Posted by ariesno
Yeah, I don’t know. I see so many threads lately about geminis being broken hearted over some aries. And it baffles me and truly makes me sad, ‘cause I can’t imagine an aries wanting to hurt someone -- especially a gem -- on purpose. I always imagined it would be the aries that would end up heartbroken in the end. I maybe feel like it’s lack of communication that often gets in the way of this pairing. Neither the aries nor the gemini will tell the other how they feel, or ask the necessary questions in order to move forward, and sooner or later one of them gets tired of feeling rejected and leaves. And then they just blow up on each other, and all hell breaks loose.
I know, dealing with the gems in my life, that I definitely had to learn how to control my anger and to be patient (when they have one of their mood swings). Maybe it’s just me growing up. But yeah, I guess it’s kind of like what @bittercupcake is saying; essentially, it’s two children trying to make it work. But that can work to our advantage. I’ve discovered that if I just tell a gemini that they’re hurting/bothering me, they will stop doing it. ‘Cause just like a child, they didn’t mean to hurt anybody. And I think this would work the other way around as well, but in my experience, the geminis rarely tells me if their hurt or feel rejected. And then I can never know. So yeah, lack of communication, probably.
Anyway. In this case I’m afraid it’s actually quite simple. I’ve been in a similar situation, and sure, I miss my ex sometimes, but I could never get back together with him. 1) I’m not attracted to him anymore; 2) He’s hurt me so much in the past that there’s no way we could ever move past that. But sometimes I find myself wishing for a friendship, because I miss our conversations. So I kind of dip my toe in from time to time. But then I realize that I’m too proud to just forgive and forget what happened, and I pull back once again. She cares for you and thinks about you, though. That is very obvious. After that train accident, she instantly thought of you? That’s good news. Still, I think she just wants friendship. And as you said, she knows what she wants, so she probably won’t stop until she gets it.
Do you still have feelings for her at this point? Is she still saying it’s just friendship?
Posted by GemitatiPosted by doublesidedGem
I just think it's strange that I told her I can't be simply friends as my feelings are too much. It was her decision to block us. On the first night we met up she's asked me to go away and we've planned to meet up this public holiday.
I sill think there are feelings from her side, definitely from me. I'm not pressuring her. And have told her that I missed her, and these feelings came back. I'm in a much better place than I was. She can see that. I've said I want to rebuild our friendship first, and where possible put the past behind us and move forward.
She's going away tomorrow for work, I wanna send her a little text, nothing heavy. Or shall I just leave for her to contact me?
Text her. Make her happy.click to expand
Posted by toxiccottonPosted by doublesidedGem
Gawd she's relentless. I've never understood how she can roll things so easily off the tongue. She's blind to the fact that she accepts my position and still says I'm wrong and made no points. This woman actually believes she's does nothing Tonadd to a situation and that I created it.
She tells me she's uncomfortable with memes, yet doesn't stop or pull away when we hug her close or run my fingers through her hair. She told me she wants to go on holiday, when I mentioned it she accused me of lying and saying that I mentioned it! I've sent her some holiday screen shots of some good deals, she then says this morning sending her these without her saying yes is weird. I said you asked me and if you don't want go say no and I won't send them. Do you think she replied to it, no of course not. She wants to tcall the shots and because I call her and blatantly honest I don't think she likes it. But I think she does. Weird but I treetrunking like her so much, which is annoying.
Sounds like she has aries mercury (I do too). It's a bytch sometimes. We don't listen to reason.
I don't know why she's throwing such a fit, when she could easily choose to cut all contact with you, if that's what she wants. Maybe she's desperately trying to re-establish some control, because you were the one in control in your relationship back when you were grieving. I think she likes you around, but how can she go back to someone who hurt her. Gotta have some self respect, after all, right?
Your relationship sounds very dysfunctional at the time, and I think the reason she is being so melodramatic is because she wants to feel like she's the one in control this time. And yes, we like when people are honest with us and call us on our crap. I'm sure she respects you for that.
I honestly think the only thing that could fix this is if you tell her you still have feelings for her. But tell her when she's calm... Right now she doesn't know what you want, right? So she doesn't want to get in too deepclick to expand