Yikes.

So, Aries man went MIA for a week. I boiled over, finally messaged him and asked him if he was alright. He told me his good friend died this week and it's been really rough. All I want to do is speed off to his house and give him a huge hug, but I don't really know if he's home. Or if that'd even be a good idea. He's had such a tough time. I told him I was sorry and asked if there was anything I could do, but he's probably working or preferring silence at the moment.

What should I expect? Is he going to disappear again for a while til he feels better emotionally? I want to help but I don't want to intrude either. Just want to cuddle the hell out of him.

If he disappeared for a week then that means that he's the type of person who withdraws during high-stress situations.

It's always hard to deal with this the 1st time a man disappears b/c him suddenly going cold activates all kinds of insecurities, fears & emotions in a woman!

But as you continue getting to know him & learn him, your insecurities/anxiety will settle down & you'll not take it as personal. But I get it. The 1st time is always hard b/c a woman's imagination freaks out when she's suddenly struck with distance from a man.

If he's the kind of person that withdraws during hard times, the best thing to give him is space. If he didn't want space, he wouldn't have put space b/w you two. Try not to take it personal. Try not to smother him during this time. I get it, we ladies jump to the rescue with our friends & with other ladies, but men may not be as welcoming to the extra attention/nurturing when they're in the "Leave me be" zone. Respect that. And know that plenty of men are like this.

Let him know that you appreciate his need for space in such a difficult time & that you are here for him whenever he needs you. You are accomplishing 2 things by telling him those exact words: 1. You're letting him know that you both acknowledge AND respect his need for space & to grieve without you & 2. You're letting him know that he has your support & your prayers.

He probably doesn't want to be bothered now but trust me, he'll remember that you were "there" from a distance & will respect/like you so much more for it! Don't underestimate how simply telling someone that you will be there for them if they need you, can mean the world to that person & can be just as significant to them as 1,000 roses would be for you

@Yikes

My Aries friend did a similar thing recently after having to move back home. Completely stopped communicating for a couple weeks. I gave a couple of messages from a distance and they returned when they were in a slightly better mood.

@krysrenee Exactly. Does not want to be smothered/mothered, and only wants the extra attention/nurturing when he asks for it.

Mm I figured. Having heard from him is relieving enough, I'm hoping he just takes it easy. It's exactly what he said too, he needed to cope with it on his own. I told him I'd always be around if he needed anything, and I could wait until he felt better. He told me he'd get back to me once his mind clears up. Poor guy. I was once worried he might not come back around, but I'm letting it go. I'm so used to the clingy waterworks from my scorp ex. This is kinda nice that he doesn't need me.