Scorpio Male vs Cancer Female- HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

I used to think I have a good grasp of Astrology until I met my Scorpio. I have a Cancer Sun, Gemini Rising and Pisces Moon. He has Scorpio Sun, Sagittarius Rising and Aquarius Moon. He has a much lower libido than I, but of course I take it personally and sulk.
Is there anyone that can give me advice on these aspects and how I can learn to understand him. 90% of our relationship is just easy, but the head butting can be intense. He is also damn jealous and introverted, whilst I am the opposite. I love a house full of people.
Also, he has Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Leo, whilst I have Venus in Cancer and Mars in Gemini, so there is even tension there.
Could it be that he uses sex to control me and get back at me cause he is jealous of my time spent on others, such as friends, kids, family?
I seriously need some help here.

Ooopppss .. I read wrong, sorry.


Yes, he would use sex for personal gain.



If he's not comfortable with having lots of people around all the time, and you want to please him ... then why is it so unthinkable to tone down the amount of people you need to distract/divert you?


You say you have to have people around all the time .... do you two live together? If you don't live together, then don't you think he would be less cranky if when he was at your place, if you warded off so many people milling around your place.



Some people just like quiet private time .. and it sounds like you don't want to budge on that at all ... you just want him to be accepting of you and that your ways. And I don't think it's unreasonable for him to be accepting .. however, you have to be accepting also .. 50/50

So, when he's over, have just quiet time .... or can you not do that and HAVE to have your attention distracted?

Scorpios are private people who need alone time. Inviting people into your home all the time will stress out a Scorpio. I ended a long term relationship because of the same thing.

The sex is not being used as a weapon. He is simply unhappy about something in the relationship. He may find something about you "unattractive". Be it your attitude or the way you act. A happy Scorp is a horny Scorp. Nuff said.

Posted by Gingerscorp
A happy Scorp is a horny Scorp. Nuff said.

LOL!!! so funny...and totally agree.
Is there a way to get a scorp to tune it down? He asks for sex so often i'm actually afraid of him and start thinking that he has no brains, just a penis.

We live together, and no, I don't actually have people over alot. Maybe once a month, and then it will be a quiet dinner with two or three friends.
We own a bar together tho, and I work in the bar, I am 28 and according to him beautiful and everyone wants to paw me, even tho I don't see it that way, and I try to give him reassurance, but this with holding sex is starting to seriously hurt me. I am feeling very insecure and unattractive, and I am also an egotistical Cancer, so I will get my validation where I can. It frustrated me cause I want to hang off the chandeliers with him, not someone else. Dammit. I wish he was a penis, but unfortunately he is so much more, penis is prob about 1% of what he is. I find Leo's and Libra's way more sexual. This is chipping away at my confidence, cause if it is there, it blows my mind. It angers me that he would control me with something that I show love and bonding with.

"LOL!!! so funny...and totally agree.
Is there a way to get a scorp to tune it down? He asks for sex so often i'm actually afraid of him and start thinking that he has no brains, just a penis."

Tune it down?!?! Really? Hmmmm it boggles my scorpion mind 😉 LOL'


Just be honest and firm with him. Be playful when you bring it up.

"Hey studmuffin you are wearing me out!!! Can we take it down just a notch? You're getting to be too much for me 😉 "

Stroke is ego a little so he doesn't take it the wrong way. The playfullness helps too. It WILL go to his head. Just a warning. He'll think that he is Sex God of the Universe. Let him think that. *rolls eyes* Men......