Aqua Mooners

What do we need in our lives in order to maintain sustainabiity?

HI OFA!

LOL!!!! You are a nutty girl 😛


Yeah, maybe I need more earth in my chart or something, I can't stay firmly planted on the ground if my life depended on it.

We Aqua mooners have certain fears and I think the number one thing that scares us away from any relationship is when our freedom is being threaten.

I'm nothing but air, air (with some water), air and some fire lol, thats just messed up 😄

Yeah, I need more earth in my chart too :/ I can't seem to be tied down by anything!! I get restless a lot and I have an inability to form close relationships with most everyone.

See, thats the thing, I can get close to people, just just when I get scared of something, I back away. The whole, 'You are mine and you belong to me' kind of thing makes me nervous.

You know, like I can't do anything that I want anymore, my attention can't be on anything else but the guy in my life.

I think Aqua mooners take having their own lives seriously.

Try yoga or some tai chi or something. I think in general people with aqua moon have a mind that never rests. We always have one foot in the palpable world and another in a constant imaginary place. What I found that helps bring me peace of mind is to take up something that requires concentration to hold a certain body position (difficult ones), and/or to practice movements that demand fluidity (tai chi or something). If you sign up somewhere where these types of movements are practiced, try going a couple times a week for a while and see how much more centered you'll feel inside yourself. The more you focus on your body the less stress is placed on your mind. Or do some sport i dunno haha.

I think through this you'll feel more ease in your relationships and they will be less demanding because you'll come to find that you know exactly what you want in a relationship and the people that come in contact with you will realize this also. People who are scattered tend to send mixed signals which dominating people can pick up on and inevitably try to push themselves onto you more.

Try yoga or some tai chi or something. I think in general people with aqua moon have a mind that never rests. We always have one foot in the palpable world and another in a constant imaginary place. What I found that helps bring me peace of mind is to take up something that requires concentration to hold a certain body position

Deep concentration? hmmmm, interesting. You are an Aqua mooner too I take it.

That's one of the best things about my boyfriend, he doesn't freak out if we don't see each other for a few days.

Damn it all to pieces, my boyfriend is the comeplete opposite. If I miss a day calling him, he freaks out on me. Not in the beginning, the conversation will be nice but than after a while he unleash and it can be a bit draining because I don't see anything wrong with missing a day or two or not seeing him for a few days. As long as the two of you know that you are a couple, whats the deal? Yeah, that frustrates me.

How is your guy? I saw your post on the Cap board.

You did? Which one? lol!!! Theres a post on the aries board too, he has an aries moon so I thought it was better to post over there about certain things.

Valentine's Day started off weird and not too enjoyable -- the whole issue was that he made plans but they couldn't be carried out because I wasn't going to be home. He wanted to cook dinner and spend V-Day at my place, but I also had a project due at midnight that same day.

That V-Day post on the cap board was mainly about me believing that the 14th was on a Thursday and not Saturday -- the fact that I wanted to celebrate it early pissed him off royally :/ He doesn't get over things well (wish I knew that before) so all that angst carried over to Saturday.

We made up though 🙂 But than he got upset with me again because I had to leave during mid-morning. I spent the first half with him but I needed to get some things done. Of course he didn't understand that.

Anyway, so everything is so so at the moment lol

Either that or he is kinda clingy...Eeek!! I've had guys like that too and it gets old after about a day. lol

He believes that we should agree all the time and spend most of our time together, no matter what I have to do ..

so, I'm not sure if that means he is clingy but it sure makes things a bit difficult.

People who are scattered tend to send mixed signals which dominating people can pick up on and inevitably try to push themselves onto you more.

WHAT! Oh no ...

LOL @ OFA,

Yeah, you are right all the way. A gemini? Nah 😛 An Aqua man, maybe 😉

i'm not sure i understand the question.

LOL @ Wheels,

look at OFA word or my original word, however you want to take it -- it will all meet in the center anyway 😉

"I think the number one thing that scares us away from any relationship is when our freedom is being threaten."

true for me.

