Aries/Scorpio what to do?

ok.. the story.. here goes.. in dec i got an email from a woman i had not heard from in 21 years.. since high school and we were like best friends in school and should have been much more.. but we let everyone else stand in our way and drifted apart.. then in dec 07 i got an email from her and we started talking, within 2 weeks we were doing much more than talking.. i am an Aries.. she is a Scorpio ... and the passion is unreal.. and that is the problem.. we only talk online. when we see each other it is ALL passion, and we cant turn the engine off.. not that i am complaining about that.. i just wish we would take the time to talk more face to face.. i have told her i would like to talk more in person and she says she would like that.. but then she says the problem is as soon as we see each other we are instantly so turned on we cant resist the things we do.. any advice on how to get some conversation going?...lol

Go at it and wear out the passion to where it subsides enough for you two to get a word in edgewise?

Thats what i worry about.. i worry when the passion goes then we'll be stuck with a big "gap" like something is missing.. according to our zodiac signs and what i have read about relationships between an Aries man and a Scorpio woman... it says the relationship will be difficult after the passion fades.. i am concerned because they have hit that nail on the head when they say "the passion will be amazing in the beginning of these two zodiacs relationship". but on the plus side we were like best friends when we were teens with no sexual tension. so that tells me we can have plenty outside the bed. i guess it is a good thing that i am an aries.. because she wants to submit, she wants me to be in control and to be very aggressive and i dont mind at all.. lol.. the story is actually much more complicated then what i made it out to be.. but i dont wont to get into all of that. its like a friend told me.. "we make jerry springer proud buddy".. lol. for now i'll enjoy the ride and hope it never ends.. talk to everyone later
Sincerely
Jonathan "the Aries" and we ROCK

and is it common for Scorpios to play hard to get games? because she will go a month where she cant wait to see me, then another month where its like pulling teeth to see her, then back the other way... back and forth? its like an up and down emotional ride and i dont like that part...
Sincerely
Jonathan "The ARIES" and WE ROCK

I'm a scorpio woman and we are very passionate but not with everyone...so if she's this into you than it's her way of talking. you don't understand it but trust me she can't help herself. I can understand how it can be frustrating on your part though. During these times that you see her do you all ever have any downtime. or is she up and out as soon as it's over with. You might just have to put your foot down and take charge and let her know how you feel. and be tough about, if she comes over and still doesn't want to talk than don't call her for awhile and don't accept her calls (we don't like that)....and if she likes you than she'll shape up...it might just be that she doesn't want to let you all the way into her heart, afraid to get hurt. so she uses sex as a way to keep you away. we can do that. detach our feelings from the sexual act.

bijo.. yes she is with someone else... me and her had not seen each other or even spoken in many years until she looked me up in december. it started out as she was just looking for "things" she did not get at home... but i think it was the emotional attachment she was lacking, because after we started talking all those emotions we felt for each other long ago came back and now it has turned into one big mess. she tries so hard to hide her emotions but i can see thru her wall, i always have been able too. she looked for me many times over the years but because i was in a classified field in the military she could never find me.. her husband is a jerk, but they have 3 kids together and that makes it hard on her, she has never loved him, she married him because she got pregnant and she thought it was the right thing to do... it is some of the things she says to me that makes it so hard, for example, in March she told me this.. "i have cried many times in my life for many reasons, but the 3 times i remember the most, 1) the last day of school when u weren't there and i had so many things i wanted to say too u, i just knew we were never gonna see each other again and we didn't for 20 years 😢 .. 2) when i was 19 and found out i was pregnant with his child, not because i was pregnant, but because that was officially the end of my dreams about a future with u.. 3) in dec 2007 when u came to see me for the first time in 20 years. when u left i cried, a friend asked me why i was crying and i told her i could not believe after all those years and distance i still love him... it is things she says that keep me off balance. she thinks her duty as a mom is to sacrifice for her kids. but its too much of a sacrifice.. in my opinion anyway.. and one thing is for sure.. she is as stubborn and hard headed as they come...lol.. i just hold on and keep hoping.. i just hope she does what she has too before i get tired of waiting.

and if she ever comes here and sees i wrote all of this she will be mad and i'll be lonely for a couple weeks... lol

Ok, a few things:

(1) Aries-Scorpio is not a classical match but you two are both Mars-ruled signs (it's only been since the discovery of Pluto that Mars was demoted to Scorpio's secondary ruler). Little wonder why there is so much passion!

(2) But having said (1) it is unsurprising once the passion fades, the relationship dies down: water puts out fire!

(3) However, overall astrological compatibility involves more than just comparison of the sun signs. Venus and Mars placements are equally important and Mercury shows how you communicate. Moreover, nothing is 'fated' in astrology - all this tells us is which relationships should be easier or harder.

Given her circumstances, though, this is obviously a harder relationship regardless of the sun-sign issues! Whether you continue with this relationship rests on how long you're willing to wait for her. But here's some tough love: no one is worth waiting for indefinitely. You are allowed to have a wife/lover/companion who is accessible to you - that you aren't the -other- man. And as an Aries, you wouldn't settle for such a situation either (this Aries won't)! So if she ultimately chooses to stay in her marriage because of the kids - which is both understandable and plausible - you owe it to yourself to find out ASAP and move on. Btw, she owes it to herself to find a husband whom she loves passionately because there will be a day when the kids grow up and move out. And it really won't be any easier for her to move on then either because there's always an excuse to stay.