why does he want to come hang out after breaking u

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ladycappi41
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My aries ex is making me crazy. He has become extremely verbally abusive. I finally had enough of it and this time I fired right back. I am tired of allowing him to do this to me so I finally stuck up for myself.
Lastnight me and my next door neighbors were all hanging outside, grilling, laughing, having some drinks and our "typical" fun.
He lives a few doors down. We are just minding our business and next thing we know his best friend is standing there asking me if it's ok for him to come hang out with us. I looked at him and said it's a free world but this is my yard and if you guys have been drinking liquor as well as beer then no. He needed to stay down at his house.
Few minutes later they come down. I just ignored him for the most part. He kept whispering to his buddy. I heard him say "I don't want to be back with the stupid bitch" I almost told him to just shut up and leave, but I didnt. I took the high road and ignored him. It just wasn't worth the fight or ruining my good time.
This time I am actually considering started to date again. Not him but move on. Not immediately, but in time. I still need to heal. Two years of break ups and this is the first time I've considered dating.
Why would he send his friend to ask permission? Why would he want to be around me?
How is he going to react when I start dating again?
basically I am just trying to find out what I'm up against....
help
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Noreallynow
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Posted by AriesIntrovert16
That's what happened to the Cancer woman below.



Posted by Noreallynow
Posted by ladycappi41
Bc he likes to party. I'm his first gf ever that was longer than three or 4 weeks.
Even if he hadn't broke it off I was well on my way to it.



I hear you. It's not healthy to stay in a relationship if you're not happy.
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I'm not a cancer woman and he didn't leave me. I initiated it. I told him that he didn't have to contact me. I said it then, he said it. We even spoke after that. You don't know everything that's going on. And it was longer than three to four weeks. Smh.

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ladycappi41
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Ok. I think my message is being misunderstood. I WANT him to leave me alone.
I want to move on. I just don't want to have to hear his childish name calling and stuff. Especially when I do start dating again.
Problem is that he is constantly saying mean things. Just hateful. His while family is miserably hateful. I want to live without having to deal with any of their crap.
How am I supposed to do that? I don't want to make him jealous or want me back. I just want to move on... I WILL date again regardless of his living three doors down and always being in his yard getting wasted