"You know, like I can't do anything that I want anymore, my attention can't be on anything else but the guy in my life.

I think Aqua mooners take having their own lives seriously."

same comment as above.

ok, i think i see what you're getting at. do you mean how can we achieve sustainability of romantic relationships when we value our personal freedom so highly?

---Hmm that doesn't sound very healthy...You should still be able to have your own life, especially so early on in the relationship!

You're telling me! I know, so I'm feeling a bit stand-offish at the moment. I was with him Saturday and Sunday, have not called yet because I'm feeling good that we were together but also uneasy at his reaction when I had to leave ... after stopping me twice ..

ok, i think i see what you're getting at. do you mean how can we achieve sustainability of romantic relationships when we value our personal freedom so highly?

YES!!!! 😄

Look, I'm not a leo okay, so I'm not that smooth with my stuff but yes that what I meant 😉 hehe

"Look, I'm not a leo okay, so I'm not that smooth with my stuff but yes that what I meant"

hahaha. well, i can identify 100% with how you feel your aqua moon affects you in relationships. for me, i find it necessary to state my priorities. right now, that means education before all else because it will help me achieve my goals. that is the #1 reason that i need "space" in relationships at this point in my life. if a potential partner can't understand that and demands too much of my time, then it will only end up in frustration and heartache. i'm sure to some it may seem "cold", but i'm just not willing to compromise my chances at professional success for anything less than a sure thing, relationship-wise. if you know what i'm saying.

---Yeah, that's just crazy...I think that's more acceptable after maybe a few years of being together but doing that so soon, he seems to be wanting to move things very quickly! I would feel very uncomfortable about that too. I prefer to be friends for a while first and then after a while, EASE into dating and not be around each other 24/7.

Totally, I am the exact same, no joke. Thats why its hard for me to wrap my head around all of this.

Keep in mind, things were not always like this, he changed afterwards. In the beginning, things were fine, but he has changed. We were friends first for a alittle while but than we started dating and things were cool 🙂 But I must say I think he may have fooled me alittle.

Have you been able to talk to him about any of this?

no

Talking about it is not a good thing, he takes it as I'm being negative about the relationship.

not to be a downer, but i think this dude is expecting too much from you too fast, and if he doesn't slow it down out of respect for your situation then you may need to chalk it up to incompatibility due to age and consider other prospects.

i find it necessary to state my priorities. right now, that means education before all else because it will help me achieve my goals. that is the #1 reason that i need "space" in relationships at this point in my life. if a potential partner can't understand that and demands too much of my time, then it will only end up in frustration and heartache. i'm sure to some it may seem "cold", but i'm just not willing to compromise my chances at professional success for anything less than a sure thing, relationship-wise. if you know what i'm saying.

I know what you are saying. I've stated my priorities but they've fallen on the wayside since things got serious. For instance, I told him that I need to email my professor concerning my project after going home (I never made it home), he said: "let your professor know what you are spending time with your boyfiend and didn't have time to complete the project, she should understand that"

:O :O :O WTF!

not to be a downer, but i think this dude is expecting too much from you too fast, and if he doesn't slow it down out of respect for your situation then you may need to chalk it up to incompatibility due to age and consider other prospects.

oh, you remember the age thing? ooops, lol. Well, I'm unsure how to address that, I thought it didn't matter at first but we are in two different places in our lives.

Here's the thing OFA,

In the beginning of the relationship, it was fine to be myself -- my personality was what he just loved! :O Now all of a sudden, he tells me that I need to improve on certain -- one thing I need to do is remember everything he tells me, which is hard being a college student :O Its hard to remember deriviatives let alone every single thing my partner tells me.

He also things that it makes no sense to be light-hearted when it comes to our relations. I need to be deep all the time, like he is ...

I know he cares about me, he does and I know it, but I'm starting to think about things.

Even after making-love with the guy, when I got home I thought, "Hmmm, what have I gotten myself into here."

You need a guy who can let you have your own space and your own life and to be your silly, awesome self around him! I hate guys that try to hold you back from having those things. It can ruin a perfectly great woman. :/


This remains me of a conversation I had with my buddy Chris about my bf ... he thinking of ways I can break up with this guy -- yeah, he thinking of ways because he thinks I don't have the heart to do it lol!

