Thoughts on this drama at work tonight?

Posted by breterpan
good on you.

I'm more passive so my advice would be to for sure assert yourself but do it before you get to the point of snapping. pop off if you're not being respected after asking nicely. 🙂

Posted by Arielle83
Naw she's been there a year and you're new.

She feels she's up the totem pole and you're still training.

It's always like this. I'm guessing you're younger than me, but every bar job I got, it took the older girls a while to cut the cunty shit and realise we are all not competing for miss universe.

If you're the same age, you've got that female competitive issue as well. If you're both single, you're also competing for male attention. Plus hooters sells sex so you got that comparative female bs too.

I've worked in strip clubs, nightclubs, bars, restaurants. It's always the same. I'm seeing it now as an older woman, amongst the younger girls at my weekend job.

This Aries chick at my work hates on every new girl and tells ppl they're sluts and easy etc. She's even made up std stories. Anyways she's fucjed. She actually has bragged she thinks she can fuck our married manager. She's a supervisor but she's not objective but a crybaby manipulator.

Anyways, the way u handled it was professional considering you had to deal with bitchy attitude. Some women can't handle teamwork.

Just be detached yet assertive. She won't have shit to say to you after that. Work harder than her. If she's a cancer she'll be all about work and money.

Posted by Arielle83
Yeah another thing I noticed with this chick at my work is that she thinks she's alpha amongst the young ones.

A bubbly Aquarian started working with us. Really pretty and amazing body. All the male coworkers were frothing. So Aquarian us happy and friendly and trying to make friebds.

Aries goes to me "I don't trust that Aquarian, why she trying to make friebds?"

If you're a threat these women will see everything you do as opposite to your intentions. They are insecure.

Just work and make friebds with the customers. Push your tits out and make tips.

They want to compete, just show them you can't be trotted on.

Posted by aquanib
There is no reason you should be trampled over.

However, since you are the new girl, there's a fine line between tolerating work instructions given in a nasty tone and being abused by someone dropping load of work on you after you have already worked your team share, because crying about it too soon, or crying over too little of it might present you as a little whiner.

i'd ask the manager how it is in regards to this, not even go crying to him as in "ex hostess girl is bossing me around" because his response might be that she is there a year and despite being the hostess for the majority of the time might have "acquired" the set of eyes to see what needs to be done.
So, i'd suggest you go politely and talk to the manager, say that you feel you've done your share that night and (this part is optional-depends on your standing at the firm, your standing with the manager) that you think she was intentionally trying to "sully" your name infront of the boss-him, as an excuse you are free to use "picking on the new girl" and you feeling the need "to clear things up with the manager", so that he doesn't get left with the impression you are sloppy.

I worked in the hospitality sector throughout my college years, at times in an all female staff too. Like being in a snake pit, thankfully i had the wisdom even back then to not get involved with anything. Try to avoid gossip, when you are not around they talk about you with greater gusto if you indulge in it too. They talk anyway though, so...

Now, all that said, libras, i wouldn't generalize here but i've seen this in two examples, are known to be "cuting corners".
What this means is, when assigned to a task, the individual in question would be seeking shortcuts to it's completion which wouldn't be all that bad if that didn't mean there's a chance the job might have been done below standard, below optimum or relying on whoever was his assigned teammate to do it.
If you feel you might be guilty of this, the ex hostess girl might be nasty because of it, although i cannot know ofcourse, just sharing experience 😄

You might come to find out waiter staff are one of the most sleaziest creatures to walk this planet....not some weird shit, but backstabbers, hypocrites, liars, didn'donuffin's etc etc....when you get out of the waiting business, remember this, tip accordingly!

Posted by libralotus

Posted by aquanib
There is no reason you should be trampled over.

However, since you are the new girl, there's a fine line between tolerating work instructions given in a nasty tone and being abused by someone dropping load of work on you after you have already worked your team share, because crying about it too soon, or crying over too little of it might present you as a little whiner.

i'd ask the manager how it is in regards to this, not even go crying to him as in "ex hostess girl is bossing me around" because his response might be that she is there a year and despite being the hostess for the majority of the time might have "acquired" the set of eyes to see what needs to be done.
So, i'd suggest you go politely and talk to the manager, say that you feel you've done your share that night and (this part is optional-depends on your standing at the firm, your standing with the manager) that you think she was intentionally trying to "sully" your name infront of the boss-him, as an excuse you are free to use "picking on the new girl" and you feeling the need "to clear things up with the manager", so that he doesn't get left with the impression you are sloppy.

I worked in the hospitality sector throughout my college years, at times in an all female staff too. Like being in a snake pit, thankfully i had the wisdom even back then to not get involved with anything. Try to avoid gossip, when you are not around they talk about you with greater gusto if you indulge in it too. They talk anyway though, so...

Now, all that said, libras, i wouldn't generalize here but i've seen this in two examples, are known to be "cuting corners".
What this means is, when assigned to a task, the individual in question would be seeking shortcuts to it's completion which wouldn't be all that bad if that didn't mean there's a chance the job might have been done below standard, below optimum or relying on whoever was his assigned teammate to do it.
If you feel you might be guilty of this, the ex hostess girl might be nasty because of it, although i cannot know ofcourse, just sharing experience 😄

You might come to find out waiter staff are one of the most sleaziest creatures to walk this planet....not some weird shit, but backstabbers, hypocrites, liars, didn'donuffin's etc etc....when you get out of the waiting business, remember this, tip accordingly!

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The only thing I can imagine her being nasty is over is the other night i was assigned to the caddys on the patio and to sweep and wipe them down. Did I check to make sure all 16 caddys had 15 sugars 10 speldas and 10 sweet n lows? No. Did I make them presentable, yes. Usually girls usually mean to make them look presentable, and not worry

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by libralotus

Posted by Arielle83
Yeah another thing I noticed with this chick at my work is that she thinks she's alpha amongst the young ones.

A bubbly Aquarian started working with us. Really pretty and amazing body. All the male coworkers were frothing. So Aquarian us happy and friendly and trying to make friebds.

Aries goes to me "I don't trust that Aquarian, why she trying to make friebds?"

If you're a threat these women will see everything you do as opposite to your intentions. They are insecure.

Just work and make friebds with the customers. Push your tits out and make tips.

They want to compete, just show them you can't be trotted on.

I felt like it started when girls found out a regular came in and gave me $ 300 my first week. Other than that money he gave me I made like $ 20 so I was like dang I didn't make anything tonight. Since then they've been rude as hell. I understand feeling inferior when a new girl comes in but I literally have been there long enough to cut the bullshit already.

If you could hide your tips that be better.

This type of shit makes you stronger. When I moved to Australia and started bar work I was 28 and these little 22 yr old snobs were bullying me.

I got in their face and told them I've been doing this work and managing restaurants since they were in high school. I also told her if she doesn't watch out her "cunt face" doesn't make her tips.

Insecure women are horrible to deal with. Just know that it's them and not you.

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