Would you let your partner do this?

So..I just want to see who's more open minded despite being possessive etc..

Would u let your bf/gf have sex with the same gender. Let's say your bf decides he wants to try gay sex visa versa...what would you say?

State your sun, Venus, and Mars

I personally would say sure, why not, because it can open doorways for a threesome and if he does I'll be allowed as well. But I'd still be really jealous and possessive and tell him not to make it a habit.
-Pisces sun Aries Venus Scorpio mars

Posted by AirMan
i would probably consider that but not without giving it second thoughts. the idea of a threesome however sounds good. but if i was a woman i would not let my boyfriend have sex with another dude. that's just Grose and the chances of std's is possible.

Tbh it's disgusting lmfao but I didn't want to cause any LGBT wars. 😆 but still..if the other dude is clean and he wanted to, fine, I'd let him, but the details are never to be mentioned to me

Aries sun, Pisces Mars and Venus.

Yes why not? As long as I can watch 😛 lol

Posted by PVandJellay
No. If my boyfriend is fucking anyone but me then it's not a relationship. I wouldn't encourage it nor condone it.

Pisces sun, Virgo moon, Libra mars

Pisces sun leo moon
pisces venus aqua mars

part of me is very much i want to let my significant other have all the freedom, and trust that they're love for me is infinite and unbreakable (very pisces lose coloured glasses) and although this is an ideal relationship to me i don't know if one exists, and therefore, i never trust them enough. so no,
i would not feel comfortable. i was be consumed by insecurities that they might like this other person better/the other gender better and i think it would lead to the destruction of any relationship i am in.

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Well I see it like this. If you're already committed to eachother and trust eachothher, and he wanted to just...try it...because YOLO. then why not?

I personally HATE the idea of sharing him, and don't want to be "shared" but freedom should excise in this because let's say he's sexually bi but not emotionally at all, then why should it be a problem despite it being gross? It's not like he's fucking someone if our fender to be acares of him leaving you

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Posted by SuperMissMan
Well I see it like this. If you're already committed to eachother and trust eachothher, and he wanted to just...try it...because YOLO. then why not?

I personally HATE the idea of sharing him, and don't want to be "shared" but freedom should excise in this because let's say he's sexually bi but not emotionally at all, then why should it be a problem despite it being gross? It's not like he's fucking someone if our fender to be acares of him leaving you

if he's sexually bi but not emotionally bi.....
thats what strap ons are for...

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Hahaha 😆 well he's not at all, but I am and he keeps going back to OMG that's hot, to no one touches you but me, and can't make up his mind so I'm annoyed af

^ funny we have near identical placements. You'd think with my Scorpio mars I'd be more protective, bit maybe it makes me more kinky and sexual thatbid allow it

@beautifuldisaster
Nope,
Pisces sun, Aries venus and Scorpio mars

So he dis it an it brought you closer?

And what do you mean by the last bit?

@partiallyimpartial

Are you a guy, because if she asked to hook up with a girl, it's NOT equal for you to also hook up with a girl. In that case you should have asked if it's okay for you to hook up with a guy, if you're a male, I'm asking you where common sense has left you..

If you're a female WTF would u have let her?!

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Posted by PVandJellay
No. If my boyfriend is fucking anyone but me then it's not a relationship. I wouldn't encourage it nor condone it.

Pisces sun, Virgo moon, Libra mars

I agree. Heck no. That dick is mine.

Pisce Sun
Virgo moon
Gemini Mars

Yup. I don't share.

You took the words out of my mouth PV&J! I don't share.

Scorpio Sun
Leo Moon
Leo Mars

LOL. Possesive water sign women. We're all like hell no!!

Yep, yep 🙂 It's important to find these things out BEFORE you get married btw. I don't want those type of surprises lol. Although, I do understand you cant control it from it ever happening. I just pray to the stars above that I am never stuck in such a predicament.

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Maybe I just see it as, hey, it's a guy...oh well.

I don't see the problem besides it maybe being a little...jealousy evoking, but itsstill not a big deal.

I'm very protective as well, if a feel a girl flirting with my guy, I make sure she's cut off IMMIDIATLEY. but a guy? C'mon.

That's the stupider thing I've ever heard. If SHE fucks a girl, it's equvalent to you fucking a GUY. If she fucks a guy then That's the same as you fucking a girl. She can't fuck the same sex and u fuck the it too. That's not the same thing at all, you dear have no logic, get off this thread you piss me off. No wonder it didn't work out holy shit.