Its not that I don't have the heart, its just that theres something he told me VERY recently that makes it almost impossible to leave him really but I know I have to come up with something.

He seems pretty controlling and intent on making you into someone just like him.

Funny you say that, he mension that pretty soon we'll start looking like each other. This is suppose to come with the territory of being bonded with someone —

Hmm, I said, I'm not sure if I want to look like him 😛 Yeah, i want to look like me.

hehehehe, sorry about that 🙂


This thread is about Aqua mooners, not my crazy situation.

"Its not that I don't have the heart, its just that theres something he told me VERY recently that makes it almost impossible to leave him really but I know I have to come up with something."

Honesty is always the best way. Trust me. No matter what it may look like at the moment or for awhile afterwards, when it's honest everybody wins.

Yikes, can you mention what he said? Either way though, the relationship doesn't sound very healthy :/

Its cool when he gets his way. Anytime I suggest something different and he goes along with it he'll complaint the whole time so it makes no sense but to listen to him so I can keep my reserve.

Hahaha @ OFA and matching 🙂

Well, he has a health issue thats a bit hard to take. I'm the only one outside of his family that knows about it. For years he's been in sort of an "ivory tower" because of it. I didn't tell me the full extent after the relationship started and THAN he tell me that being in love with me fills a huge void in his life. And that I'm the girl he needs to love him because thats all he needs is someone to love him ...

and all that other mushy crap that gets to woman ...


For crying-out-sideways, that whole thing got to me 😢 I felt stuck again. Funny thing is, he said all that stuff when I tired to breakup with him like a week or so ago.

Honesty is always the best way. Trust me. No matter what it may look like at the moment or for awhile afterwards, when it's honest everybody wins.

Hi Ray,

Yes, you gave me advice before 🙂 You are right, I just don't know. Maybe we should talk first to see if things can be compromised one more time. If not, then I'll have to do something.

"Maybe we should talk first to see if things can be compromised one more time. If not, then I'll have to do something."

I say when there is honesty all is possible. Be honest about how you feel in this relationship, his imposed boundaries and all. If he loves you and want it to work he'll compromise. Air moon is not the best placement for decision making but very often we know what it is we want but just can't come to actually making that final decision.

Really? Damn it ... leave it to me to get into things like this.

What a mess I've made by just liking and being attracted to a guy.

I say when there is honesty all is possible. Be honest about how you feel in this relationship, his imposed boundaries and all. If he loves you and want it to work he'll compromise. Air moon is not the best placement for decision making but very often we know what it is we want but just can't come to actually making that final decision.

Point taken, its hard for us to make a decision, my goodness, I hate it!

HAHAHAHA, yeah I think so.

I think my boyfriend is a good guy really, he just in a different place right now and he's a bit emotionally damaged. He was in a relationship for 9 years which produced children (figures, a virgo being involved for 9 years without marrying lol). He walked away from her but left her most of his stuff because he didn't want her to get weird and get the courts involved when it came to money for the kids. He's been single for about 2 years now

In my opinion he could have done things differently but I guess he did what he thought was best.

Well I know it's a tight spot you're in, but I don't think it's your fault, from what it sounds like.

🙂

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Try yoga or some tai chi or something. I think in general people with aqua moon have a mind that never rests. We always have one foot in the palpable world and another in a constant imaginary place. What I found that helps bring me peace of mind is to take up something that requires concentration to hold a certain body position (difficult ones), and/or to practice movements that demand fluidity (tai chi or something). If you sign up somewhere where these types of movements are practiced, try going a couple times a week for a while and see how much more centered you'll feel inside yourself. The more you focus on your body the less stress is placed on your mind. Or do some sport i dunno haha.""

oh crap! I was thinking of doing some kick-boxing this year......I have a lady friend who is doing it....I have always as long as I can remember wanted to do a martial arts....so I really thinking of joining a class........I tend to get alot of stress/ nervousness......and tend to hold alot of energy in but have no real release for it. I'm also going to start really exercising.....I need a big change in my life.....I need to feel something different

Fellow aqua mooners - have you ever met someone who valued their independence as much as you do yours? If you have how did it go?


hahahaha 😉

^^ I do feel for you in that situation too. Must admit i've been there myself.

