can the dxp allstars help me decode...?

I'm usually pretty quick to fall for a guy, but letting go isn't usually this hard. I know I have a lot of fixed aspects and that's part of the problem but is there something about his chart that is making it more difficult...? Its like there is unfinished business. There is a whole lot of background but in a nutshell he isn't interested/ ready for a relationship and that is a pretty tough pill to swallow. BUT its not just me, from reading between the lines he has commitment issues and only wants someone once they are gone.
Enough of my amateur stargazing...
His chart
Sun Leo 24.55
Moon Libra 2.33
Mercury Virgo 19.50
Venus Cancer 17.29
Mars Gemini 21.07
Jupiter Gemini 29.34
Saturn Leo 21.00
Uranus Scorpio 8.08
Neptune Sagittarius 13.23 R
Pluto Libra 12.18
Lilith Gemini 13.01
Asc node Libra 16.17

My chart

Sun Scorpio 28.46
Moon Taurus 9.45
Mercury Scorpio 9.22
Venus Libra 26.09
Mars Sagittarius 29.09
Jupiter Libra 4.28
Saturn Libra 6.53
Uranus Scorpio 26.03
Neptune Sagittarius 21.33
Pluto Libra 23.07
Lilith Libra 25.42
Asc node Leo 13.55

And at this point I am guessing it was all rather doomed, but would like to know if the heavens could confirm and what I should avoid in the future?!

Posted by LilliLouThere is a whole lot of background but in a nutshell he isn't interested/ ready for a relationship and that is a pretty tough pill to swallow.

Advice from a non-allstar, just a dose of reality: Swallow the pill and MOVE ON!

Posted by djbuck1
Another non-all star here. I had understood that "squared" sun signs were pretty much an automatic mis-match. What intrigues me is that Scorpio-Leo is the one I hear about most often. It has a sort of "What were they thinking?" conotation about it.

And I'm sorry, but from what little you have stated, it sounds like the only "unfinished business" in this case is your own reluctance to accept that this relationship is not going to happen.

What also concerns me is the square between your own sun and moon. Within my experience, folks with this aspect seem to have a significant amount of conflict in their own life/nature.

Thanks DJ, and you've certainly brought up the kinds of thing I was wondering about.
The scorp- leo thing is strange, I've only recently been reading up about these things but always been with Leos and had disaster and drama.
About the square aspects and this is very true with me! I do have a head vs. heart battle or whatever it is going on.

Posted by seraph
With a couple of exceptions, that chart looks really familiar. 😉

If he says this, or you get this impression loud and clear:

Posted by LilliLou
in a nutshell he isn't interested/ ready for a relationship

Then it's most certainlytrue.

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😉 it probably does look familiar! this chart pattern gets a lot of press in the scorp and leo forums!

I didn't really make it clear, but I have shut up shop and cut contact- I am moving on, but I need to de-construct/ autopsy things to make sense of it all (Aqua rising?). This astrology aspect is a recent tool I've discovered and prior to finding dxp would endlessly circle things in my own head until I was exhausted. I am hoping that what I am learning will speed up this process- and I think it is!
I am getting there- 70% of the time am good but might need to dwell a little longer- sorry!
But the important thing is that I have taken all the advice from both forums above, and am moving on right? There is hope for this obsessive little scorpio 🙂

Posted by EccentricUranian

Posted by EccentricUranian
I'm not an allstar here, but I one of the first things I've notice is that your Saturn is conjunct with his moon. That can bring a serious quality to the relationship, a longevity. That's one of the first things that I see.

I'm in a bit of a rush and will try to look at it more in depth later, when I get the chance, if someone doesn't answer it for you by then.

Not that you would have to be in a long-term relationship with this guy. Do you feel a responsibility for him? You mentioned that you feel like you have "unfinished" business.

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No, you are right... there is far too much going on in his life and he is being a bit of an arse. So no chance of a relationship. I need to get out from under his spell and find someone who is open and available and loving (too much Libra in my charts 🙂 I know I have been silly to stay around for this much of the show)
"Unfinished" I don't really know if it is just that we are both in a small city- so know I'll bump into him or if it is just this moon making me reflective. I don't know... I guess it is a hunch that he'll be back at some stage, but hopefully I am wrong! 😉
Thanks for taking the time out to look EU!