Advice on new Cancer man

I met this Cancer guy - we went on 3 dates in a row and he kept saying how similar we are (and we actually are), how he values smart woman, kept asking questions about me, etc saying that he feels comfortable with me and its very important to him in a woman.

Then for the third date he invited me over for dinner with clear message that there are no hidden intentions. Long story short - I was the one who initiated intimacy and we had the most amazing, passionate and actually sweet sex. A 2hr long marathon, actually. After he invited me to stay over the night, we cuddled and hugged the whole night.

The thing is - he left for 2 week vacation the next day, asking whether I would wait for him, to which I asked - ''Will you come back for me?'', him answering - "I'd liek to". We exchanged a few texts during his flight day and now he is there and its the second day I haven't gotten any messages (although I see him being online from time to time).

Question - I know he is not obligated, but would be nice to drop a casual message, just to keep things ''warm''. Do you think it would be the right move to send him a casual text in a couple of days? If so - what would be best message not to look clingy? I do really want to meet him again, and want to have an approximate clue on whether he still would think the same. As they say - out of sight, out of mind, which Im bit afraid of.. My experience shows, that vacations right after meeting someone, normally end up with guys dissapearing..

It's up to you but i think you should text him. My cancer worries about coming across clingy and needy but i reassure him i like it. Sometimes he still asks if it's ok to call me again later when we get off the phone. We dont text much but we usually speak a few times a day inbetween things we have to do. Everyone has different theories but I believe you set a pattern in a relationship and if you talk everyday in the beginning, it will continue that way. If you play it cool, it might stay that way. So screw the rules and the games and build something without them. Understand he may be busy so if he doesn't answer or respond right away don't jump to conclusions or blow up his phone or start asking why didn't you call me and all that type of stuff. That's what puts you into the ball breaker category.

Just ask him directly. Not confrontational way. I got mine too same scenario. And now we always fighting. We dont have a relationship but i dont know how to handle him, hes giving me a mixed signals.

Right now i give him space. Cause i can tolerate his madness ( moody ways )

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Posted by Capriqueen

Just ask him directly. Not confrontational way. I got mine too same scenario. And now we always fighting. We dont have a relationship but i dont know how to handle him, hes giving me a mixed signals.

Right now i give him space. Cause i can tolerate his madness ( moody ways )

Hee hee! I totally know what you mean! I'm a cancer woman and I can barely understand cancer men. We're just such sensitive people and when we feel emotionally threatened, we just climb right back into our shells and run away. It's quite annoying actually! But I wish you all the luck to you and your cancer man ❤️! if you can tolerate his moody ways, you have a cancer for life ❤️

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I really like him. But we’re on the situation that we dont have a relationship but his starting to hit me.. and he acts that we have but once he asked he deny it to death..

I probably wouldn't. It's good to make us miss you sometimes.