So I have this crush...

Okay, so I have this crush on this aries girl, and I am a virgo male. I have told her that I liked her and asked her out on a date(I've already done my 'tests' on her, and she has exceeded them with spectacular results). The only thing is, she only sees me as a friend.

The day that I saw her, I was oddly drawn to her(and 3 other Aries woman at the same time... -_- Why does this happen?) so I proceeded to get to know her over the course of the next seven or eight months, and we became really good friends. I was already in a relationship, so I didn't want to mess things up at that time with my current girlfriend at the time(we're broken up now, obviously). I found out that she actually had an interest in me for a while, and still does(I hope...).

My question is, what can I do to get her to start liking me that way?

I'm a Cancer Sun, and a Scorpio Moon if it helps. =\

Why do people think that you can "make" someone like you? :/

I derped and used the wrong chart calculator for it. -_-

I'm actually a Virgo in Rising, Sun, Mercury, and Venus.

I don't think I can make her like me, I'm just saying I want to show her that I actually care for her. I admitted my feelings for her, told her exactly how I felt about her, and I got nothing in return. She told me that she likes me, but she also wants me as a friend(friendzoned...).

What I was actually asking for what Aries females look for in a mate/friend/whatever. What sets them off, what does the average Aries Female enjoy in life and what they look for in life. Are they party goers, or do they live the life of that of someone who enjoys to go out sometimes, but not all the time?

I have a lot of questions on this matter actually.

I found out she's moving at the end of the month(because her ex boyfriend won't leave her the hell alone and it gets on my nerves as well as everyone that we work with). I want to show her that there are guys out there that can actually give a woman support and give her what she wants. I've helped give her tons of advice, showed her that I care about her(in a Virgo way by doing small things, helping her out, some small talk), and I've done other things for her.

I feel as if I'm under appreciated in this matter because of it.

If you want the full story message me and I'll discuss.

That's the thing. We already kissed. She told me that she's basically not ready for a relationship. I mean, I've told her how I felt and everything, so I guess I'm just waiting on her to make the next move. And if she doesn't, well... I guess I have to move on.

Basically how all of this went down is she had a boyfriend who treated her like crap most of the time, because he was too clingy/jealous/what have you. He wouldn't leave her alone. Even after they broke up, he's still acting immature about it and not moving on. He's calling her names and everything else at work, this is one of the reasons why she's moving.

I just want to show her that there are guys out there that can give them the space that she needs, care for her when they're around, and just be there when she wants. I told her all of this. Though there is a slight bit of an age difference(5 years), that's not relative, because I'm patient enough to not force someone to do stuff they don't want to do.

I've always had doubts in myself in relationships, considering all of them had been really crappy(only been in 4..), but I know that there's someone out there for me, someone perfect for me. I don't know if she's that person, but I'm sure that she's pretty close to it.

She's happy most of the time(when I'm around her anyways), we've talked for hours before, and sometimes she walks by me and touches me on the back or something really soft and gentle like, since I'm a Virgo, I notice this stuff all the time. She'll even act a little different when she's around me. So this is why I'm confused and asking for some advice, I don't know if she likes me for sure, but I think she's interested. I just don't think she trusts herself at the moment for another relationship.

Look, if she doesn't want a relationship at the moment, then, I hate to break it to you, but she DOESN'T WANT a relationship 😄 And Aries are all about want, so there's no way you can MAKE her change her mind. What you can do, for now, is keep the friendly attitude, be there for her IF and WHEN she needs you to, give her as much time and space as she needs, and, whatever you do, DON'T pressure her into anything. If she recently got out of a crappy relationship, of course she'll be wary of getting close to another man! That doesn't mean you are doomed to remain in the friendzone for ever. Just keep being a friend and playfully flirt with her from time to time. Or return those small, tender gestures like a touch here and there.
Oh, one more thing. If you can engage her in something even a little challenging, she'll have a lot of fun and might start associating you to that sort of fun 🙂
And another "one more thing", lol. Keep whatever insecurities you might have - about yourself or your past relationships - to yourself. We're strong women - and we want strong men. Insecurities are a big NO NO. 😄

Posted by glassblowing
Also, our lust is our love and if she wasn't ripping your clothes off and going all the way after you kissed her....

True that. I'm approaching 30 so I'm learning to keep that lust in check, a little, but the truth remains that, if I'm into a guy, I WANT to rip his clothes off and get down to business... sometimes even before he's had a chance to touch me/kiss me, lol. That being said, if I like a guy enough to consider him as a potential boyfriend, and not just a play buddy, I will wait a little to get to know him better before the whole ripping clothes thing 😄

But I agree. Aries are VERY physical, so if she's not trying to jump him, she's either not THAT into him, or there are other factors influencing her decisions (like maybe she doesn't want to rush into a new relationship?).
Anyway, I find it encouraging that the girl still touches him from time to time. I know for a fact I wouldn't do that with a guy I wasn't at least a little attracted to...