Yeah, its hard when things seem okay ... and then you start 'thinking'.

Hi Starblue 🙂

CS...Yeah true, it could just be his response to a lot of bad things going on. He's comfortable with you and wants you around to comfort him...But wow, 9 years and no marriage— I would peace out after about 4 years and no engagement! There's other fishes in the sea lol

Fyck yeah, theres no way I'd stick around that long without some formal commitment, theres just no way. Well, he ... theres a back story to that too actually lol. But yeah, I agree with you.


But watch out for them emotionally damaged ones, they can put a damper on things

You know whats funny OFA, I didn't realize how emotional damaged he was until we were intimate, I saw it in his eyes ... thats when I put on one of his big T-Shirts and go to bed with him after we were done doing our thing and just forget about how much of an ass he was when we were out eating. I saw something him that I was not prepared for, you know what I mean?

I saw pain, yes I did -- underneath all that intensity was so much pain ...

I wanted to make it all go away too ... believe it or not lol. Yes, I wanted to ... but there's was an edge to the pain I saw. It was unreachable, you know? Me being there was what helped so the moment I needed to live kind of destroyed all that we shared because I kind of broke it apart ... although I stayed longer like he wanted but I needed to go to get my homework done but he didn't understand that ... he wanted to be with me while doing my homework but ... I don't know ... there was something not quite right about that so I hurried and put my stuff on and took off before he could put his on.

I felt that no matter how good things felt, if I would have stayed any longer, I would have been trapped, yeah trappen in his ivory tower ...

Aww that melts your heart, doesn't it? You just want to help with whatever you can.

Yeah ... yeah, I'm a sap I know but I can't help it -- stupid Aqua-Pisces Mars, its a curse I tell you. I tried to be sweet but the way he was moving I really needed to hold on for dear life! LOL!!!! My way to add humor but its the truth, he doesn't mind making a girl sore 😛 😉

When my boyfriend and I first started dating, I was just going through major family issues and whatnot and everyone kept telling him I was going to need therapy (screw them!!!) but really, I just needed someone to be there for me. LOL I'm not helping much, am I??

LOL @ OFA, its okay, I see what you mean. Yeah, just someone to be there, I get it ...

"I have always as long as I can remember wanted to do a martial arts....so I really thinking of joining a class........"

Good that's great! Focusing on your body more is a definate way to relieve anxiety of the mind. It's a positive action so I say go for it!

What do we need in our lives in order to maintain sustainabiity?

first learn grammar 😛
then, understand the true meaning of 'freedom', 'space', 'independence', etc... what does it personally mean for you? not the generic subscription that astrology touts... this changes for each person and depending on the stage in your life. Are you just dealing with plain ole incompatibility? because most people I hear talking about their space and freedom are just not compatible with those their with and need an excuse to untangle

first learn grammar

*Pushes Zena out the window* QUIET YOU! 😛 😛 😛 @ Zena

understand the true meaning of 'freedom', 'space', 'independence', etc... what does it personally mean for you?

I know myself and I understand that in a relationship, you have to compromise. However, I can compromise and be totally fine with it, but losing freedom, space, and independence all together is another issue.

because most people I hear talking about their space and freedom are just not compatible with those their with and need an excuse to untangle

That can be true too, but in my case, it really is the space thing LOL! There are a few other things too but I think those can be worked on if I had enough room to breathe. At this point, the is the longest hiatus I've had from him since we've been together -- I haven't spoke nor seen him since Sunday. Yes, I needed time off ...

^ lol at the sun guys... that's cos a lot of them use it to run away from reality... and come back like nothing's happening 🙂 that's funny

^ lol at the sun guys... that's cos a lot of them use it to run away from reality... and come back like nothing's happening that's funny

This is true too for Aqua mooners -- it depends on the rest of the astro makeup. The mooners (lol mooners lol) will run but only if theres a reason for it. Not usually because we are afraid of commitment.

