Friends with Benefits and your sign

Can a FWB relationship really work without any messiness or feelings? What signs are more likely to be able to do this, which are not? What signs are compatible for this type of relationship? are there other placements that lean more towards the causal side of things? Have you managed to pull this off what were the signs involved?

They say this about Aquas alllllll the time.

My opinion is you get that close to someone there is always gonna be feelings involved eventually.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
They say this about Aquas alllllll the time.

My opinion is you get that close to someone there is always gonna be feelings involved eventually.

That was my first thought 🙂

But I agree... don't you have a Pisces moon though?

Posted by Rambunctious76
Fire and air signs.

Mainly those with Fire and Air dominant charts, Fire/Air in the 5th and/or 8th house.

Business give benefits (sometimes). Sex is not a bargaining chip and for me is always "sense", nothing else matters. I don't like "feelings" word. Most of the time feelings are "sentimental", false, just love myself.

Some people cry but not mean they have "good feelings".

When things are made with "sense" is not for a "profit".

Aqua & sag dominant here. I'm able to do this, just choose not to.

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Posted by That1Girl
Can a FWB relationship really work without any messiness or feelings? What signs are more likely to be able to do this, which are not? What signs are compatible for this type of relationship? are there other placements that lean more towards the causal side of things? Have you managed to pull this off what were the signs involved?

Did you manage to do it Girl?

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I've never managed it successfully, though I was recently offered an opportunity. I said no knowing my feelings get caught up in things, and well my attention is directed towards a Virgo gal at this moment and I don't want anything to muck it up before it begins... I was just curious on peoples experiences. I have a cancer guy who swore what e were doing had no feelings, but I can't seem to shake him now that is is over... He is always contacting me

Recently had a FWB thing going on. Timing was right as she left after two months to study abroad.
Met up a few times but I felt like she was into me more (Cancer girl) than I was.

Didn't feel right for some reason. I would probably prefer the business type of FWB. Or the really detached version where you are both really in it for the fun and experience.

Posted by TigerCap
Recently had a FWB thing going on. Timing was right as she left after two months to study abroad.
Met up a few times but I felt like she was into me more (Cancer girl) than I was.

Didn't feel right for some reason. I would probably prefer the business type of FWB. Or the really detached version where you are both really in it for the fun and experience.

Interesting to have a cancer girl FWB... I have never pulled it off because I start caring too much about the person... not even necessarily romantically, but my little cancer self can't help it.

I thought I might b a FWB thing with a cancer male (weird situation) though it never evolved into full on sex, I still can't seem to shake him though I ended it months ago... So I am guessing that is his version of "feelings"

I tried it with a Aqua woman...It was great, until I didnt want to do it anymore...its been hell ever since, so much so im swearing off aqua women..j/k lol...maybe...

scorp

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Posted by TigerCap
Recently had a FWB thing going on. Timing was right as she left after two months to study abroad.
Met up a few times but I felt like she was into me more (Cancer girl) than I was.

Didn't feel right for some reason. I would probably prefer the business type of FWB. Or the really detached version where you are both really in it for the fun and experience.

Interesting to have a cancer girl FWB... I have never pulled it off because I start caring too much about the person... not even necessarily romantically, but my little cancer self can't help it.

I thought I might b a FWB thing with a cancer male (weird situation) though it never evolved into full on sex, I still can't seem to shake him though I ended it months ago... So I am guessing that is his version of "feelings"

That's the feeling I had too. She was starting to care. Like sneaking in a little kiss here and there.
But not like the "I secretly love you but I will settle for this" kind of way of behaving.
Freaked me out a bit. Kept my distance after that. We were both too busy anyway.
So it was a fun experience and we both enjoyed ourselves. 🙂

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isn't that what men call hookers?

Posted by starlover
There is always a price to pay for sex

If not financially...some other way

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Hookers get paid in cash, FWB often in time and sometimes in emotional heartache.

Don't judge Chael.

Posted by starlover
There is always a price to pay for sex

If not financially...some other way

So even happy couples "pay" for sex?

Posted by Chael
isn't that what men call hookers?

No hookers are smart and get paid to be used.

Posted by nov13thscorp
I tried it with a Aqua woman...It was great, until I didnt want to do it anymore...its been hell ever since, so much so im swearing off aqua women..j/k lol...maybe...

scorp

why didnt you want to do it anymore?

I am female gemini and he is a Cancer male. At first I could tell he was getting attached but since I was making it strictly about sex, he then lost romantic interest in me and sees me as only sex now and now I have developed feelings for him. He is seriously the best lover I have ever experienced. Passionate, long foreplay and lots of cuddling and embracing afterwards. He never has made me feel cheap.

Posted by Rambunctious76
Fire and air signs.

Maybe cause of my Cancer Moon, but in my case no. FWB is not my thing. Any kind of prolonged relationship involving sex is exclusively with my boyfriend. The rest would be one night stands that used to happen occasionally.


If it happens that I do not have a boyfriend for some time and I am all over the place, I will probably scan my surroundings for possible mate, or in most cases I will already have someone that I find sexually attractive. If the sex happens, it will stop at number two. Afterwards, I will either be satisfied and stop it right then an there without to much fuss, kthxbye, or I will be emotionally engaged and I will find myself in doing wrong for sharing my sexuality with someone who is not my official partner. To me there is no concept as - sexual partner only. It has to be the whole package.

Sex to me is rarely simply an act of satisfying my physical needs. Emotions are included, always. That's why I can't do FWB.

