Rageborn

You Rams know that seething inferno when seeing your crush/fwb/date/fiance/spouse give attention to or flirt (as seen through your point of view) with others?

How do you get a grip on this? The feeling often passes just as quickly, but how do you point the gun DOWN while the fire rages?

I've always struggled with this.

Posted by ramparts
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it doesn't happen. Period. It has happened in the past and I'm unreasonable so I choose to only date people who respect my boundaries in regards to flirting with other people. And my boundaries are...it doesn't happen.

Well, no, I can't really play that card, since I myself can be a big flirt. That's mostly sport playing in my blood tho. I don't step over the obvious "ok thats too much", and usually disappear in my smokescreen after I got a fair share of adrenaline.

Therefore, this doesn't really make me any better, so I'm trying not to be a hypocrite in all fairness. But I can't... the rage flares up.

Posted by tiziani
There's nothing wrong with being a hypocrite. Just be a loveable one.

Disappear from here, Leeb! *aims*

Posted by ramparts

Posted by RamOfPeace

Posted by ramparts
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it doesn't happen. Period. It has happened in the past and I'm unreasonable so I choose to only date people who respect my boundaries in regards to flirting with other people. And my boundaries are...it doesn't happen.

Well, no, I can't really play that card, since I myself can be a big flirt. That's mostly sport playing in my blood tho. I don't step over the obvious "ok thats too much", and usually disappear in my smokescreen after I got a fair share of adrenaline.

Therefore, this doesn't really make me any better, so I'm trying not to be a hypocrite in all fairness. But I can't... the rage flares up.

Idk lol...what do you want me to tell you? How to not be a hypocrite? If you can reason with yourself that you flirt for sport, why can't you reason that your spouse does the same? Have you talked to your spouse about it? Maybe you guys can find some humor in it. Mostly everything can be resolved with communication. I sound like a broken record but it's true.

If you just tell them like hey...I trust you 100% but I feel so territorial and wanna hulk out when I see another woman getting your attention.

I know in the past seeing another woman getting my boyfriends attention almost turned me on a little. Knowing that he was desired by other women and it sparked my competitive nature. And he would do it on purpose and I would just smirk...because I knew he only wanted me. But my current relationship hasn't reached that point yet. I'm not comfortable with other women getting his attention. I'm not entirely against flirting ever. Do you know what feelings are causing your rage fit? It sounds like you're just being territorial and you realize you're being unreasonable. Beyond that I don't know what else you can do.

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Well first, no I have no spouse)) secondly I want to k ow how to control the impulsive behavior. I got the communication down, thank god. It'd mostly a matter of impulsive emotions.

Posted by ramparts
oh, I can't help you there, sorry. I'm impulsive as shit.

Lol cheers

Posted by tiziani
There's nothing wrong with being a hypocrite. Just be a loveable one.

You betta speak on it

As a scorpio moon, i get the rage feeling.

Which is why i dont dish what i cant take.

I know that exact feeling. I just pretend I am busy on my phone but when in reality im trying to eavesdrop so hard but I am pretty sure it obvious what I am doing. I never confront the person I am dating about it because I as well am a big flirt so I kinda just let it go. What ive noticed is that after being with one person for so long and that happens I tend to lose "the rage" because i just dont care anymore.

What also tends to happen is i push the guy away if I think he is being disrespectful

Posted by wadaly372
I know that exact feeling. I just pretend I am busy on my phone but when in reality im trying to eavesdrop so hard but I am pretty sure it obvious what I am doing. I never confront the person I am dating about it because I as well am a big flirt so I kinda just let it go. What ive noticed is that after being with one person for so long and that happens I tend to lose "the rage" because i just dont care anymore.

What also tends to happen is i push the guy away if I think he is being disrespectful

This a million times. Thank you!!