This gives good points about Aqua mooners:

Moon In Aquarius

With Moon in Aquarius you are very perceptive, imaginative, and enjoy the opinions your friends and colleagues offer. You are social, and sympathetic to others feelings.You are prone to unorthodox, independent and unconventional tendencies. Your eccentric interests and hobbies will draw strange looks from observers.

You are attracted to anything that is of an intellectual, social, original or unusual nature. Your vocation may include educational, political, scientific or social work. In your heart you are a true humanitarian. You have strong and sometimes very impractical ideals. You are drawn to large movements supporting great causes. You may also belong to a mystical or secret society, brotherhood, or association.

Your intellect and imagination combine to give you inventive and original ideas. The Moon in Aquarius gives you an attraction towards occult subjects like astrology or clairvoyance. You get along with people who think the same as you.

Males with Moon in Aquarius : Active, agreeable and courteous. Sympathetic, happy, optimistic, love of work, fond of the company of fine and good people. They go for political, educational and scientific work. One maybe interested in astrology and occult sciences and secret societies. Liking for the strange and curious, occasionally feel sorrows and may change through friends. Moon in Aquarius increases the imagination, intuition, and mental sensitiveness. Gain through inheritance.

Females with Moon in Aquarius : Such girls are very beautiful, tall, oval faced, magnetic and handsome appearance. It is so said that they are as beautiful as Moon. Such damsels are brilliant, wealthy, acquire wealth and enjoy social status after marriage. Fickle-minded at times and odd in their behaviour. Imaginative, inventive, intuitive and inspirational. Self-respect, good reputation and of charitable nature. They love outdoor life and sports but sometimes they are wayward and vain.As regards health, they will suffer pain in feet and lower limbs. A weak eyesight with age.

Moon In Aquarius:

Famous People with Moon in Aquarius:
John Lennon, Uma Thurman, David Duchovny, Diane Keaton, Bill Murray, Annie Liebovitz, Cat Stevens, Prince, Sam Shepherd, Denzel Washington, J.R.R. Tolkien, Billie Holiday

Personality Profile:
Those with the Moon in Aquarius seem to have access to the mysteries of the universe through their inner lives. It's as if they know something the rest of us don't. There's an emotionally detached quality to them that gives them a cool head in times of crisis, but can also make them seem as remote as a distant galaxy.

They're notable humanitarians, always trying to reach out to the masses through art, science or a cause. This makes them more oriented toward groups in general, and less comfortable with the intimate one on one. Their orientation toward the collective ?all of us? makes it hard for them to isolate their own unique emotional reality. To put it more simply, many Aquarius Moons don't know how they feel much of the time.

The Moon in Aquarius comes up with the grand ideas, but can have a hard time with the nuts and bolts. Some may find the mundane challenges of daily life, such as paying bills or doing the dishes, to be a herculean struggle. When feeling insecure, they may hide behind a veil of aloofness and try to blend in with the multitudes. Some find connection by simply sitting alone in a public place, such as a coffee shop.

You'll likely find that no matter what you say, you're not likely to find disapproval from an Aquarius Moon. This is why they're sought out by people living on the fringes of society, and are known for being able to soothe the mentally unstable. They're great and interesting friends, with a wholly unique wit and set of opinions.

In romance, it may be hard for the self-contained Aquarius Moon to ever completely merge. They're happy to stick with a romantic friendship, and many of them find partnership later in life. A need for personal freedom keeps them from making ties that feel controlling or limiting in any way. They'll thrive with a mate that is also taking the road less traveled, and simply wants to include them in the curious experiment of life along the way.

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Both descriptions are very true but I am not comfortable with a romantic friendship -- I don't mix platonic with romance lol!!!

Hi OFA 😄

Sounds true of a guy I used to know with Aquarius in Moon, though I wasn't friends with him very long lol He was always trying to bring his mom to hang out all the time...


HAHAHAHA!!! No way, really?