Excuses for cheating——

I know there is already a topic floating around about cheating and certain placements in ones chart. I wanted to ask the very respectable ladies and gentlemen of dxp their opinions on the excuses people give for committing such acts.

One of the biggest if not the biggest reason/excuse for cheating is not being happy in the relationship. I personally feel as if that's a bullsh!t excuse. Same with pain being inevitable but suffering optional, being in an unhappy relationship is also optional, therefore to say you cheated or you're cheating because you were unhappy is ridiculous... Today less and less people even acknowledge being in a relationship and allow certain people to cross certain boundaries, I mean we see it a lot on the internet as well as on dxp where we have a woman/man who is taken or married asking for info on how to keep their flings interest. I know on the leo board recently there was a pisces female who was married and was asking info on how to keep her leo fling interested in her.

Her first action should've been to initiate a divorce.

Its no surprise that society is like this today, we see this kind of behavior in movies/tv shows, its everywhere(scandal, for you very promiscuous women out here)... anyways enough of my ranting.


The question is, is it a reasonable excuse to say you cheated because you were "unhappy" in the relationship?? I honestly think its complete garbage but that's just my opinion....

Oh and please try and not make this a gender war... thanks.

Posted by AL4813
I know there is already a topic floating around about cheating and certain placements in ones chart. I wanted to ask the very respectable ladies and gentlemen of dxp their opinions on the excuses people give for committing such acts.

One of the biggest if not the biggest reason/excuse for cheating is not being happy in the relationship. I personally feel as if that's a bullsh!t excuse. Same with pain being inevitable but suffering optional, being in an unhappy relationship is also optional, therefore to say you cheated or you're cheating because you were unhappy is ridiculous... Today less and less people even acknowledge being in a relationship and allow certain people to cross certain boundaries, I mean we see it a lot on the internet as well as on dxp where we have a woman/man who is taken or married asking for info on how to keep their flings interest. I know on the leo board recently there was a pisces female who was married and was asking info on how to keep her leo fling interested in her.

Her first action should've been to initiate a divorce.

Its no surprise that society is like this today, we see this kind of behavior in movies/tv shows, its everywhere(scandal, for you very promiscuous women out here)... anyways enough of my ranting.


The question is, is it a reasonable excuse to say you cheated because you were "unhappy" in the relationship?? I honestly think its complete garbage but that's just my opinion....

Oh and please try and not make this a gender war... thanks.

It is a bullsh*t excuse. They may be unhappy, but did they ever tell their partners that? Give their partners a chance to fix it? Probably not. They just go do it for the thrills.

Posted by AL4813
I know there is already a topic floating around about cheating and certain placements in ones chart. I wanted to ask the very respectable ladies and gentlemen of dxp their opinions on the excuses people give for committing such acts.

One of the biggest if not the biggest reason/excuse for cheating is not being happy in the relationship. I personally feel as if that's a bullsh!t excuse. Same with pain being inevitable but suffering optional, being in an unhappy relationship is also optional, therefore to say you cheated or you're cheating because you were unhappy is ridiculous... Today less and less people even acknowledge being in a relationship and allow certain people to cross certain boundaries, I mean we see it a lot on the internet as well as on dxp where we have a woman/man who is taken or married asking for info on how to keep their flings interest. I know on the leo board recently there was a pisces female who was married and was asking info on how to keep her leo fling interested in her.

Her first action should've been to initiate a divorce.

Its no surprise that society is like this today, we see this kind of behavior in movies/tv shows, its everywhere(scandal, for you very promiscuous women out here)... anyways enough of my ranting.


The question is, is it a reasonable excuse to say you cheated because you were "unhappy" in the relationship?? I honestly think its complete garbage but that's just my opinion....

Oh and please try and not make this a gender war... thanks.

I believe alot of it is immaturity. Once you reach maturity you will than have respect for your self and other people. The stage that Im in now I will NEVER cheat on my mate. I also will never jump into a relationship with someone I hardly know or stay in a unhappy one.

If you dont lie/cheat than you want have to make a excuse for lying/cheating. Somethings are you just very simple. Until you are happy and confident with yourself you will never be happy in a relationship. I never understood why people looked to their mate for happiness. Again I hate to sound like the mean-mom on every post but if there's a problem, FIX IT (simple).

Giving up after one set back is like slashing ALL of your tires because of one flat.

Posted by MissFisk
I live in a nudist colony. I was breaking in my brand new pair of Brooks PureFlow and was running by my neighbor's house when I tripped on a tree root and landed on her husband's dick who happens to just be sitting on the lawn with a fully erect penis. It was an accident.

Lmao!!!!

Someone help me up off the floor!

"But she listens!"

Lame. Have to talk to be heard.

Posted by LadyOfRebirth
Lol.

Dxp will never change.

It's a safe stable haven in that sea of endless posibilities.

Wait, no.

Posted by djbuck1
Excuses for cheating? My friend, you have come to the right place.

😆

I was thinking EXACTLY that.

Anyone who starts any excuse with..

"It was because the other person..."

loses all credit with me because it makes me see they aren't aware of the role they played.

Posted by KVZZMIR11


Once a Cheater, always a Cheater.

I've always wondered about this one.. I mean if you can rehab criminals and drug addicts, then im sure a cheater can change, but in some ways you are right.. once some people get a hold of that forbidden fruit, they want more.

Posted by Damnata
Anyone who starts any excuse with..

"It was because the other person..."

loses all credit with me because it makes me see they aren't aware of the role they played.

that's what im talking about miss damnata.... you got your head on right.

People cheat for all kinds of reasons. Some just like the thrill. Some are torn between their relationship, which may have XYZ problems and a seemingly problem-free affair that makes them feel young again. Some allow themselves to get too close to an opposite sex friend and then "one thing leads to another." However, you go to the dance, you pay the fiddler and triangles lead to tears.

I think young people today are getting a lot of whacked messages about love. FWB, twerking, sexting, FWB, slut shaming, women are confused about what they want and misunderstand where their true power is ....in the hearts & minds and not what they have between their legs. Women have got to get smart again and realize the importance of having standards AND integrity. It's not that I'm arguing you're a slut if you act like one LOL. It's that going from one partner to the next w/out any emotional attachment isn't gonna make you happy. As women have lowered their standards, so the whole relationship business goes to hell in a handbasket. Not fair but it is the woman who chooses and we need to learn to choose wisely and value commitment. Precious little in the American society encourages commitment, platonic or otherwise. No wonder we're so unhappy.

i agree, once a cheater always a cheater.