I have a dominate air/fire chart and I can't do FWB. I have strong feels.

I've had one FWB/causal dating but mostly just FWB fling. I call it casual dating because my Svorpio venus hates superficial sex but in reality it was in fact FWB. Anyways he was fun and cool but I didnt love him so i found the sex unsatisfying mostly. I still managed to get very jealous when he hooked up w another girl because i didnt want to be his exclusive girlfriend. Ugh. It was ridiculous. I'm mostly air w a touch of earth + water.. Libra asc, Libra/Virgo cusp sun, Gem moon, Scorp venus, Cap mars.

FWB is fine with me, as long as no one's falling in love. Not a fan of feelingless sex though. What most don't get is that not all feelings have to be deep, strong and meaningful. They're not some out of this world experience. And that doesn't make the sex "superficial".


Here and there, when I visit my hometown, I'm romancing with a Leo. Started as a "business" relationship that turned into a friendship, then into a rather touchy-feely friendship.. the rest is history... We both genuinely give a crap about each other and like each other romantically, physically, we hear from each other on a daily basis, etc., but due to circumstances we can't actually be together so we enjoy each other's company for what it is and realistically can be. So far it seems like it's working for both of us. If someone was to put a label on our relationship, I guess it would be "FWB". In my head he's just a dear person that I happen to like. If sex happens, it happens as a matter of the moment. Not a scheduled activity.

So there you go, Taurus and Leo pulled it off I guess.



Fire Mars is the best candidate for the "don't overthink it, just enjoy the moment" approach, fme.

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Posted by Chael
isn't that what men call hookers?

No hookers are smart and get paid to be used.

Yup. I??d rather get paid.

FWB is stupid. Only for the selfish, scaredy cats.

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Whereas such a sweeping condescending generalisation demonstrates maturity, confidence and, widsom?

I'd say Sag and Aries are the experts at this. In that order. My Aries BFF just decided (after 3yrs) to let go of her FWB relationship with her cap. My Sag friend and her cancer friend did it for 6 yrs before calling it quits.

Not in a situation to have this type of relationship.
My need to be in a monogamous relationship would make an FWB very difficult.

I could possibly do a few night stands on vacation out of the country somewhere.
In fact I am planning a vacation right now and if I meet someone I am extremely attracted to I will not hold back.

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Posted by TigerCap
Recently had a FWB thing going on. Timing was right as she left after two months to study abroad.
Met up a few times but I felt like she was into me more (Cancer girl) than I was.

Didn't feel right for some reason. I would probably prefer the business type of FWB. Or the really detached version where you are both really in it for the fun and experience.

Interesting to have a cancer girl FWB... I have never pulled it off because I start caring too much about the person... not even necessarily romantically, but my little cancer self can't help it.

I thought I might b a FWB thing with a cancer male (weird situation) though it never evolved into full on sex, I still can't seem to shake him though I ended it months ago... So I am guessing that is his version of "feelings"

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Cancers are the deep feeling love bugs of the zodiac.
Trying to be an emotional robot like many of the characters on this site is not us.

Posted by TruePisces5
I'd say Sag and Aries are the experts at this. In that order. My Aries BFF just decided (after 3yrs) to let go of her FWB relationship with her cap. My Sag friend and her cancer friend did it for 6 yrs before calling it quits.

Were they seeing other people?
I guess FWB is something people do when they are between relationships.

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Posted by TruePisces5
I'd say Sag and Aries are the experts at this. In that order. My Aries BFF just decided (after 3yrs) to let go of her FWB relationship with her cap. My Sag friend and her cancer friend did it for 6 yrs before calling it quits.

Were they seeing other people?
I guess FWB is something people do when they are between relationships.

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nope! Just enjoying their lives being free.

I tried with a Scorpio man for 3months, he fell in love, I kicked him out of my apartment 10pm on a cold friday night.. THE End.

Sex without love means nothing to me. I really don't know why women do FWB when they can just masterbate. In fact having sex without any love and commitment is mutual masterbation. Why would you cheapen you coochie by doing that? Really don't get the young these days. Yup, old fart here.

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Posted by Chael
isn't that what men call hookers?

No hookers are smart and get paid to be used.

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+100%

Posted by Este8
[...] Really don't get the young these days. Yup, old fart here.

Just like the older generation before you. You have become one of them. 😛

Sex with love is not much different in a technical sense from mutual masturbation either. Masturbation is probably cleaner in most cases and a whole lot quicker. Doesn't mean that doing it with another person can't be a whole lot more fun. 😉

Offtopic: Where was that thread that warned other signs that Cap men were the only ones who could do FWB? As in 'Yes ladies, if you agreed on FWB two years ago, him giving you a massage doesn't mean he has fallen in love with you and might fulfill your secret desire of becoming a couple... you are still just his fuckbuddy. You two signed a contract in his mind.'

Offtopic: Where was that thread that warned other signs that Cap men were the only ones who could do FWB? As in 'Yes ladies, if you agreed on FWB two years ago, him giving you a massage doesn't mean he has fallen in love with you and might fulfill your secret desire of becoming a couple... you are still just his fuckbuddy. You two signed a contract in his mind.'



Yon Whipper Snapper, Yes I am an old fart. I used to be "liberated" like you (minus the penis) and then I grew up and learned all that old fashioned crap mom told me was true. You will learn your own lessons and being a man you will experience your sexuality differently than I will as a woman. I get that. As for the "offtopic" comment, yes I 100% believe that women get into FWB hoping it will lead to more. Not all but most.