backfire on you. I understand not wanting to be stuck with everything on his terms, but pick another time to do it and maybe where it doesn't look so estrogen driven.
"Hey, let's do this since you got out!"
Him- "I'm busy those days, how about Sunday?"
You- "No, nevermind." CUE DRAMAS.
Maybe when setting up plans for something else and he won't go with your suggestion and wants another time, just kindly say that time won't work for you and put it off until a more convenient time comes up. Pick and choose on that one, but I think that this specific time won't be the most ideal. It'll come across as if you're punishing him for taking time to go see his friends and not you. Now is not a time to be a control freak.
Aaaand worst case, TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT. Aries prefer the truth. None of this game playing, evasive bs. You kinda lose brownie points when you try to do backhanded, manipulative bs. We may get upset initially, but the truth is preferred and wins more respect.
Am I reading too much into this?click to expand
I've decided to let it go and leave it as is. Thanks for the comments.
I agree Rocky. For once i wasn't afraid to read your comment. lol. I spoke with my cousin whom is also i fire sign, she's a sagg and she thinks in this case i should give him a pass. My bf whom is libra begged me not to cancel and just be glad he's even making time. My sagg cousin says if he doesn't come thru on Sunday, then i can be pissed and give the cold shoulder.
hmm idk I feel where your coming from and would probably cancel too, i dont see it as playing games. To me its more about gstting back to a even playing field where no one is doing more that the other and resenting the other party because of it. But then again he isnt your bf, I say be true to yourself no matter what the consequences may be.
Posted by pinklibra
I agree Rocky. For once i wasn't afraid to read your comment. lol. I spoke with my cousin whom is also i fire sign, she's a sagg and she thinks in this case i should give him a pass. My bf whom is libra begged me not to cancel and just be glad he's even making time. My sagg cousin says if he doesn't come thru on Sunday, then i can be pissed and give the cold shoulder.
Ha. I know I can be blunt, but I mean well. :p
Sometimes that stupid estrogen makes us think and do stupid things and we just need to snap out of it.
@bkbella ahh! See now i'm confused again. lol.
Well one thing for sure i wont tell him nevermind or like Rocky said, he will think i'm punishing him for wanting to be with his friends, and he's not obligated to spend this time with me.
However, it is a long time between now and then. So I MIGHT make up something that came up, and tell HIM when IM available and see what happens. Like i said i dont want to play games, but all is fair in love and war, and i dont want him putting me last which i've told him in the past he makes me feel as though he feels "Oh i can always see her, i'll see her another day." Granted i openly admit this is my fault, I've loved him soo much and he's always so busy that at some point i never wanted to miss out on seeing him. I'll bet my last dollar it was the day i fell in love that the tables turned. (darn libra scales). At one point it was vise versa i was always busy so when i wanted to see him he jumped because he knew if he missed, it was no telling when i'd be free again.
Hmm. I'm in school i work full-time i have dance, and choir i'm a busy woman but i make time for the things important to me, like my Aries even when its really hard. Perhaps that should stop until i get in return?
Take it easy before you respond Rocky. lol. And thanks BK for your input.
Well one thing for sure i wont tell him nevermind or like Rocky said, he will think i'm punishing him for wanting to be with his friends, and he's not obligated to spend this time with me.
However, it is a long time between now and then. So I MIGHT make up something that came up, and tell HIM when IM available and see what happens. Like i said i dont want to play games, but all is fair in love and war, and i dont want him putting me last which i've told him in the past he makes me feel as though he feels "Oh i can always see her, i'll see her another day." Granted i openly admit this is my fault, I've loved him soo much and he's always so busy that at some point i never wanted to miss out on seeing him. I'll bet my last dollar it was the day i fell in love that the tables turned. (darn libra scales). At one point it was vise versa i was always busy so when i wanted to see him he jumped because he knew if he missed, it was no telling when i'd be free again.
Hmm. I'm in school i work full-time i have dance, and choir i'm a busy woman but i make time for the things important to me, like my Aries even when its really hard. Perhaps that should stop until i get in return?
Take it easy before you respond Rocky. lol. And thanks BK for your input.
Yes pink you should until you get that Libra balance back. Also I know what you went through because ive done it before myself. I liked the guy so much that I never wanted to say no, big mistake I know now. its ok to say no. That way he'll always appreciate his time with you and appreciate you making time for him although you have a loaded schedule.
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Would I be wrong to turn him down on Sunday? Let me explain, I sort of feel like we are always on HIS terms. Don't get me wrong there are times when I suggest we hang, and we did. But I just remember a time when he was jumping through hoops to spend just a little time with me. Now I feel like he feels he can always see me, and maybe that's my fault. But it's never too late to change that cycle right? I don't wanna play games but I don't want to create a pattern for always coming last to other things. Am I reading too much into this?