Leo 'dramatics'

Hi guys, brand new here! I'm a typical Gemini woman - soooo many sides to me even I can't keep up with myself. I can't stand still, emotional, change my mind constantly, can't stick at anything. I've been 'seeing' a Leo man and it would seem I have messed up royally!

We've been talking for 6 months, and 'hanging out' for about 4, and we talk every day via text. In the beginning, he would come to see me, make the effort to come quite far, and he was affectionate to me. But he is SO hot and cold it's unbelievable.

In regards to and cold, at one point I didn't see him for 7 weeks, but we still spoke on text. We have not slept together!!!? We have done 'stuff', but haven't sealed the deal?! I'm not sure if it's kus he's a lazy Leo?

Anyways, so hot and cold, he sometimes gives me affection and attention, but it's slim pickings. For example the day after I made the effort to go see him he was extremely happy, giving me compliments on text when I left. Then a couple of days later he goes cold.

He's very possessive. When he calls (which is rare), he asks if there's anyone here with me. I don't mind it, I kind of like the feeling of someone being like that over me.

He does notttt share his feelings at allllll. And I have messed it up because I keep pushing him to give me 'more' - we don't go on dates, and his hot and cold makes me feel insecure, or like I'm not getting what I need. But he doesn't like me to talk about my feelings to him but I'm very charismatic and creative with my texts to him sometimes. And being a Gemini I tend to go OTT with my feelings.

Like the past week or two, it's been a bit rocky because of me trapping him with my feelings, and the other day he said he just wants to have sex (so I assume a sex buddy, but keep in mind we haven't even had sex yet), which I can get down with, but before I could figure it all out and let him know I'm on the same page - he blocked me on messenger and deleted me from Facebook!!

Now it's been a day, and I'm RESTLESSSSSSS. I want to fix it and cater to him, give him what he wants, because it makes me happy when I do it kus what I get in return is worth it for my life.

When we are together it's like we're one person, the chemistry is off the hook, our humour is exactly the same, he isn't clingy and can take care of himself.

I get lost in my feelings, and I can't shut them off and feel the need to explain them to him. And my feelings change from day to day, sometimes I want a rel

Don't think the message posted whole, here's the last bit, sorry for the essays -

... My feelings change from day to day, sometimes I want a relationship, and sometimes I don't. I just feel stupid for trapping him, and pushing for something he isn't willing to give (or hasn't made his mind up yet). During an 'argument' he said that I could never be his girlfriend because I'm too whiney! Which is fair enough, I put a lot of feelings onto him, and always seeking more - whether it's commitment from him or more affection on texts, or less of his arrogance.

He is SOOOOOOOOO stubborn!!!! I hint I want to go out, have a drink etc. I also have the feeling he's a bit of a player, I know he messages a few girls, but whether or not he meets them is another question. It doesn't really bother me, as there is no commitment stated between us. He's in the music business, so he's always got attention, and a show around him.

But sometimes, only sometimes, I see a very sensitive guy through his macho and proud exterior.

I stroke his ego with compliments daily, in all types of ways, I disguise them, or straight up tell him I think he's wonderful.

But now it seems this Gemini lady has put her foot in it! And every time I go to message him a 'sorry' reply, I start waffling about my feelings, and delete it, and get highly frustrated. I'm not sure if he's the type to want space to 'think', other times we have had tiffs he's wanted a reply as soon as possible. But I'm blocked now, and I think he'd be too proud to unblock me on his own.

It's so TOUGH! Never have I tried to work hard at pleasing someone, but it feels amazing! I want to shower him with love, affection, gifts, and travel through life with him, even if we aren't a couple, his friendship has been an asset to me this year, and to throw away such a good connection, I can't allow it!!!

Waffle Waffle lol. Thanks for reading, it feels amazing to get this off my chest! He is a TYPICAL Leo, and I'm a typical Gemini, any advice, stories of your own etc is muchly appreciated!

How can I get this guy back!! And word it in a way that isn't me trapping him with my feelings that spew from my overly active Gemini brain lol.

Xoxoxo

Posted by Mooncircles

We have not slept together!!!? We have done 'stuff', [1] but haven't sealed the deal?! I'm not sure if it's kus he's a lazy Leo?

For example [2] the day after I made the effort to go see him he was extremely happy, giving me compliments on text when I left. Then a couple of days later he goes cold.

[3] He's very possessive. When he calls (which is rare), he asks if there's anyone here with me. I don't mind it, I kind of like the feeling of someone being like that over me.

Like the past week or two, it's been a bit rocky because of me trapping him with my feelings, [4] and the other day he said he just wants to have sex (so I assume a sex buddy, but keep in mind we haven't even had sex yet), which I can get down with, but before I could figure it all out and let him know I'm on the same page - he blocked me on messenger and deleted me from Facebook!!

[1] He wants to get the most out of you by investing as little as possible.

[2] He was happy because he thought you would take your clothes off.

[3] He wants to make sure no one's getting his bone if he's not!

[4] Well there ya have it, get on with the program, Gem LOL.

Why would anyone be with someone for 6 or 4 months with no sex and then say he's just there for sex? He's one very patient Leo lol Why do you hang out with him? It's not like you guys have a relationship or even FWB situation? Either be platonic friends, or FWB or have a romantic relationship.

Also, i noticed that Leos can hang out with someone for a long time before having sex. I think they enjoy the possibility of sex and sexual fantasies more then the actual activity. Am i right or not?

Posted by ariesgirl402
Also, i noticed that Leos can hang out with someone for a long time before having sex. I think they enjoy the possibility of sex and sexual fantasies more then the actual activity. Am i right or not?

When you have the prey in your hands the countdown begins.

Thanks for all your replies!

I'm not sure why he's been around for all this time without sex. I mean when we hang out he doesn't really initiate it, but we spend a lot of time kissing and cuddling, and a few other bases.

I haven't spoken to him in almost a week though. I haven't tried to contact him since our tiff, which ended in him perhaps being a bit dramatic and blocking me!

I have things to do though, it's been nice to have a break from all this hard confusing work lol. I do miss him, talking to him etc, he's been around for quite awhile. He clearly stated during our tiff that he just wants sex and to chill out. So I dunno if he wants to have sex and then decide what he wants (idk, I guess for men it's like that, right).

Hot cold hot cold. I dunno if ignoring him is the best idea tho, I feel like having had a bit of time to myself, I could perhaps give him what he wants, because I enjoy him all round. I don't think I could handle a full on relationship right now anyhow, I like him in my life, what be offers is simple. But yeah, not sure how long to leave it before dropping him a text. I kinda feel like he's expecting me to say something, and if it means getting him back in my life then I kinda wanna do it! Who knows! Wait a little while longer at least right?