Rage...

So, I've been thinking....

I have had a not so great day. I was triggered today about some personal stuff in my life. It has sparks this really deep rage inside of me. I don't know exactly how to rid myself of it. I don't want to go off on the person that I'm so mad at b/c that's just toxic. How do you deal with you deep seated anger issues when someone has crossed a line with you one too many times?

I want to cry but it won't change anything so I stop myself, I want to scream but that feels out of control, I want to curse the person out but I know I will feel bad in the end. I want to hit something but I don't want to damage my stuff?? So I hold a lot in and it builds to this inner rage. I feel like a punching bag would be perfect right now. I don't have one.. Sex would be good too but I don't have a man.

So how do you cope? Sex and physical release is the only way for me?


Any suggestions??

I cope with anger by expressing my thoughts and feelings to someone who would agree with my reasons for being angry. Then I think about the situation. A lot. This is when I usually come to terms with the issue and figure out if there were any instances where I was being unreasonable, myself. Then I think about the people I care about. And then I watch funny videos. Both most of it comes from internal acceptance of some sort. Also, if the person can be reasoned with, I would tell them how they affected me. If they can't, then I will choose to avoid having any conversation that would lead to them verbalizing those harmful judgments...whether that means avoiding them completely or only engaging in short, impersonal conversations. That's what I do. Pretty sure it's completely useless information. Either way, I hope you find something that works!

I've found over the years that what works for me is to have a physical outlet of some kind that I could rely on to channel any rage and anger that develop. Something that leave me worn out. Activities such as lifting, exercise (sex does count), a hard run, a good hike, a long brisk walk, playing a sport, punching bags, even playing the piano and just letting the rage flow out through the music. Basically anything to exhaust myself in a healthy way so much that in the end I can really process what is triggering me and if able, to fix it or move on from it.

Maybe something like that will help you if sex relief is not readily available?

I try to redirect the anger into energy and fuel for something productive, something I want to start or to get done. It doesn't always work that way, and I think that sometimes when you've held in anger for so long, releasing it and getting out of control isn't such a bad thing, like by yelling or something. You could tell that person how you feel by writing them an e-mail, maybe. Or talk to someone else about it and get their support.

This is horrible advice, because I'm usually that out of control person screaming at the object of my anger. I hope you feel better, OP! 🙂

Full moon, bish