Similar to one that's been posted ...

Hi all,

not on here looking for advice as such ... But like the gentleman before, I too dated an Aries women, we had our ups and downs, a mistake on my part which led her to believe I'd done it on purpose (Literally forgot to transfer some money for a meal and she paid before I could even do anything) we resolved that. Some other tings cropped up but nothing major. We started dating in June, forward to December, and my brother suddenly passed with no signs, a very traumatic loss. This had an effect on me of course, as I've never dealt with anything like that and he was my brother of 30 years passing, my younger brother. I mean emotional turmoil everywhere, family members, and friends, and being as the relationship was still new I suggested that anytime she feels overwhelmed with everything, she is more than welcome not to come to mine to support me or my family (cannot fault her that all, plenty of other women would've left), I didn't want her to be suffocated with everything.

Now, I know looking back that I was dealing with the grief by anger, and I would sometimes react to something someone said with a tone, or take something wrong when it wasn't said in the way I took it, especially with her at times. I posted this story before that she'd given me an ultimatum at one point that if I didn't seek counselling then she would go. Ultimately I did, for myself and us and the people around me more than just for her. things were still touchy as no one wants to think they are hurting someone they care by dealing with something that is quite not easy to control.

Her main issue is she believes I've purposely treated her in the way I did. I've told her I'm not an angry person, I'm so laid back but I have my beliefs and ways of doing things which are different others. I've seen my mum verbally, physically, mentally and emotionally abused so I've purposely acted in a way to not treat someone that way.

She's accusing me of being abusive. Which I haven't done in the sense she means. She ultimately said that we are no longer in a relationship, and that we will remain friends, she has re-iterated this a number of times. Yet we're still arranging to spend time together on weekends, she calls me every morning lunch and on her way home from work .... Yet the minute I suggest we might be more she goes off.

I guess the reason behind this is;

A, Shall I remove myself from her and this situation.
B, Stay as friends, keep an arms distance and maybe things might work out?
C, Leave it as it is?

So long, didn't realise!

Posted by blackphase
A. She calls you abusive and can't be in a relationship but still wants to have you around as a friend and keep tabs on you.

But this comes down to how you feel. I would think it would be hurtful to spend time with someone you cared for who that said you were something that you do not feel that you are. You should be able to find someone who will see you for what you really are now that you are no longer in a relationship instead of staying tied to someone who clearly does not think highly of you.. But if you love her and want to keep at this.. it's your life dear.

This.

And having your close family member, no less - a brother, suddenly pass is a hard card to be dealt to, for anybody. All Rams have a big ego, but a smart person will understand. You've just got a selfish bitch who absolutely will not compromise or back down if HER personal needs are not met. I suggest you find a better Aries.

I don't know about other Aries women, but I think I'd suck at dating.

Dead her.