Posted by Infinite8
@SuperMissMan - That's interesting, you mind a female flirting with your man but you don't mind a man flirting with your man (and knowing your man is also attracted to the man)?

If your man is asking to have a threesome with another man, he is attracted to other men.

Lol he's not, I made this thread hypothetically speaking Nevada I myself am sexually bi, and he is back and fourth about letting me do anything with a girl so I'm asking accordingly to what you all think and what I'd feel

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Posted by SuperMissMan
Well I see it like this. If you're already committed to eachother and trust eachothher, and he wanted to just...try it...because YOLO. then why not?

I personally HATE the idea of sharing him, and don't want to be "shared" but freedom should excise in this because let's say he's sexually bi but not emotionally at all, then why should it be a problem despite it being gross? It's not like he's fucking someone if our fender to be acares of him leaving you

if he's sexually bi but not emotionally bi.....
thats what strap ons are for...

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Lol

To be honest I'm not keen on the idea of sharing my mans dick, it's all for me 😄 (last comment was a joke)

I have strapped up for an ex and had no prob doing it. He never expressed any desire to go with other men though.

Ok...a bit of devil's advocate here...

Which is worse when it comes to a MAN...(not both either):

A man hooking up with a call girl every few months (or longer) to "fuck" or a 1 time incident?

OR

The same man spending time quality time with a female co-worker talking and sharing similar stories where he & her have some obvious attraction towards each other but have never been intimate?


IMO....."fucking" is soooooooooo over-rated & is given too much power...just sayin....

Posted by SuperMissMan
So..I just want to see who's more open minded despite being possessive etc..

Would u let your bf/gf have sex with the same gender. Let's say your bf decides he wants to try gay sex visa versa...what would you say?

State your sun, Venus, and Mars

No. I don't willing share my partner whether it's with the same gender or the opposite.

Scorp. Sag. Scorp.

Posted by tiziani
"IMO....."fucking" is soooooooooo over-rated & is given to much power...just sayin...."

+1

Tiz...I deleted and reposted it after u did this....lol...but thanks for getting my point! 😉

^^^I should clarify, it's not a matter of "letting" my partner do anything. Anyone I am with is free to do whatever they want as long as it doesn't involve me. When it does involve me, I have a say. If he said I'd like to do this on his own, then cool do it. Just know I won't be here when you come back.

My idea of a relationship do not include another adult person between our sheets. I would like to think my SO would know this about me before getting seriously involved with me. If he's been withholding this desire (which I would find hard to believe---I won't claim someone I don't know) then we have a completley different issue on our hands now don't we?

If we are not in or working towards a relationship, different discussion.

Posted by SuperMissMan
@partiallyimpartial

Are you a guy, because if she asked to hook up with a girl, it's NOT equal for you to also hook up with a girl. In that case you should have asked if it's okay for you to hook up with a guy, if you're a male, I'm asking you where common sense has left you..

Sex outside of the relationship, is sex outside of the relationship. Gender is irrelevant. (general) You don't get to determine who the other person can and can not sleep with just because now you feel threatened after opening the door.

Posted by tiziani
Yeah I totally get it. I'm very old school when it comes to building a real relationship. The physical act of sex has become so overrated and influential today it's borderline unreal.

Tiz...let me just say this...I'm 43yrs old...and I swear...SOME people are going to end up getting the shock of their lives when the sh** really hits the fan and the lights actually come on! That 90% mental thing is a reality!

Nope. I don't share.

Cap sun
Sag venus
Pisces mars

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Posted by tiziani
Yeah I totally get it. I'm very old school when it comes to building a real relationship. The physical act of sex has become so overrated and influential today it's borderline unreal.

Tiz...let me just say this...I'm 43yrs old...and I swear...SOME people are going to end up getting the shock of their lives when the sh** really hits the fan and the lights actually come on! That 90% mental thing is a reality!

Yeah I was a neek for most of my 20s, hanging around with couples in their 50s quizzing them about all this... the levelled with me in the same way you're levelling with me right now.

I did meet one couple last year though, in their late 60s and she was in her early 70s and they had a very unique story you don't come across every day, they kind of bucked the trend of what I was used to seeing or hearing.

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Tiz...I'd probably be "stoned to death" on this thread if I really had to go into further detail on my true opinion on this topic and how some men "move" in regards to "fucking" ( with a few I've been involved with & others I worked at a car dealership for 10yrs with around 80 salesMEN on any day of the week from ages 8 - 80 blind, crippled, & crazy...lol...I've heard it ALL), however, me personally...I just say communicate honestly and we can always roll! Oh I do so enjoy being a mutable sign sometimes!

