Aries woman having trouble with Capricorn Man

About 6 years ago I dated this Capricorn guy, Tony. We hit it off and it was wonderful - I did my best to play it cool because I have a tendency to be overbearing. Tony would disappear periodically but always came back and we had a great connection. But he was in the military and had to leave and we lost touch. I always thought that Tony was the love of my life and wondered about him.

About a year ago we reconnected online. I was with someone else at the time so I was polite but distant when Tony sent me emails. Then just 3 months ago Tony started emailing me again and since I was single, I reciprocated. He started telling me how he never got over me, he wished it could have worked out 6 years ago, he wants us to be together, he wants a second chance, etc. I was thrilled. He wanted to make plans to reunite because now we live on different sides of the world. I agreed and he scheduled a trip to visit me but at the last minute his obligations to the military interfered. Ever since his canceled trip, Tony has been distant. For about 2 months, he was calling, texting, and emailing all the time but now I don't hear from him for weeks at a time.

I'm worried and don't know what to do. I've tried to text him every few days to just say that he's on my mind, that I know he's busy but I'm still here and supporting him, and I miss hearing from him, etc. But he hasn't responded in weeks.

Is he playing games? Should I persevere and keep texting him periodically to let him know I care? Or should I back off entirely? I'm so confused. Please help. Thanks in advance for any / all information. I've been heartsick over this.

If it's useful, here's the breakdown of his Natal Chart from the Cafe Press site:

Zodiac
Sun Capricorn 21.38
Moon Taurus 26.42
Mercury Aquarius 9.04
Venus Sagittarius 13.31
Mars Gemini 15.09 R
Jupiter Aries 16.35
Saturn Leo 0.08 R
Uranus Scorpio 6.45
Neptune Sagittarius 12.55
Pluto Libra 11.44
Lilith Aries 8.02
Asc node Scorpio 19.53




Aspects
Planet Aspect Planet Orb/Value
Sun Trine Moon 5.05 90
Sun Square Jupiter 5.02 -24
Sun Opposition Saturn 8.31 -11
Moon Sextile Saturn 3.26 33
Mercury Trine Mars 6.05 34
Mercury Opposition Saturn 8.56 -1
Mercury Square Uranus 2.20 -67
Mercury Sextile Neptune 3.51 8
Mercury Trine Pluto 2.39 60
Venus Opposition Mars 1.38 -213
Venus Trine Jupiter 3.05 74
Venus Conjunction Neptune 0.35 339
Venus Sextile Pluto 1.47 89
Mars S

Thank you for the suggestion. I'm trying to stay busy and not worry about it but it's a struggle because I just don't understand why he has pulled this disappearing act.

He probably doesn't want to do the long distance thing but doesn't know how to tell you.

First of all, "his obligations to the military interfered". You NEVER know what's going on military wise. There are things that go on that the general public doesn't and will never know about. There is a chance that he is in a location or situation or highly classified mission and he doesn't have access to communication devices. Just saying don't jump to any conclusions here.

I vote for stop communicating and let him contact you.

Realize, though, he has a history of this behavior. Could be personal, could be his military career.
Just know way of knowing until he contacts you again.

Well if his military obligations have stopped plans right in their tracks before, know too that many partners of those in the military may go weeks or months w/o speaking to that person.

This is 1 of the main reasons writing to those in the military is so heartwarming to them.

Sometimes they really can't contact you in any form. And since there have been many times when things completely stopped right after things were hot & heavy, my guess is that there's 2 possibilities: 1. He's lying & only contacts you when he's lonely or needing compliments from someone (you) that he knows adores him (something people in jail do too) OR 2. He's being honest but can't go into detail or give you a heads up about why he can't contact you.

Keep in mind that many military positions are classified & aren't openly discussed with others. His loyalty is to the military 1st & if he has to go w/o contacting his family/friends/partner for a while, then he has no choice but to honor that.

Don't freak out though. If your gut is telling you that he's lying, then believe it. If it's not, then don't sit around driving yourself crazy by over-analyzing & coming up with these worse case scenarios in your mind.

Now that you see that there may be times when he cannot contact you in any form for long periods of time, decide if you can handle that. If you can't, don't feel guilty about that! Own that! Many people can't! Hell some of the parents of these military men can't even handle it! But don't sign up for it & then back out once the moment comes that it hits you that he's in the military lol This kinda stuff may or may not come with the territory.

It doesn't seem that he's being dishonest though.