Nope, I wouldn't entertain the idea. I do not SHARE.. The thought alone of someone all over the person I love, just makes my stomach turn. It causes me pain inside, no way!!

Gemini Sun
Scorpio Moon
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars

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Pisces sun, Venus in Aries, Aqua Mars


And I am far from this "open minded" BS.

@OP that Mars really makes a difference eh?? What's everyone's moon sign - that's gotta play a part too with all the emotions involved!!

Mine is Scorpio moon. But it is not due to emotions involved. I do not get attached to a man easily emotionally. What I don't like is the disrespect.

It is disrespectful to me. I wouldn't do it, and I wouldn't mention it ever. If a man mentions it to me, He is out of my life in a heart beat. I don't need to wait till it happens or if it happens. Just for coming out of his mouth is all I need.

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I find it offensive too! I had one guy ask me and I was completely turned off. I have zero interest in a man that wants to share me or me share him. I never forget stuff like that.

Posted by Layna
Okay. I have Scorpio Moon - like some of you ladies - and a clutter of 8th house placements. Sure, it makes me somewhat intense, but actually that doesn't have to equate to being a jealous or possessive person. It makes me very curious about Plutonian qualities (sex, death, the taboos), and, paired with me being a Virgo who holds main Air placements (Aqua Rising, Libra Venus, Gemini Mars), I've done a fair share of research and heard a lot of stories. Recently, I've even been playing with the theory that, somehow, we all have been wrongly indoctrinated into thinking that monogamy is a must and most natural.

Ramble aside, I've always been okay with the idea of a significant other pursuing pleasure outside the relationship, provided that permission is asked for. Going behind my back would be disrespectful. Their happiness is my happiness. I want them to experience the most out of life, and I want them to know that they can talk to me about anything without fearing judgement. In fact, the more free I feel in a relationship, the more I will love and return to my lover. Strangely enough, by attaining the green light to play, the less I feel the urge to. I feel more at peace.

That's exactly the way I feel about all this.

Let's say hypothetically that if I did have these sort of fantasies and I shared it with my partner I would hate for them to judge me on it and kick me out. That just means I dodged a bullet. She should be free to say no. But that is true with any fantasy in any relationship. BDSM, role reversal or whatever.

Similarly, if my partner was the one with a fantasy like that I wouldn't mind. It would be a big step to share someone. But I would want to lay down some rules. Like not doing it behind my back and giving me a say in who she would have sex with. But we all know that some partners can give us pleasure in a way that no one else can.
The number of women on here thinking back dreamily about sign X or Y that did that 'something' that drove them wild. What if you could have that from time to time without worrying about whether your partner is okay with it. Exactly because he/she thinks it's hot.
Women turn down a lot of sexual pleasure because they think they shouldn't.

I'm frankly a bit disappointed by the stigma against men that confess to enjoy both pussy and cock. Last week a Cap thread about her boyfriend being bisexual had a very common response: "Kick him out before he turns gay and leaves you." Seriously WTF!

A woman that confesses to her man that she wants to experiment with women doesn't have to expect to much resistance. In fact, people will say that the man often agrees because he doesn't want to lose his girlfriend (a.k.a. dickless nutsack) or shouldn't complain because he gets to see two beautiful naked women.

That's double standards people.

Perhaps men enjoy the fantasy of having sex with other men because if a lot of people think that lesbians might be better at cunnulingus than straight men, wouldn't the same apply for gay men as well? 😉

Posted by Layna
Okay. I have Scorpio Moon - like some of you ladies - and a clutter of 8th house placements. Sure, it makes me somewhat intense, but actually that doesn't have to equate to being a jealous or possessive person. It makes me very curious about Plutonian qualities (sex, death, the taboos), and, paired with me being a Virgo who holds main Air placements (Aqua Rising, Libra Venus, Gemini Mars), I've done a fair share of research and heard a lot of stories. Recently, I've even been playing with the theory that, somehow, we all have been wrongly indoctrinated into thinking that monogamy is a must and most natural.

Ramble aside, I've always been okay with the idea of a significant other pursuing pleasure outside the relationship, provided that permission is asked for. Going behind my back would be disrespectful. Their happiness is my happiness. I want them to experience the most out of life, and I want them to know that they can talk to me about anything without fearing judgement. In fact, the more free I feel in a relationship, the more I will love and return to my lover. Strangely enough, by attaining the green light to play, the less I feel the urge to. I feel more at peace.

+1 "Ditto"...my take on it as well! I must have been off staring at dreamy stars in the sky when they were passing around that "possessive/jealous" bone...lol!